Wanting to change DD's first name WIBU

[F1oridasunshine]

I've NC as this could be potentially outing if we go ahead with it.

Before DD was born me and DP had 2 names; Emily and Meadow. Meadow was by far our preferred name.

We were ridiculed for liking Meadow and told DD could get bullied so called DD Emily despite having reservations.

Although we like the name Emily, it is quite common. We did want something slightly different from a tradition name but thought the name would've grown on us by now but it hasn't and we both feel really disappointed we never stuck with our first choice.

We have discussed changing her name by deedpole to Meadow keeping Emily as a middle name.

Can I ask opinions on this? Are we being silly for considering this or should we just accept our choice and stick with Emily. I really want to change it but DP is worried about it now we have told friends and family her name.

So WWBU to change it?

DD is 15 wks old.

Think of your child applying for jobs, uni etc. Meadow.... it’s ‘interesting’

I also keep wanting to sing ‘went to plough a meadow’ when I hear it. Emily is a classic- beautiful and elegant. And will not be a detriment to any application.

Why are you going to wait for 30years for that name to be ok? In the mean time she will have to endure her childhood with that horrid name. seriously dont do it. It's not a name, it's a word.

@rainingallday
You seem quite ahem over invested there

Your child's name is the first gift you give them, and it has to last them for life. Meadow as a name comes into the category of an unusable gift, IMO. It's a bit like the difference between giving a really good, classic coat (in this case, Emily) and a pretty but flimsy coat that's not waterproof or warm (Meadow). I think the naming of children has become quite narcissistic (meant in a technical/value-neutral sense) - more and more people are giving names they 'love' without really considering the potential perspective of the child for whom the name is a significant part of their identity. Your decision to go for the (very nice but) more 'sensible' Emily was, I think, quite loving to your dd.

@rainingallday "MEADOW will be oh-so-fashionable and 'normal' in 15-20 years time, because it won't"

How do you know?

Your username screams dreary, as is your opinion on names

I know several people who use their middle name, probably for similar reasons as your DD.

I've never heard of anyone called Meadow, but it's lovely. I wouldn't change the BC, just call her Meadow.

I changed my daughter's name at 9 months. There's a thread under baby names about it. I just couldn't get on with her name. Can't explain It. It was a nice name but It wasn't her name. It was very easy to change. I went to the registrar office and filled in a form. They didn't ask for a reason. I had to pay a 40 pound admin charge and for a new birth certificate which they posted to me. Her name on the certificate will always be the original one but there is now an amendment at the bottom. Passports etc will only be in her new name. We've had a few comments. To be fair we've gone for a traditional name so not really any comments about the actual name. Some people preferred her original name but I didn't so I don't care! It's been about a month and it's been very easy to adapt to but mostly because I never used her name. Her older brother who has additional needs has struggled a little but uses a nickname now which is just special to him. Do what is right for you. I'm so glad I did it and felt hugely relieved when it was changed.

My mum changed my sister's name when she was 8 this has got to be emotionally damaging.

this thread is comedy gold

Oh, and the oldest I've known someone change a name was when they started school...there was a build up when the parents used both names, but then dropped the first when speaking.

The earlier the better in my book.

Meadow is lovely

Sorry for the delay in responding, it was my toddler's bedtime. I'm catching up with all you're posts, thankyou for sharing.

@NewName73 yes we love that programme, the actress who played Meadow was lovely. I just hope the attitude doesnt come with the name

Some posters on this thread really showing their age with all the hate for Meadow...

I didnt want to come right out and say it, but I may have alluded to it in my earlier post 😂

@83maddog83 my DM was the one who said DD would get bullied if we called her Meadow. That was until her best friend told her her friend's granddaughter was called Meadow and no one bullied or teased her either. As a pp said, people tended to keep names separate from objects, places even things and I think my DM's generation was very much like that. I think my generation is much less that way inclined (by the names you hear now) and I very much doubt my baby's generation will at all. I dread to think what names they will come up with 😂 and I will be the fuddy duddy!

@Ginger1982 That's ok though, how boring would the world be if we all liked the same name. I'm pretty sure there are people out there who think your name is awful too, and mine... ooooh I've always hated my name 😂😂😂

@CAG12 and your name sounds like CLAGGY - damp, overcast, and sticky.

Just saying.

IDGAF what you - or anyone else thinks of my opinions OR my username. I am entitled to my opinions. So just do one with your snide comments.

@rainingallday 😂😂😂 following this incase you decide to post anymore 😂

Change it. It’s much worst to be calling her something you don’t really like.
@SmellbowSmellbow123 that’s not right, you CAN re-register their births after you marry but you don’t have to.

@F1oridasunshine Nice bit of ageism in your posts there hun.

I have asked 10 different people in the last half hour what they think of the name MEADOW - 5 of them aged between 18 and 30. Once they'd stopped laughing, they said it was one of the daftest names they'd ever heard.

Seems like your mind is already made up, and you are just dead set on mocking and deriding anyone who says it's not a great name.

So why did you even both posting here?

I feel sorry for your baby if you change her name to MEADOW. And I'm not apologising for saying that.

@CAG12

rainingallday 😂😂😂 following this incase you decide to post anymore 😂

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I think someone should put rainingallday in a taxi.

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Do your thing! 15 weeks isn't long, she won't know she was initially called Emily. Meadow isn't awful if you like it- if she wants she can always use her middle name of Emily in later life.

A reminder to whoever was scoffing at a girl named Tyne upthread...

This is exactly why I didn't discuss any name choices with anyone except DH as I didn't want opinions. If it was me I'd probably do it. She's only tiny still. Beautiful names though both of them. ❤️❤️

Either change it or just call her meadow anyway.

I love it, she probably will too