Wanting to change DD's first name WIBU

[F1oridasunshine]

I've NC as this could be potentially outing if we go ahead with it.

Before DD was born me and DP had 2 names; Emily and Meadow. Meadow was by far our preferred name.

We were ridiculed for liking Meadow and told DD could get bullied so called DD Emily despite having reservations.

Although we like the name Emily, it is quite common. We did want something slightly different from a tradition name but thought the name would've grown on us by now but it hasn't and we both feel really disappointed we never stuck with our first choice.

We have discussed changing her name by deedpole to Meadow keeping Emily as a middle name.

Can I ask opinions on this? Are we being silly for considering this or should we just accept our choice and stick with Emily. I really want to change it but DP is worried about it now we have told friends and family her name.

So WWBU to change it?

DD is 15 wks old.

I don't think I'd change it by deed poll just start calling her it, I know of a few people who have done that.
But FWIW, and I'm really sorry, I really do not like the name Meadow at all.

@Catsandchardonnay

If you like the name so much, change your name to it.

I dont think naming your child works like that 😊

Just don’t saddle your kid with it, she’s unlikely to thank you.

And she might be absolutely over the moon. She might hate the name Emily. Who knows.
Besides, I already updated saying we are thinking of keeping her ame as Emily and adding Meadow as her middle name.

@queenqueenqueen

We are going to look into amending her birth certificate, that would be our preference over deed pole. We are in scotland, hopefully it's a simple amendment for us too. Just been so busy today so not had a chance.

But FWIW, and I'm really sorry, I really do not like the name Meadow at all.

That's ok, we know it's a name people either love or hate. I would be worried if every response was that it was awful
Thanks for your honesty tho and taking the time to post

*name

Change it today, now!

She's only 15 weeks, it's great that you've realised and she'll love that name!

Tonight say to your DH, "it's your turn to change meadow "

Love it.

'Emily Meadow' sounds fab!

All the best @F1oridasunshine

Love from Planisphere!

@F1oridasunshine

Meant to quote your post from 19.35... (on my post above!)

DH is now leaning more towards keeping Emily as her first name but adding Meadow as a middle name. It definitely flows better than Meadow Emily. I'm happy with that too, I was worried he was going to say leave it altogether.

I love how my daughter’s insect name was one mocked earlier in this thread. She’d poke your eye out if you did that in front of her, she loves her unusual name, and no one has ever batted an eyelid.

Meadow is lovely, it’s not an ‘all rounder’ name that would suit every child and it does suggest a gentler dreamier child but if you called her that she’d make it her own as she would any other name.

Intrigued at everyone here saying they think of muddy land and cow crap when they think of Meadow.

I honestly think of a bright grassy grassland filled with daisies.

Wonder why that is? I'm in my 20's fyi. Meadow sounds like a nice name to me.

Sorry, cut to the end. Having read half.

Names are so important, such a crucible of identity- that my 18 year old son asked me a few weeks ago about the exact spelling of his middle name.... such was our 'attachment' to it 😂😂

It's not 'out there', it's Rohan. Pre LOTR.

His first name would cause many on here to shrivel up and die of boredom, being an apostle....

Stick with Emily and allow her a blank canvas on which to paint her identity on.

If 'Meadow' isn't that 'out there' where you live, assuming we aren't talking culturally different names, maybe no one conceives of 'All rise for Chief Justice Meadow....', which is s pity.

@Ridusofyourstupidity Your daughter has an INSECT name??? 😮

I am DYING to know what it is! Is it 🦋 ??? Or maybe... 🐞

I'm going to go to bed tonight wondering?

RedPurple-, yes, it's pretty but it isn't multi-purpose. Lovely on a nine year old, preposterous on a 47 year old arresting police officer. Or high court judge.

Intrigued at everyone here saying they think of muddy land and cow crap when they think of Meadow.

I honestly think of a bright grassy grassland filled with daisies.

And poppies and clover.

Daisies and poppies and clover.

Nope.

Meadow is bloody awful.

It's one of those silly names that looks cute on children, sweet on old people but all the years in the middle makes you sound like a hippy eco warrior.

And, OP, 'today's classrooms' are a very varied beast.

We have a massive class divide. I didn't create it, I don't support it, but that doesn't make it disappear.

There are a social class who can call their children Apple, Peaches, Sixtus, Zowie (Duncan...😉) as they float so far above the common lot. They might call a girl 'Meadow'.

Then there are the children of the middle-middle class who are called Sophie, Alexander, Oliver, Thomas, Charlotte, Hannah.

Then you have Tyler, Mason, Britney, Chelsie. Aaaand- maybe the yooneek names. Are these some of the names your DD will be at school with?

I think if you call your DD Meadow, you're either a rockstar or can't imagine her as a high court judge, as that name has zero gravitas. Pretty, yes, grown woman? No.

@Miljah

Hmmm, I agree... As I said a few pages back, it's all well and good giving kids these 'far out' and unusual names, but the kids have to live with them - for life.

All that said @F1oridasunshine said earlier in the evening that she'd discussed it with her DH, and they were probably going to go with 'Emily Meadow.'

Lavender that, to my mind, is the solution.

Personally, I'm not sure 'Meadow' belongs in there at all, but my son's second name is the pointless Rohan!

@Miljah

Rohan is not all bad!

And at least it's his second name!

Fwiw I really like Rohan, though I don’t see how it can be pre LOTR.

Meadow is a beautiful name

Fwiw I really like Rohan, though I don’t see how it can be pre LOTR

Same. I actually really like the name. But it was clearly used post LOTR.

TLOTR was published in 1954 -1955.

18 year olds are definitely not pre-TLOTR!

Lavendar

It is Butterfly. And she’s never been teased or even really had it commented on. The school call her that, it’s her name and it suits her very well, she flits from one thing to another.

People care far less about names than posters on this thread would have others believe and kids really don’t care either. I was teased for everything under the sun, except my name.

And all this crap that she’ll hate it later, there’s a damn good chance she’ll love it! Because it’s her name and she’s made it her own. I’d rather meet a professional with the name ‘Meadow’ rather than another one called ‘Laura’, ‘Sophie’ or ‘Emma’.

I’d rather meet a professional with the name ‘Meadow’ rather than another one called ‘Laura’, ‘Sophie’ or ‘Emma’.

Really? I don't tend to care what anyone's name is, and would certainly never base professional judgements on it

Meadow is pretty bad. Keep it as a middle name.

Clearly I’m not suggesting a ‘Meadow’ would be better at their job.

From an interest point of view however I would be more interested in their name and would likely comment on it. However I like unusual names.