Am I being lazy getting a cleaner?

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Seriously considering getting a cleaner once a week for a couple of hours, mainly for en suite, kitchen , floors maybe change the bedding every 2 weeks?
I work full time leaving the house early and not getting back till after 6 then make the dinner etc and wanting to start boxing classes to loose weight.

Partner up and out at 4am and not back till after 4 - 5 days a week so is understandably knackered!

I just feel lazy because I have no kids.... I do have thyroid disease though so I can lack energy (use most of my reserve at work) and just want to have a bloody clean house but Enjoy my weekend!! can’t keep up

AIBU? Do I just need to stop being lazy?!

I work 30 hours a week, partner works away all week. My cleaner comes every Friday morning and it's sheer bliss when I walk in from work on a Friday afternoon. She only does two hours, but every week I'm amazed at what she does in my daughters shithole bedroom.

I'm not ashamed to admit I kept her secret from my partner for two years too. It made me chuckle when he would wonder how I'd manage work, kids activities, ironing and still have it looking lovely when he got home. I only told him as he came home early one day and almost caught her

Go further- I pay to get my ironing done ! It's the best money I spend every week! No guilt whatsoever. DH insisted we keep getting it done,even after I suggested cutting it out, after reducing my hours at work because she does it so well 😊

Do it! I've recently become a SAHM and there's no way I'm letting my cleaner go. She's amazing and super fast. Having a clean house is just fabulous and is one less thing for me to worry about.

I also have a gardener - all the shoulds disappear - So I can enjoy my lovely house and garden without the perennial guilt.

I have a cleaner. I'm a lone parent, work FT, also caring responsibilities for elderly relative and going through the menopause which has wrecked my energy levels.

Best thing ever. It's a squeeze but it frees up time, she does a better job than me and I really hate cleaning (brought up to believe I never did it right)

Tbh you don't need to justify yourself to anyone- I have had some bitchy comments from friends but who gives a damn? My kids and I benefit.

Oh and my cleaner loves her job and is way better off than me (married). I luffs her even tho I hardly see her.

Getting a cleaner pretty much wiped out my burgeoning mental health crisis. I hadn't realised how much the state of the house and. Or being able to keep on top of it was impacting on me.

Go for it!

It's money well spent and not lazy at all. I find that I do more with a clean house - now I have time to get to the things I used to put off like decluttering and gardening.

How can you be lazy if you have already worked to earn the money to pay for it?

*thisisthend

Ski4130-part time work, and a cleaner? You make the unemployed appear industrious. I assume hubby pays all the bills, whilst you just pop out babies and consider that work?*

Big assumptions there thisistheend, only about 20% of which are correct. So, whilst we’re swapping assumptions, I’m going to assume you’re one of those ‘I’m not being rude but ....’ types who think everyone’s entitled to your (not based on anything other than your own skewed reality) opinions, news flash, you don’t come across as direct, you come across as rude, possibly a bit bitter, maybe a lit jealous. I mean, whilst we’re making assumptions, that’s ok for me to say, right?

@Ski4130 ignore her bless her, she must have a pretty shit life to have to take low blows like that. Good for you, life is too short, live life how you want to.

What I really despise is wankers who disapprove of women paying for domestic services. You are giving someone who wants to earn money the opportunity to do so. You are also overruling the idea that domestic shitwork is something that women have to do, for no money, because that's what women are for and, if they don't want to do it themselves, they don't know their place love their partner/family.

The only time paying for domestic work is 'problematic' is if you underpay your cleaners, or try to get unpaid extra work out of them, or treat them with contempt because they are 'only' cleaners.

Hell no, everyone who works full time should have a cleaner (unless they enjoy doing it themselves!).

Of course not. If you can afford it go for it.

If it helps, think of it as your husband getting a cleaner.
I'm weird about people being in my house, so need to live vicariously through people who don't have such issues!

I worked out I can have the following staff, plus a bit of money for equipment/materials etc, for £10k a year:

Cleaner - 2hpw
Housekeeper - 2hpw
PA - 2hpw
Gardener - 2h per fortnight
Handyman - 2h per fortnight

I have the cleaner so far . That's roughly the order I'd get them in - add the housekeeper to sort beds, grocery deliveries, ironing etc. Then add the PA to sort life admin/manage the other staff. Then the gardener for mowing the lawn and pruning etc. Then the handyman for doing all the odds and sods.

I have this ill thought out theory that decently paid and treated servants could do wonders for employment levels, mental health etc.

For what it's worth, my cleaner is one of the factors in me losing 5st of weight and completing my third and fourth books. Just because I'm not pushing a mop around doesn't make me lazy!

Do it OP!

I have a cleaner as I'm disabled and there's no way i can keep on top of it myself. We have a rule though - that she's coming to clean, not to tidy, so i make sure that DS and DP tidy up after themselves and she does everything else.

I think I'd rather get tid of DP than her!

I don't see why it even matters if it's lazy. Police don't patrol the streets arresting lazy people.

That’s it ladies... I’m getting one !!! Message sent today!

I might get a handyperson; would probably hire a woman though as i do with as many trades as possible. I have a shed that needs dismantling, some wood stores to put up, got loads of little jobs that I can't be arsed to do

The days I had a cleaner were the best years of my life.

DH and I have a cleaner. He works nights on a 4 on/4 off rota and I'm a SAHM. So we're both home during the day, every day. If anyone's lazy it's us but DH has loads of other DIY related jobs to do so hasn't got time to clean. I just don't like it and I'm not very good at it. I was brought up in a house where dusting was a 6 monthly thing, and I can't remember my mum ever cleaning or asking me to do chores. I suppose she must have done though because we didn't live in a shithole by any means! But I've grown up being one of those irritating as fuck people who just don't see dust and everyday dirt

Sorry to hijack OP. Those who have cleaners, do they come round while your home? So if you work full time do they do Saturday or do you WFH one day? Curious as I'd like a cleaner too

Best decision I've ever made. She does a proper clean everytime, we go out (she comes on Saturdays) and by the time we arrive the house is spotless. I love my cleaner and I don't mind spending the money as I'm gaining a few hours every 2 weeks. And if someone thinks I'm lazy, so be it

We're in the process of having the whole house done up, and when every room is finished, I will definitely be getting a cleaner. There are lots of things I would rather do with my time than clean (including watching paint dry, and sitting with a brew doing absolutely nothing), so if I can do that, and offer someone paid, regular work at the same time, what's not to like?

I would only want a couple of hours each week though. Maybe to clean the kitchen and bathroom and hoover all the floors and dust throughout. I can do beds and everything else myself.

I also have no kids and have a cleaner every week for 3 hours and she does my ironing additionally! It means when I do have time off I get to enjoy it! Go for it!