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AIBU?

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Am I being lazy getting a cleaner?

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Cordial11 · 17/10/2019 13:50

Seriously considering getting a cleaner once a week for a couple of hours, mainly for en suite, kitchen , floors maybe change the bedding every 2 weeks?
I work full time leaving the house early and not getting back till after 6 then make the dinner etc and wanting to start boxing classes to loose weight.

Partner up and out at 4am and not back till after 4 - 5 days a week so is understandably knackered!

I just feel lazy because I have no kids.... I do have thyroid disease though so I can lack energy (use most of my reserve at work) and just want to have a bloody clean house but Enjoy my weekend!! can’t keep up

AIBU? Do I just need to stop being lazy?!

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Wexone · 17/10/2019 14:23

@Cordial11 I live in a four Bedroom house she cleans ,main bathroom ensuite and little toilet. Hoovers whole house except two spare rooms. Washs all floors, polishes living room. Cleans kitchen including hob. She used to work in a hotle so bed is made (Not changed) like a hotel. We also have a dog and two cats. Its amzing how dirty the house gets but partner is self employed and works 6 days a week and i commute over an hour ecah way to work plus work about 50 hours some week inclding travle. I pay her €12 an hour which is little above the norm,plus give her something at xmas but as soon as i step in my house i know she has been there. She will also come and do my windows when ask and if i need a deep clean for xmas or something. I am so lucky to have found her she been coming to e about 8 years and she has now told me she moving back home next year, i felt like crying. You stll need to do a bit in between but its managable. Its well worth it though as you have your time back and can do what you want

Cos1ma · 17/10/2019 14:24

Of course it’s not lazy to hire a cleaner. It’s a service, like anything else. Would you feel guilty about hiring decorators or gardeners? What’s the difference? I don’t even work and the cleaner comes trice a week for 4-5 hours at a time (3 DC and multiple cats, plus DH). She is her own boss. She takes the jobs she wants and works part-time. She’s lovely. I don’t expect her to tidy up, do laundry or beds. She does hoovering, mopping, dusting and bathrooms.

Lllot5 · 17/10/2019 14:35

Go for it. Just couple/ three hours a week would make all the difference.
You would be employing someone too.

Fatshedra · 17/10/2019 14:36

My DP often worked away long term - he always had a cleaner and used laundrette for most washing, ate salads and ready meals , he worked long hours and spent time off on hobby and relaxing.
Why do women need permission?

emmetgirl · 17/10/2019 14:44

Why would you even care what anyone thinks? We have a cleaner once a week for 2 hours just to give the kitchen and bathroom a clean and run the vacuum round. It's £20 well spent. I don't care what she or anyone else thinks. She's lovely too by the way!

RightYesButNo · 17/10/2019 14:49

YANBU! You are not being lazy! You work full time, you have thyroid disease, you’re fucking tired, and if you can afford a cleaner and it would raise your quality of life, then it’s no one’s business but yours and your DH’s.

My MIL works with SUPER wealthy clients. Ridiculously wealthy. And she learned from them, even though she’s not wealthy, to never feel guilty for paying other people to do the things that free up your time. No millionaire feels badly about having a cleaner, because she’s rather spend her time doing something other than cleaning and that’s all there is to it. No guilt in the equation at all. No worries about looking lazy!

But do be careful getting people’s opinions. Honestly, there was someone on here earlier judging a poster who had a cleaner even though they said they were going to be having surgery soon So some people would judge you even if you had every reason in the world to have a cleaner. Which means... you might as well do what YOU want.

CaptainMyCaptain · 17/10/2019 14:55

You can spend your money on whatever you want. We still have a cleaner a couple of hours a week although I have retired. We had her before I finished work and my husband doesn't assume the housework is my job now.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 17/10/2019 15:13

I would, if you can afford it
Spare time to spend relaxing is worth every penny
Don't feel guilty, Life's about balance

Tojigornot · 17/10/2019 15:19

How did you all find your cleaners? Do you use agencies, companies or self-employed ones? Are there any pros and cons with the different options?

I need one!

CaptainMyCaptain · 17/10/2019 15:42

Mine was a cleaner where I worked. I took her on for my elderly dad, then we had her ourselves. She was known and trusted and dbs checked because she was employed by the council.

user1487194234 · 17/10/2019 19:37

Absolutely no guilt here
Work full time
Have a cleaner 2x a week
Pay her a bit more than going rate and pay her if we are on holiday
Don't really give a fuck what anyone thinks
Thought my mum might disapprove bu actually she was all for it

thisisthend · 17/10/2019 19:39

Absolutely. You should clean your home yourself. It is exceptionally lazy to employ someone to do basic chores, unless you are severely disabled or impaired.

reginafelangee · 17/10/2019 19:41

I have a cleaner.

I'm not lazy. I'm busy and I'd rather pay someone to do this to use my free time for other things.

reginafelangee · 17/10/2019 19:44

Absolutely. You should clean your home yourself. It is exceptionally lazy to employ someone to do basic chores, unless you are severely disabled or impaired*.

Lol*

Knittedfairies · 17/10/2019 19:46

It is exceptionally lazy to employ someone to do basic chores, unless you are severely disabled or impaired

Why? If the OP can afford it, I don't see the issue; it's also providing a job for someone.

reginafelangee · 17/10/2019 19:50

@thisisthend

how do you feel about paying window cleaners, or someone to clean out the gutters, powerwash the driveway, etc?

Bluerussian · 17/10/2019 19:53

Not at all lazy, very sensible in my opinion. It means you won't have to worry about certain household chores and can do something else or just relax.

Zerrin13 · 17/10/2019 19:53

I think it's quite outrageous to have a cleaner! Surely that's just for royalty and very rich woman like on that Housewives of Cheshire programme? Don't you enjoy cleaning like most woman do?

thisisthend · 17/10/2019 19:55

regina I'd do it myself, unless the windows were impossible to reach and I'd have to risk my own safety. Independence and resourcefulness are a virtue, regardless of your financial means.

Userzzzzz · 17/10/2019 19:56

My life is so much better since we got a cleaner. I love her!

dreichsky · 17/10/2019 19:57

Absolutely. You should clean your home yourself. It is exceptionally lazy to employ someone to do basic chores, unless you are severely disabled or impaired.

Genius 😂

Bluerussian · 17/10/2019 20:02

Zerrin I hate housework, always have. Much easier to pay someone else to do it.

CaptainMyCaptain · 17/10/2019 20:03

Absolutely. You should clean your home yourself. It is exceptionally lazy to employ someone to do basic chores, unless you are severely disabled or impaired.

What about window cleaners, car washes, decorators, garage mechanics, kitchen fitters, I could go on. There are plenty of things we could do for ourselves if we tried but paying other people to do them provides jobs. I like to cook my own food (rather than buy ready made microwave meals or take-aways) and I make my own clothes rather than buy ready made, but that's my choice.

HattieBugatti · 17/10/2019 20:07

YANBU

HattieBugatti · 17/10/2019 20:07

@Cordial11

YANBU to get a cleaner and you are NOT lazy. Most women are so overworked that I judge you for only getting one for 2 hours a week!!! Treat yourself, have one for 4 or 5 hours a week.

I have never had a cleaner, but don't judge those who have one.

As a few peeps have said, everyone outsources SOMEthing... be it gardening, fixing or maintaining the car, decorating/painting the house, cleaning the windows, fixing their PC/gas boiler/cooker etc.... So what's the difference in chucking 2 or 3 tenners a week at a cleaner?

@thisisthend

You should clean your home yourself. It is exceptionally lazy to employ someone to do basic chores, unless you are severely disabled or impaired.

Ba ha ha ha ha Are you here all week?

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