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Should I have shared my garlic bread?

345 replies

RobynsMama · 16/10/2019 18:52

Went to Nando’s with some pals, we all like doing this because we all order what we want separately and there’s no faffing with splitting the bill.

Our orders came, and I ordered garlic bread as my side. I love garlic bread, and I love the bread they put their garlic butter on and it’s my fave thing.

Friends meal arrives, she’s ordered chips and coleslaw as her side, looks forlornly over at my perfect garlic bread and says “I wish I’d ordered the garlic bread now”. Someone else pipes up with “oh you’ll know for next time.” And we all
Laughed.

So I just eat my meal and enjoy my (two slices of) garlic bread. She’s got an absolute face on at the end of the meal and I asked her what was up and she said to me “you could’ve offered me one of your slices of garlic bread instead of gutsing them both”.

I wish I was more mature and I wish that comment hadn’t hurt me but I’m in the middle of a weight loss journey (still treating myself to sinful garlic bread sometimes) I have to say it really shocked me and I’ve been thinking about it ever since (i know iabu because it’s just a comment but still). She made me feel like a right gutsy git.

If it was something like an Indian meal I’d have had no problem sharing bits of everything because that’s the kind of meal it is but with something like Nando’s surely you just pick what you want? Was I right to eat both my pieces of garlic bread or should I have offered to share?

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DoctorTwo · 17/10/2019 00:21

@RobynsMama my instant response would have been "get a big dog up yer".

Mephisto · 17/10/2019 00:57

No, don't check on her and be a doormat! She was rude, let her come to you.

TheNestedIf · 17/10/2019 00:57

I hope you sighed heavily and garlicly at her.

TheNestedIf · 17/10/2019 01:05

I disagree with Mephisto. I think you should check on her. Make sure you eat another couple of cloves beforehand.

WiddlinDiddlin · 17/10/2019 01:17

Rude, nasty and considering she presumably ate her TWO sides as well as wanting half of your side... bloody two faced.

Nothing wrong at all in ordering your food and a side and eating it, it's what its for.

If she wanted garlic bread she could have gone and got garlic bread.

I was fat shamed for years and I won't tolerate it, she'd have been told to wind her fucking neck in if she'd done that to me!

QueSera · 17/10/2019 09:25

There was nothing stopping her from going back and ordering her own plate of garlic bread! You were right to eat the food you ordered.

Dieu · 17/10/2019 09:30

I'm a greedy person, and I love my food. However, to not have offered to break off a small piece is beyond embarrassing. I wouldn't have wanted to share either (in fact, I hate sharing food) but it's just what adults do in this situation Confused

lifecouldbeadream · 17/10/2019 09:34

I would share a side- but when it’s been discussed before hand- or offer a few chips if there were more than I could eat. But to just decide she wants some of your side then sulk about it...... CF...... you wouldn’t do it to someone else would you...... so she’s the unreasonable one

Smelborp · 17/10/2019 09:39

If you do check on her, I would let her know that she has been really rude. You don’t treat friends like that.

JaffaCakeGal · 17/10/2019 09:41

YANBU. If she wanted it she should have got it.

2 pieces isn't for sharing!

Making a note to try garlic bread if I go to Nandos again!

TheNestedIf · 17/10/2019 09:51

I'm a greedy person, and I love my food. However, to not have offered to break off a small piece is beyond embarrassing. I wouldn't have wanted to share either (in fact, I hate sharing food) but it's just what adults do in this situation

Adults make up their mind about what they want to eat and either stick to it or order more rather than trying to take food off of other people.

I don't share food. I ordered what I've got because I want it. I didn't order what you've got because I don't want it. And if you were expecting to eat mine without even offering any of the thing I don't even want, we wouldn't be going out again.

GrumpyHoonMain · 17/10/2019 09:53

Honestly I would have told her she was a greedy mare to her face for having 2 sides and still wanting some of mine. You only get treated like shit by people if you allow it OP

KUGA · 17/10/2019 09:54

Why on earth didn`t she order some for herself ?.
Stupid git.

mediumbrownmug · 17/10/2019 09:58

On what planet would it be unreasonable for you to eat the meal you paid for? She was being greedy to eat her whole meal and want some of yours, too. For free, and without sharing. Who actually does that? Confused

Lilyannarose · 17/10/2019 10:02

I would have been offended too.
Why on earth would she expect you to give her a slice?
I just don't get where she is coming from with that at all.
She shouldn't have made you feel like that.
Maybe she's jealous of your weight loss?
If she wanted some that badly, she could have got up and ordered her own.
It's not as though it was the type of meal you would share out as you say.
Don't let it worry you. You did nothing wrong!

Brefugee · 17/10/2019 10:03

I don’t like garlic bread (I know - I’m weird)

YABU!

ExcitedForFuture · 17/10/2019 10:07

So what if she was having a bad day, I hate seeing this trotted out as an excuse for being rude.

I wouldn't have shared if I'd had 10 pieces. My food. Order your own.

Kanga83 · 17/10/2019 10:15

I wouldn't share either. I also order extra so I could order halloumi and a side salad and make it into a burger with some perinaise and chips in it. Bloody gorgeous.

81Byerley · 17/10/2019 10:16

What was stopping her ordering some when she saw yours?

CupoTeap · 17/10/2019 10:26

You mentioned you are currently losing weight, for her to basically call you greedy for wanting to eat your one side is disgusting.

Is she jealous of your weight loss?

Norma27 · 17/10/2019 11:14

I've never had a Nandos but have just looked at the menu and the veggie options sound lovely. I really want to go there now!
Yanbu not wanting to share.

taytosandwich · 17/10/2019 11:16

Send her a garlic baguette and tell her to sit on it.

timshelthechoice · 17/10/2019 11:16

Tell her to go chong a dong Grin.

Zebraaa · 17/10/2019 11:39

@taytosandwich 😂

OldEvilOwl · 17/10/2019 11:53

How did you reply OP?