To wear leggings to DD's University Graduation?

[OneToughMudderFudder]

Big row this morning as DD wants me to wear a bloody evening dress like she is .

I'd planned to wear my new knee high brown boots, camel knee length coat with a black polo neck and leggings underneath.

DH (who is wearing a suit) and DD are horrified. It's a daytime ceremony.

Who's BU?

Usually dresses for mums /suit and suits for dads.
Would not wear leggings and polo neck, it’s not an afternoon at a museum ..

It's a celebration, a one off so I think a more dressy occasion, especially if you end up going out to lunch afterwards.

Also you'll want some photos taken with her.

Wear what you like! I'm surprised she's wearing an evening dress, me and most of my friends wore smart trousers/ skirt and a blouse or shirt. But that was in 2006, maybe times have moved on lol

Let your daughter pick - leggings just no, and it’s her day, her achievement. You don’t want her to remember you embarrassing her.

Could you wear like a long line top or a tunic over the leggings for a more smart/casual look? I am not sure what you mean by a polo neck?

Leggings get a bad rep.

Leggings with a pair of boots and a nice top, tunic, dress etc sounds quite nice.

Just don’t wear see through leggings 🤣

An evening dress! That's hilarious!

what's so hilarious? Evening dress means different things for different people anyway, no one is talking about a ball gown.

I think this is a joke, no? Surely no one realises leggings aren’t appropriate for a daughter’s graduation and decides to wear suede over the knee boots instead.

@Bouledeneige OP clarified she just meant 'smart dress that would be appropriate for an evening out', not what most people refer to as an 'evening dress'.

I wore leggings and and a long to my DDS graduation. She didn't tell me it was inappropriate. Lots of parents there in all different types of clothes. No one cares

Ditch the polo neck and leggings and replace them with a dress and tights, job done. For the love of God, don’t wear over the knee boots, you’ll look like a principal boy.

I teach at a university and go to graduations every year. The students usually wear a mixture of everything from party dresses with massive heels to office suits with wedding/occasion wear in the middle.
Its also fairly common for them to have hair/nails etc done. Its changed a lot in the last 10-15 years. The advice is still to wear something with a collar to attach the gown, but most girls don't.
Parents usually dress up, men in suits, women smart dresses as you would for a wedding etc.

Your daughter will have seen pictures of other people's graduations from last year, know what her friends are wearing and will be going off that.

Of course your outfit is fine.

It's your DD will look overdressed in an evening dress in the day time. I wore jeans and a clean black top at my graduation and no-one was dressed up at all, or certainly not in more than smart casual day wear. The graduates will have gowns on! No-one knows what you are wearing underneath.

Nobody will be looking at you.

Evening dress will not fly- for a start you need something for the hood to attach to, e.g. something with buttons.

On the basis that if there was a poll it would be 98% YABU, I don't think we'll see the OP again.

That sounds a bit casual. A winter dress with tights and boots would be better. It is a dressy occasion. Think toned down wedding.

@shearwater when was that? Even when I graduated (15 years ago) there was a smart dress code, jeans were definitely not allowed. I would have been tempted to wear them also.

Leggings get a bad rep.

No they don't! There's not a rap bad enough for them! 😂

I'm starting a 'down with leggings' campaign if anyone would care to join me. 🤪

champagne and canopies mmm delicious canopies

I love a canopie, all that canvas!

Over the knee boots that you can’t walk in?! I think your original outfit idea sounded better.
I can’t see the issue in just putting on a nice day dress and smart shoes or normal length boots, or trousers and a nice top.
It sounds a bit like you’re just trying to be awkward different

I don't think that your leggings will be noticed that much,under the rest of your attire really. I attended my son's graduation many years ago,and I, and most of the other women wore dresses,men in suits etc. People deemed that it was a special event,and dressed a bit more special than they normally would. But it was in the days,before leggings were mainstream.

But I don't suppose it matters what you wear really, as it's a day for the students,and their achievements.

Thanks walk! In my (very London) book the real horror is to be over-dressed rather than under-dressed!

To me leggings are not a substitute for trousers. So your outfit sounds fine providing you add a skirt.

This. Leggings without a skirt or dress over the top is unacceptable in any circumstance except possibly heading to the gym.

Stick a skirt over the original outfit choice and you're fine.

At DDs graduation this summer I’d say most people were dressed as if they were going to a wedding. Nice dresses or trouser outfits for the Mums and suits (mixture of ties or open collar) for the Dads.

DH wore his newest suit (he has several as he always wears a suit for work) with a shirt & tie. I wore a dress from Hobbs that I bought for a wedding last summer. DS wore a dressy black jumpsuit under her robes with “statement” footwear as that’s her “thing”.

It is a special and formal occasion.