To wear leggings to DD's University Graduation?

[OneToughMudderFudder]

Big row this morning as DD wants me to wear a bloody evening dress like she is .

I'd planned to wear my new knee high brown boots, camel knee length coat with a black polo neck and leggings underneath.

DH (who is wearing a suit) and DD are horrified. It's a daytime ceremony.

Who's BU?

[justintimberlakesfishwife]

The OP didn't come back, did she? @OneToughMudderFudder what did you wear in the end?

[shearwater]

Each to their own, but I was considerably more amused by the "fashion" advice on this thread, and image conjured up of hundreds of Hyacinth Buckets in their pastel Debenhams mother of the bride outfits and matching hat at graduation ceremonies.

[shearwater]

And leggings were around in the early 90s - they were not fashionable in the late 90s, but anyone who hadn't graduated from the university of AIBU with first class honours in stupidity and literal mindedness would know I meant an equivalent outfit back then.

[Bouledeneige]

I like stylish and chic but I don't think over smart wedding attire is cool.

I bet OP wasn't going to look like she'd just got out of bed and was smoking a fag outside the launderette. If her clothes were going to be good quality then I bet she'd have actually looked a lot smarter and more chic than most people. Each to their own. Everyone should be comfortable and go as themselves to a family event. Not be pressured to over dress because everyone else was.

[lilabet2]

It's best to wear something pretty/smart and semi-formal so not an evening dress and not leggings! A dress with a jacket or a skirt with a blouse or smart trouser suit would be suitable!

[SpiderCharlotte]

@shearwater You didn't sound 'considerably amused' by anything on this thread tbh. You seemed to be taking it all terribly seriously.

[shearwater]

I'll make sure I use a little grinning emoji next time while sniping at another poster to demonstrate my amusement more clearly.

[SpiderCharlotte]

Ah come on @shearwater don't pretend this comment was made in jest, that's a little disingenuous.

What a lot of petit bourgeois fuss over clothes

If that isn't sniping, well ...

[Monty27]

@shearwater really? Gosh. How come?

[Sweetpea55]

It show more respect for your daughters achievement if you dressed up a bit.
A pair of leggings doesn't cut it for me.
No wonder the poor girl is embarrassed.

[PapayaCoconut]

I disagree that it is all about the student. In all likelihood the parents have provided a significant amount of emotional, practical and financial support so I think they should get some say.

In my case, that's about as far from the truth as you can get. Maybe that's why my mother's leggings pissed me off

[DeeCeeCherry]

I disagree that it is all about the student. In all likelihood the parents have provided a significant amount of emotional, practical and financial support so I think they should get some say

Imagine actually voicing that to your DC, particularly in relation to them celebrating an achievement.

Me me me....

[DeathStare]

I know you said (many pages ago) that you would now not wear the leggings, but please please also don't wear the over-the-knee boots you suggested. To be honest they are probably even more inappropriate than the leggings. Dress as if you were going to job interview for a professional, office-based job.

[dreichsky]

Although at least OP's dm is going. I didn't get a first so my DM wasn't bothered about attending, so I didn't go at all.
I took DH's family to my next one.

[LaLoba]

OP’s outfit sounds like it could be very elegant. Yes MN, I think leggings dressed the right way can be elegant. Bite me.
The idea of someone making demands on how her mum dresses bothers me. Pretty controlling, maybe because she’s hyped up about the day, but still.

[AlexaAmbidextra]

The idea of someone making demands on how her mum dresses bothers me. Pretty controlling, maybe because she’s hyped up about the day, but still.

Not really. Considering mum was intending to wear leggings/over the knee boots perhaps she has form for dressing inappropriately and embarrassing her daughter.

[LaLoba]

Knee high is not over the knee. Read the OP again.

[Peridot1]

Yes LaLoba but OP late posted that she found a pair of over the knee boots too.

[yabadabadontdoit]

I've found some high heeled suede over the knee boots which I thought were DD's but she says are mine confused. Good knows when I bought them. Lucky I cleared out the understairs cupboard yesterday! I guess I'll wear them with a skirt and tights. Hopefully there won't be much walking.
LaLoba read the update again.

[yabadabadontdoit]

Oops bold fail

[angieloumc]

Bite me? You're classy.
And it's hardly controlling to want her mother to dress appropriately.

[OooErMissus]

Yes MN, I think leggings dressed the right way can be elegant.

No. They can't.

There is not a single outfit in existence that could not be infinitely improved by replacing the leggings with something else.

One thing leggings cannot, and never will be, is 'elegant'.

[SpiderCharlotte]

'Bite me'? Who actually says nonsense like this?

[LaLoba]

LaLoba read the update again.

Oops. Well enjoy yourselves ladies, I’m sure I’ve given you plenty to work with. 😂

[angieloumc]

LaLoba what a bizarre statement.