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To wear leggings to DD's University Graduation?

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OneToughMudderFudder · 15/10/2019 10:17

Big row this morning as DD wants me to wear a bloody evening dress like she is Hmm.

I'd planned to wear my new knee high brown boots, camel knee length coat with a black polo neck and leggings underneath.

DH (who is wearing a suit) and DD are horrified. It's a daytime ceremony.

Who's BU?

OP posts:
justintimberlakesfishwife · 17/10/2019 11:13

The OP didn't come back, did she? @OneToughMudderFudder what did you wear in the end?

shearwater · 17/10/2019 22:56

Each to their own, but I was considerably more amused by the "fashion" advice on this thread, and image conjured up of hundreds of Hyacinth Buckets in their pastel Debenhams mother of the bride outfits and matching hat at graduation ceremonies.

shearwater · 17/10/2019 23:04

And leggings were around in the early 90s - they were not fashionable in the late 90s, but anyone who hadn't graduated from the university of AIBU with first class honours in stupidity and literal mindedness would know I meant an equivalent outfit back then.

Bouledeneige · 17/10/2019 23:17

I like stylish and chic but I don't think over smart wedding attire is cool.

I bet OP wasn't going to look like she'd just got out of bed and was smoking a fag outside the launderette. If her clothes were going to be good quality then I bet she'd have actually looked a lot smarter and more chic than most people. Each to their own. Everyone should be comfortable and go as themselves to a family event. Not be pressured to over dress because everyone else was.

lilabet2 · 17/10/2019 23:50

It's best to wear something pretty/smart and semi-formal so not an evening dress and not leggings! A dress with a jacket or a skirt with a blouse or smart trouser suit would be suitable!

SpiderCharlotte · 17/10/2019 23:54

@shearwater You didn't sound 'considerably amused' by anything on this thread tbh. You seemed to be taking it all terribly seriously. Grin

shearwater · 18/10/2019 00:12

I'll make sure I use a little grinning emoji next time while sniping at another poster to demonstrate my amusement more clearly.

SpiderCharlotte · 18/10/2019 00:29

Ah come on @shearwater don't pretend this comment was made in jest, that's a little disingenuous.

What a lot of petit bourgeois fuss over clothes

If that isn't sniping, well ...

Monty27 · 18/10/2019 02:20

@shearwater really? Gosh. How come? Confused

Sweetpea55 · 18/10/2019 05:13

It show more respect for your daughters achievement if you dressed up a bit.
A pair of leggings doesn't cut it for me.
No wonder the poor girl is embarrassed.

PapayaCoconut · 18/10/2019 05:20

I disagree that it is all about the student. In all likelihood the parents have provided a significant amount of emotional, practical and financial support so I think they should get some say.

In my case, that's about as far from the truth as you can get. Maybe that's why my mother's leggings pissed me off

DeeCeeCherry · 18/10/2019 06:58

I disagree that it is all about the student. In all likelihood the parents have provided a significant amount of emotional, practical and financial support so I think they should get some say

Imagine actually voicing that to your DC, particularly in relation to them celebrating an achievement.

Me me me....

DeathStare · 18/10/2019 07:54

I know you said (many pages ago) that you would now not wear the leggings, but please please also don't wear the over-the-knee boots you suggested. To be honest they are probably even more inappropriate than the leggings. Dress as if you were going to job interview for a professional, office-based job.

dreichsky · 18/10/2019 13:08

Although at least OP's dm is going. I didn't get a first so my DM wasn't bothered about attending, so I didn't go at all.
I took DH's family to my next one.

LaLoba · 18/10/2019 13:55

OP’s outfit sounds like it could be very elegant. Yes MN, I think leggings dressed the right way can be elegant. Bite me.
The idea of someone making demands on how her mum dresses bothers me. Pretty controlling, maybe because she’s hyped up about the day, but still.

AlexaAmbidextra · 18/10/2019 14:52

The idea of someone making demands on how her mum dresses bothers me. Pretty controlling, maybe because she’s hyped up about the day, but still.

Not really. Considering mum was intending to wear leggings/over the knee boots perhaps she has form for dressing inappropriately and embarrassing her daughter.

LaLoba · 18/10/2019 15:00

Knee high is not over the knee. Read the OP again.

Peridot1 · 18/10/2019 15:15

Yes LaLoba but OP late posted that she found a pair of over the knee boots too.

yabadabadontdoit · 18/10/2019 15:16

I've found some high heeled suede over the knee boots which I thought were DD's but she says are mine confused. Good knows when I bought them. Lucky I cleared out the understairs cupboard yesterday! I guess I'll wear them with a skirt and tights. Hopefully there won't be much walking.
LaLoba read the update again.

yabadabadontdoit · 18/10/2019 15:17

Oops bold fail

angieloumc · 18/10/2019 17:37

Bite me? You're classy.
And it's hardly controlling to want her mother to dress appropriately.

OooErMissus · 18/10/2019 19:03

Yes MN, I think leggings dressed the right way can be elegant.

No. They can't.

There is not a single outfit in existence that could not be infinitely improved by replacing the leggings with something else.

One thing leggings cannot, and never will be, is 'elegant'. Grin

SpiderCharlotte · 19/10/2019 05:47

'Bite me'? Who actually says nonsense like this? GrinGrinGrin

LaLoba · 19/10/2019 11:56

LaLoba read the update again.

Oops. Well enjoy yourselves ladies, I’m sure I’ve given you plenty to work with. 😂

angieloumc · 19/10/2019 12:28

LaLoba what a bizarre statement.

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