To wear leggings to DD's University Graduation?

[OneToughMudderFudder]

Big row this morning as DD wants me to wear a bloody evening dress like she is .

I'd planned to wear my new knee high brown boots, camel knee length coat with a black polo neck and leggings underneath.

DH (who is wearing a suit) and DD are horrified. It's a daytime ceremony.

Who's BU?

I’m a University lecturer who has been to countless graduations. Your outfit sounds absolutely fine. At most a smart dress or blouse and trousers but definitely not an evening dress

I’m picturing something like this www.justthedesign.com/150-casual-outfits-to-try-for-fall-when-you-have-nothing-to-wear/attachment/casual-outfits-fall-142/ but will knee boots. I really can’t see the issue

I would dress to match my family personally. However, I went to a nice private uni and it was about 50/50. Some were formal others were dressy casual or business casual it’s sometimes called.

Evening dress!! 🤣🤣

I had to pin part of my robes to my top so something substantial was required!!

Dont think any if the audience dressed up so what you suggest is fine

Never an evening dress for daytime

I think Yabu. I wouldn’t be comfortable in leggings if my dh was wearing a suit.

YABU. A graduation is a big event, you will feel under dressed if you wear that, what about when you take your coat off? Leggings and a polo when everyone else is in in Sunday best will look ridiculous

It doesn't matter who is right or wrong: it's HER day not yours. If this is what she wants why not make her day complete?

It's literally 2 hours out of your life and the graduation photos will be lovely.... they put them in frames and everything.

I went to my DD graduation in July and everyone was dressed up so you won't look out of place.

I was so hungover at my graduation, I think I was probably still well over the drink drive limit, but I still managed to pull on a smart dress and shoes. Make an effort, she's made the effort to get through a degree, the last you can do is wear actual trousers.

Come on love make an effort it's your child's graduation!

Yabu. Leggings are not smart enough for a graduation. Dress, skirt, or smart trousers are the norm.

I really didn't think it was that posh of an event!
It’s a very important event, especially for your daughter who has worked for this day for years. Treat her and the event with the respect it they deserve. I go to many graduations, (for professional reasons), and I would not dream of going in anything less than smart.

Where whatever your clever daughter wants you to. Be proud..., and make her happy, its her day.

*wear
I'm not as clever as you're daughter! 🤣

I would be really disappointed if my mother had worn leggings to my graduation ceremony. It's a formal event.

Please dont embarrassed your child on her special day by dressing like worzel you tramp. Nice every day outfit but not nice for an occasion like this, if not for your familys embarrassed please do it for your daughter. I dont give a shit that I'm opening myself up for a mumsnet style hiding.

Surely you can put the leggings away for one day,for your daughter.

You are.
Your daughter has worked very hard for this and has expressed her desire for you to dress up a bit.
Leggings do not fit that brief.
Your DH is wearing a suit - lovely.
Look like you care and make a bit of an effort and wear a dress, skirt or trousers. But not bloody leggings.

I think what you planned to wear sounds nice and could actually look really classy.
But that said, I did wear a dress & jacket to my (then) boyfriends graduation...And I NEVER wear dresses (would actually be much more comfortable in the outfit you describe) but I felt that a dress & jacket was the way to go....but that was 25+ years ago.

So glad I had sons. They were glad I was there, never mind what I was wearing. A dress in both cases, but honestly. Tell your daughter to get a grip. She will be in a graduation gown. You will be in dark auditorium. It’s meant to be a celebration of their achievement, not a fashion show.

Been to loads of graduation ceremonies (late husband was an academic) and parents who turn up in evening/wedding gear look like prats! Smart day wear is appropriate, but I have seen absolutely everything over the years! Nobody seems to bat an eyelid! Could you substitute smart trousers for the leggings, as your DD & DH seem to object? Or you could wear a longer tunic over leggings/tights.

YABU. I don't really like leggings in any context, but they definitely aren't suitable for a graduation. My graduation was a fairly formal event: pretty much all the family and friends were dressed up in suits and smart day dresses etc, apart from one member of my family who turned up in shorts and a vest . It was embarrassing tbh; they said they felt uncomfortable being around everyone else who was dressed up and I said "ah it doesn't matter," but privately I was a little bit hurt and annoyed that they hadn't made a bit more of an effort with their outfit. I worked really hard for my masters degree, and it's disappointing that I don't have any photos of my whole family on the day that I actually like cos they look odd with everyone else dressed up. I know it doesn't really matter in the long run, but it was a really important day to me.

Anyway, rant over. Your daughter has worked hard, she probably wants some nice photos of the day, can you not go shopping with her and make a day of it? Or maybe just swap your leggings for a nice midi skirt?

@Lovely13 my graduation had a drinks reception, then the degree ceremony, then an afternoon tea, so relatives weren't just sitting in a dark auditorium.

Not an evening dress, but a skirt or something over your leggings- where's the harm?

YWBU (though your dd's choice is also Unreasonable)

I'm glad you said 9 pages ago that you would change your mind.
Am fascinated by your ascertation that your dd is wearing an evening dress though. That seems as out of place as your suggested outfit.