Partner off on his jolly.....

[4ormore]

So Saturday my partner left for his 4 week away this year fishing..
leaving myself alone with our 4 children.
Aibu to be annoyed, we run our own business so work/life is stressful for him.
I just feel pisses off really, the kids miss him, I miss him, I just don’t like it.

No they dont OP

It is really bad

Hopefully he’ll fall out of the boat and drown

No 🤣

@PoshNachosButJustDoritos
What seems odd?

I’m starting to feel like he avoids us,
For instance last weekend he was off Sunday, and i took the two younger ones ones to soft play alone.

They are 14,12,4,2

Presumably he turns up smelling of dead fish afterwards too

Situation seems a bit too dire to be true! What do you plan to do about this then?

He is a piss taking piece of shit. I'd leave him. Nobody would dare to treat me like that.

@Quartz2208
I’m just struggling to find the balance of how much is acceptable, when does it become a piss take

@PoshNachosButJustDoritos,

Jeez, it’s shitty, but he literally has a way of making me feel like it’s reasonable and normal!

It's already fucking one OP! That's what everyone's saying and you're still asking.

That's why I cant believe this is real. Do you not think this is unacceptable? If you think your partner is avoiding you, is that okay to you?

@PoshNachosButJustDoritos
To be honest I really don’t know,
I just feel fed up, but also to a point where I can’t be bothered to argue it out, I’m exhausted and drained

why are you and the children so clingy? hes gone fishing for a week.
yes parenting is tedious and you too should get some time away, so organize yourself a little something.
i've honestly never met a man that gets overly invested in their children's lives or wives that they "miss" them when away for a few days.
sorry i find this neediness very immature even for the four year old.

but he literally has a way of making me feel like it’s reasonable and normal

How?

I genuinely do believe he’s fishing.
I don’t have reason to suspect anything else.

I think I’m trying to figure out if this is something I should have a issue with or weather it’s something I should let go

So am i right in thinking he actually only works 4 days a week? How many days do you work, on your business?

Time to take stock of the relationship!

@fallfallfall
Thanks for a different opinion,
This is my point, does the issue lay with me and am I being unfair.

Bit much to say a 4 year old is immature for missing their dad though

@fallfallfall I think everyone should be overly invested in their children

@Tottie
So the previous 48hours fishing a week have stopped,
A long weekend a month was agreed

i've honestly never met a man that gets overly invested in their children's lives or wives that they "miss" them when away for a few days.

Possibly the stupidest thing I've ever read on mn.

@jumbojelly
Agreed

How very Brokeback Mountain of him

fallfallfall you have never met a man invested in family life - that is awfully sad

A weekend every now and then fine, nights out no problem, work travel cant be avoided.

Actively taking yourself out of family life for weeks at a time is not on