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Telling DH off for watching inappropriate programme on TV

92 replies

Lin33 · 06/10/2019 18:09

So the story goes - I came back (2pm) with our 9yo DD after weekend activity and found my DH watching a programme on TV about stripper auditions for their job. Topples women on TV and all.
I got so mad! Took DD away to another room, got her busy with arts and crafts. And then came back and told DH off big time. AMBU? Is it ok to expose kids to such things? Am I exaggerating?

OP posts:
CormacMcLaggen · 06/10/2019 18:10

I think you might be over reacting.

NewStart571 · 06/10/2019 18:12

I don’t think you are over reacting. That is not appropriate for a 9yo.

Winterfellismyhome · 06/10/2019 18:12

But he wasn't watching it with DD in the house

00100001 · 06/10/2019 18:12

Well... It's hardly " exposing kids to such things" if he was watching it home alone and you happened the come back and see a flash of it... Confused

It's not like he sat her down and watched it with her.

FriedasCarLoad · 06/10/2019 18:12

I think you were right to be angry.

And I’d find it very unattractive that he was watching it too.

PotteringAlong · 06/10/2019 18:13

He was in the house by himself? How was he exposing children to it?! Hmm

Ariadnepersephonecloud · 06/10/2019 18:13

Not over reacting. We are careful what we watch on TV around the kids.

multiplemum3 · 06/10/2019 18:14

She wasn't even in the house though?

Shoxfordian · 06/10/2019 18:14

He was alone watching it though
Yabu

TidyDancer · 06/10/2019 18:14

DD wasn't in the house when he was watching it though, you just brought her home in the middle of it.

Unless he was insistent on watching it with her then you're massively overreacting.

HappyHammy · 06/10/2019 18:15

Bit of an over reaction. Was it on daytime TV or some sort of catch up.

littlepaddypaws · 06/10/2019 18:15

watching a tv show in the family home while you and dd were out but then walked in on. was it a documentary ? told him off, are you his mother ?

adaline · 06/10/2019 18:15

But she wasn't home! Unless you warned him you were on your way back, how was he supposed to know?!

Marshmallow91 · 06/10/2019 18:16

A simple "can you change the channel please" would have sufficed. Breasts are nothing to be embarrassed about, but I certainly get why you are annoyed in the context of what the program was about.

Breasts are something children see from birth, and if she didn't see enough so that she knew they were being sexualised in an inappropriate manner, for example seeing them fondle them etc then I wouldn't have an issue because it was only a glimpse

adaline · 06/10/2019 18:16

I don’t think you are over reacting. That is not appropriate for a 9yo

I agree @NewStart571, but the 9yo wasn't home!

BertrandRussell · 06/10/2019 18:17

Hmm. I think it’s entirely inappropriate and neither he nor she should be watching it. But the “getting her busy with arts and crafts” made me laugh. And I am always a bit Hmm about one adult “telling off” another adult.

Figgygal · 06/10/2019 18:17

He was watching it on his own so I don't get your anger

If he'd been wanking over it when you walked in then you could have been a bit cross

Fishcakey · 06/10/2019 18:17

Give him a break OP!

Passthecherrycoke · 06/10/2019 18:19

Was he erm... knocking one out?

BarbaraStrozzi · 06/10/2019 18:19

At 2.00pm? And a dad who's fine with his 9 year old being introduced to the idea of the sex industry. Sounds a bit unlikely.

But on the off chance this is on the level, of course you're not being unreasonable. 9 year olds do not need to be exposed to the idea that sad pervy men pay money to lech over women who are sufficiently financially desperate they'll gyrate for sad pervy men to get next week's rent money.

NewStart571 · 06/10/2019 18:19

@adaline - sorry I misunderstood!

NewStart571 · 06/10/2019 18:19
Blush
BIWI · 06/10/2019 18:19
Hmm
BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 06/10/2019 18:20

I don’t understand- the child wasn’t there. He’s not watching it around the child.

Is the issue the child seeing boobs or that your husband was looking at boobs?

BarbaraStrozzi · 06/10/2019 18:20

Sorry, misunderstood - he was watching it when you came back - that's a meh whatever.