Telling DH off for watching inappropriate programme on TV

[Lin33]

So the story goes - I came back (2pm) with our 9yo DD after weekend activity and found my DH watching a programme on TV about stripper auditions for their job. Topples women on TV and all.
I got so mad! Took DD away to another room, got her busy with arts and crafts. And then came back and told DH off big time. AMBU? Is it ok to expose kids to such things? Am I exaggerating?

“I don't get the problem. It was on at 2pm, so it can't have been that bad!”

Look into on demand TV- it’ll blow your mind!

If DD asks about what was on the TV say, "I am not sure darling, go ask Daddy".

Haha now you know what he watches when you're out

Dear God

If it's broadcast (not catchup or Netflix/Amazon/etc), then airing at 2pm it's not going to be anything mega-explicit.

I’d be grossed out he was watching it tbh

He wasn’t exposing your daughter to anything. End of story really.

Also want to know what channel

I’d be grossed out he was watching it tbh envy

Why? I would watch something like that. It's interesting.

Dear God. Wind them up and watch them go ...

Plenty of decent shows have strippers in them, like the Sopranos etc. You seem quite puritanical.

I don't understand why it wasn't just a case of:
"ahem, you might want to turn that off and finish watching it when dd is in bed"
DH: "oops"
And then you both had a little giggle and got on with your lives

Major over reaction. And you can't tell your dh off, he is an adult.

But it’s still inappropriate for him to be watching it whether or not the child was too

You are not the television police, nor is the OP

Wait - you have issue with your partner watching a program about strippers when he's home alone??
Please evaluate how controlling that is and don't feel bad about it. Its just curiosity about the sex industry. (which help humanise people who work in them)

Top tip for marriage @Lin33

Don’t “tell (DH) off”.

1. He’s not a child
2. He’s not your child
3. If you behave like his mum, he’ll think you are just like his mum ie ready to stick around unconditionally no matter what crap he pulls so it actually reinforces the stuff you find hard to live with
4. He’s an adult too and is going to have different standards, preferences, ideas and plans...you negotiate these, you don’t “tell him off”

So maybe today, “I’m going to turn this off, I don’t think this should stay on with DC home. What do you think?”

Ultimately, it is all about communication, negotiation, compromise...while being assertive enough to clearly and calmly outline the deal breakers, he might have some too. Like being “told off big time” as though he were a naughty 14 year knocking one out to the Kay’s catalogue.

I'd also like to know what program this was lmao

I'll watch it when my daughter is in bed.

I have gone through my TV listings for today at 2pm - nothing !!

And googling revealed 'auditions' of, ahem, a more hard core nature than stripping. which I assume isn't what we're talking about.

YABVU. You have absolutely no right to tell your DH off (or any other adult for that matter).

He didn’t expose your daughter to anything and he wasn’t doing anything wrong.

You should demonstrate to your daughter a healthy marriage, not one where you’re trying to control your partner and treat them like a child.