Telling DH off for watching inappropriate programme on TV

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So the story goes - I came back (2pm) with our 9yo DD after weekend activity and found my DH watching a programme on TV about stripper auditions for their job. Topples women on TV and all.
I got so mad! Took DD away to another room, got her busy with arts and crafts. And then came back and told DH off big time. AMBU? Is it ok to expose kids to such things? Am I exaggerating?

Probably not appropriate with a 9 year old, and in any case I suspect that his watching was not for research purposes, so agree with your forceful opinion.

Would people really do the “silly ladies” routine with a 9 year old?

What a creep

Stripper auditions?

Wank fodder

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OP, I'd have been really pissed off because a) he didn't instantly turn it off when she entered the room and b) he was watching something about the exploitation of women for the male gaze (yes, I am that un-fun kind of feminist) and I have no tolerance for that shit.

Geez. YABU.
It’s not like he had pornhub up and didn’t switch it off the second you got home. It’s a documentary. Not for a 9yr old to watch, but seeing a glimpse is no big deal. Less of a big deal than seeing blood and gore imho. I’d hit the ceiling if you told me off for watching a documentary. You’re not his mom.

It's not like it was hardcore porn. A bit of nudity shouldn't be an issue for kids of any age- women go topless on the beach whenever we're on holiday, kids don't bat an eyelid. Men will look of course they will.

At 9 (almost 10?) she's not too far off sex education OP.

What channel shows bare tits at 2pm? Or had he searched for something tit-based on Netflix or something?

Either way, I don't think I'd be bothered about a nine-year-old being aware of the existence of strippers, and it wasn't like he was watching it when you and your daughter were home; you happened to come in when it was on. I assume he had his trousers on.

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) he was watching something about the exploitation of women for the male gaze

Most documentaries make that point...how the sex industry is pure exploitation. I think men should watch them because it exposes the sordid underbelly. It’s educational.

Fucking HELL

Yes YABU

I've had all sorts on the TV and not noticed while I'm on my laptop. He might not have been actually watching it but it's hardly a hanging offence if he was. Not porn as such.

I'm a straight woman but might find a documentary programme about the life of strippers interesting. I'd wouldn't watch with a child around though.

"Daddy thinks human exploitation is an amusing spectator sport. Talk to him if you want to know more". There you are, a reply for if she does ask you about it.

I would probably say turn it off, but I can’t say I’d get uptight about it. If my DD caught sight I’d say that some people dance top less for money, at which point she’d look at me oddly and make a hasty exit.

He should have switched it off when he heard the door, as with any other adult viewing. If I watch anything not PG when I know the kids could be about, even if they're out, I'm vigilant that I might have to switch it off quickly. Children are the priority, not tits. It looks like he needed to be reminded of that.

I don't get why most people think OP overreacted? He knew the dc was at an activity, presumably knew roughly when they would be back, heard them come in, but didn't switch it off. Totally inappropriate and I would also have had words with him about it!

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It’s not brilliant that he didn’t switch it off straight away but I do think you overreacted a smidge.

So long as she didn’t hear anything compromising it could be a moment (if your DD does bring it up) for you to teach her about body confidence. After all we live in a society where men can go topless on a hot day but women can’t, so now she’s seen a topless woman you can steer the conversation in that direction? Rather than commenting that they’re silly women dancing around topless? I obviously don’t know your DD so you can probably gauge best what approach to take, but I’d probably go this way if my DD were to see this sort of thing when she’s 9 😊

We had benny hill and carry on films on tv during the day when we were younger and i turned out alright (i think).

Would people really do the “silly ladies” routine with a 9 year old?
I am fairly sure I knew what a stripper was well before 9, thanks to that awful "Patricia the stripper" song. I asked my dad what a stripper was, he said some women take off their clothes in front of men as a job, explanation done. I thought it was a weird and funny thing to do.
I managed to not consider it as a career prospect, all is well.

What StroppyWoman said.

YANBU.

He wasn't exposing your DD to anything though. Stop being so melodramatic

I don't get the problem. It was on at 2pm, so it can't have been that bad!

Urgh depressing.
Yes he should have turned it off.
It's more than a bit sad that that's what he chooses to watch when you're out. Bleurgh. And totally not ok with a child around. It would totally make me lose respect if my DH did that.

Some people are a leetle more tolerant than I'd be. YANBU.

"And if she does - i better think of a good. reply"

Or.... Get Dad to answer?

"Mummy, what were those women doing on telly?"
"Oh I don't know darling, why don't you ask dad, he was watching it?"