To ask for a man’s opinion please?

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I’m about 40, slim but not skinny and facially ‘decent’.

I have got to the age where I could easily start worrying about new wrinkles, greying hair and the unforgiving force of gravity.

My natural approach would be to:

• stay slim
• avoid grey hair
• dress in a way that flatters my figure

But then to not obsess about it. To leave the house with a smile and a positive, confident attitude. Is this enough to still be regarded as attractive? I don’t want to nip and tuck myself like so many people I know. But my fear is that people will compare me to these younger-looking, smoother models.

I’m a happy person, full of joy and confidence but is that enough in today’s world?

Thanks for your thoughts.

dontgobaconmyheart,
Couldn’t of put it better myself.
Why do you care what a “male “ thinks OP ?
Be yourself and love yourself.

Oh OP.

The only thing you need is happiness and self confidence. I kinda get the impression from your original post that you need to work on these.

And for what its worth, 40 year olds who are having work done to look 25 do not look 25. They (generally) dont look great. Growing old gracefully and accepting what it brings is the most beautiful because its the most real.

Isn't everyone suffering to some extent with the same angst? I think it's the media. It's very much in the interest of a lot of companies for people to think like this... and, OMG, we do... could there be some sort of connection?

Where do you live and who are these women? I literally know no one with a boob job or loads of filler. Maybe don’t go for shallow men!

But my fear is that people will compare me to these younger-looking, smoother models.

By ‘people’, do you mean the hairy boss you have the gushy crush on?

Stop eating sugar and all refined carbs.
Use retinol.
Wear facial patches in place of botox, every night.
Drink lots of water.
Eat lots of good fats and protein.
Exercise but do not run.
Wear good quality clothes and shoes.
Smile!

All of the above will help any forty year old to look better than those a decade younger who have opted to rely on freezing and filling their faces.

I’m sorry I come across as lacking happiness and confidence. Funnily it couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m very happy and I do feel confident. I didn’t want to sound arrogant in my OP but I’m an attractive, intelligent woman. I’m just wondering if, when looks fade, if I continue to be happy and confident, is this attractive to the group of people I wish to attract (men) for a relationship.

A man isn’t going to have a relationship with a woman he doesn’t find physically attractive.

"Stop eating sugar and all refined carbs"

No thanks

Stop eating sugar and all refined carbs.
Use retinol.
Wear facial patches in place of botox, every night.

Orrrrrr

Just don't give a shit and have a doughnut

How old are you? 12!! You are seriously comparing a woman in her 20’s to what she looks like in what is probably her 70’s. Shock horror she has wrinkles and saggy skin!!

Just be grateful that you are having the opportunity to start looking older. So many people never get that chance.

Where do you live and who are these women? I literally know no one with a boob job or loads of filler.
I’m in the South East

Ffs. Smile, be interesting and interested in others, listen well and be yourself. Meeting people has nothing to do with looks, everything to do with personality and sociability

What's wrong with running????

Ffs. Smile, be interesting and interested in others, listen well and be yourself. Meeting people has nothing to do with looks, everything to do with personality and sociability
Yes, I do all of that. I understand that personality is very important.

Exercise but do not run

Hahaha this is ridiculous! Run as fast as you can, running is excellent. Run instead of caring what men think of you.

I guess this wasn’t an appropriate question to ask on MN. Sorry.

Ya think?

You can be as attractive as you like but if you are empty inside - barring the odd asinine comment - then you have nothing. If you're set on attracting the kind of man who cares only for how you look then you are never going to be happy. To me you sound empty inside.

Just don't give a shit and have a doughnut

Best advice so far

Bloody hell!

Just get thee to a dating website. See what happens.

Just be grateful that you are having the opportunity to start looking older. So many people never get that chance.
I am grateful. I have lost several friends and I always celebrate every birthday with that in mind. That wasn’t really my question though.

Surely as long as you look "normal" it's about you character. I feel like someone's done a number on you.

emsyj37,
I must of missed this about running 😬 .

Stop eating sugar and all refined carbs.
Use retinol.
Wear facial patches in place of botox, every night.
Drink lots of water.
Eat lots of good fats and protein.
Exercise but do not run.
Wear good quality clothes and shoes.
Smile!

Where on earth is this list from?

*Orrrrrr

Just don't give a shit and have a doughnut*

Whatever works for you

Honestly though at thirty six giving up carbs has been a revelation, my skin is amazing! And I've always loved steak, curry, dark chocolate and double cream so its not exactly a hardship.
We all get to pick our poison, carbs aren't mine.

Is this to attract your crush you were gushing about on your other thread?

seriously just be yourself, looks are important but personality, kindness and the ability to compromise is the key to a lasting and happy relationship.

Looks are important but It’s very subjective so I’d bet most people would be attractive to someone