To not let 16 year old go away for weekend

[67bird]

Hi, feeling a little bit unfair, my 16 year old ds, great kid, always does as he told, he goes to sixth form, he went for a part time job interview on Tuesday was told he may get a call Friday or Monday if he got the job and would need to do a 3 hour trial shift. On Wednesday he asks if he can go away with his friends family for the weekend to visit their relatives, we told him only if he didn’t get a trial shift this weekend, he agreed to this. Yesterday he came out of school and had a missed call from the job, he tried to call back but the person he needed was in a meeting, while waiting for him to call back we reiterated that if he offers him a shift he can’t go, he totally agreed as if he did the trial this weekend he could start work next week. Then he gets the phone call, he comes into us and says he’s got a trial next weekend, I said oh I wonder why not this weekend, he said he did ask me to come in tomorrow but I said I couldn’t as I’m going away for the weekend at that we got cross at him and said he’s not going away now and made him cancel being picked up. My question AIBU for stopping him from going away

Wow i think you were really mean, he is 16 not 6!!!

Ridiculous.

He agreed a different date and dealt with it, but that still wasn't good enough.

I do have some sympathy op. It is hard to step back and let them make their own choices / mistakes. But it’s healthier for both of you if you can. It’s good that you’ve cleared the air with him, and you accept YWBU, so going forward it’s maybe time to let him figure these things out for himself.

Reminds me of when I got my nurse training , my dad was very dismissive.about it. Point been 30 years later I still don’t understand why he couldn’t congratulate me. I have never commented on it but never forgot.

I don’t need to reiterate what others have said but I hope in Rl you have congratulated him.

He weaseled round your agreement, didn't he? He put his pleasure ahead of the job at the very first opportunity. He told the potential be employer a half-truth. If he really wanted the job, he would have committed to the trial shift as he had agreed to do.

I suspect someone keener is doing this weekend's trial and getting the job. If the next call he gets is to say don't bother, we've filled the vacancy, he will only have himself to blame.

And when you say these friends are giving alcohol to an underage child, I'd say you're right to prevent him going regardless of the other arrangement. Every year round my way we lose a teenager or two walking drunkenly off a cliff in the dark.

He may have a hard lesson to learn this weekend, but at least he's safe.

YANBU

The employer should have treated your son with more consideration but didn't because he's just a kid.

Eh? How on earth is offering someone a job, asking if they can start this weekend, then agreeing to postpone to next weekend - at the new employee's own request! - being inconsiderate?

@TheOliphantintheRoom - APOLOGIES!

I have just caught up with your specs-back-on-post at Sat 05-Oct-19 08:47:41.
That'll teach me to RTFT before mouthing off, huh?

Sorry m'dear

Sorry didnt mean to offend. Its just in my area the youth are bone idol.
Again very sorry.