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important man jobs and mummy stresses trying to balance day to day

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SpagBowl99 · 02/10/2019 17:25

SO just checked about how him and our family chuckle at me losing my belongings round the house.

Tried to explain that before getting together in my home: my filing was up to date, my washing and ironing was done, everything had it's place etc, unlike his house.

Also pointed out that I am juggling everything while he picks up important man jobs one my one.

SO's reaction...he sat there and ignored me/didn't comment at all. Had arms crossed and pursed lips.

Then said I was going off on one. ...

Is it like this in anyone else's house? Feel like separating from him so he can pick up all the non man jobs and understand (HW, kiddie shuffling, washing, birthday...etc).

OP posts:
Ellisandra · 02/10/2019 17:30

SO? You mean your boyfriend?
Why haven’t you divided the responsibilities more fairly?

Morgan12 · 02/10/2019 17:32

Eh

Shoxfordian · 02/10/2019 17:33

Why don't you think its his job to do housework?

Nacknick · 02/10/2019 17:34

You what?

SalmonScale · 02/10/2019 17:36

I think OP meant Important Man Jobs ie he picks and chooses those jobs he feels are worthy of his important status as Man.

Give him an ultimatum and stick to it.

PawPawNoodle · 02/10/2019 17:36

What language is this in?

Expressedways · 02/10/2019 17:37

YABVU for saying ‘man jobs’ and ‘non man jobs’. Is it 1950?! I couldn’t follow the rest of your post.

Butchyrestingface · 02/10/2019 17:40

You typing on your phone, OP?

From what I can gather, you may not be being unreasonable.

Babdoc · 02/10/2019 17:40

“What language is this in?”
An obscure 1950’s dialect of Pre-feminist, I think, Polpotnoodle!

Ellisandra · 02/10/2019 17:42

I think - I hope - OP is being sarcastic about her boyfriend thinking he does the important jobs.

Doesn’t explain why she’s accepted that division of labour though!!

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SpagBowl99 · 02/10/2019 17:44

Sorry for typos! Meant to say:

Partner just chuckling about how him and our dc chuckle at me losing my belongings round the house.

Tried to explain that before getting together with him, in my house I was always up to date with everything: my filing was up to date, my washing and ironing was done, everything had it's place etc, unlike his house.

Also pointed out that I am juggling everything while he picks up important man jobs one by one.

His reaction:..He sat there and ignored me/didn't comment at all. Had arms crossed and pursed lips.

Then said I was going off on one. ...

Is it like this in anyone else's house? I feel like separating from him so he can pick up all the non man jobs and understand how overwhelming it all is (HW, kiddie shuffling, washing, birthday...etc).

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Original poster
SpagBowl99 · 02/10/2019 17:45

PS We both work full-time.

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Original poster
SpagBowl99 · 02/10/2019 17:46

Yes typing on my phone with teeny keyboard 😆

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Weebitawks · 02/10/2019 17:46

What is a "man job"?

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SpagBowl99 · 02/10/2019 17:48

A man job is an important job that a man picks up in preference to any of the day to day tasks.

It could be writing an email to someone, or rushing of to a DIY store to purchase something for a DIY job.

Kids hw, meals, tidying, filing are all less important than man jobs 😜

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SpagBowl99 · 02/10/2019 17:49

Apologies 'rushing off to' not 'rushing of to'

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PurpleWithRed · 02/10/2019 17:50

what do you mean 'man jobs'? you both work full time and are both parents, you and he should be sharing work equally. you can both do any tasks without accidentally changing sex.

Reallybadidea · 02/10/2019 17:51

I thought it was perfectly straightforward to understand what the OP meant.

YANBU OP. Remember that he is choosing to be a lazy pig though. Nothing to do with being a man.

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SpagBowl99 · 02/10/2019 17:52

When a man prioritises a man job then the women invariably gets to bed later as she picks up more of the lesser day to day tasks (washing up, last minute HW and sandwich making for the next day).

... So the woman ends up frigging tired and the man is feeling v.pleased as he has ticked off the v.important job and got himself to bed...then proceeds to tell wife off for not getting to bed sooner....

OP posts:
Ellisandra · 02/10/2019 17:53

And who calls these man jobs?
You or him?
I gave you the benefit of the doubt before, but now I’m not sure.
Why do you let him cherry pick jobs?

Original poster
SpagBowl99 · 02/10/2019 17:53

Nb Partner doesn't call them v.important man jobs. It's a term my mum and I use!

OP posts:
Ellisandra · 02/10/2019 17:54

Right, and when he tells you off, do you not tell him to fuck off?

Ellisandra · 02/10/2019 17:54

Please god tell me that these sandwiches are at least for the kids and not for him?

TheAlternativeTentacle · 02/10/2019 17:56

She means the pitiful excuses of jobs that the manly man picks up, whilst leaving her to do all the actual back breaking work.

It's not hard to work out.

BananaSpanner · 02/10/2019 17:58

I get what you mean OP. Yes, there are plenty of households like it.

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