I've posted some threads about this in the past and I am still no wiser as to what to do
Previous threads here and here
Long story short my son is an outgoing, boisterous boy. He is disciplined as and when it is required. He can be loud but gets on well with 99% of children.
With the execption of this one boy. He's quiet. Not boisterous. Seems quite sensitive.
I am an anxious wreck after this morning.
DS told F last week to come away from the doors - I had told my son the same that day/day before and so DS was just parrotting what I said.
I told him, off for bossing F about and he would come in his own time.
This morning DS shouted for F to come over to where we (me, friend 1, friend 2(F's mum) and another child) were stood. He shouted F a few seconds after F's mum had shouted him. I again told him not to shout.
I took DS to near the door, with the aim of breaking them up and getting some space. F and his mum also came near the door. Another child was playing with them and F said to me that DS had spat at the other child. I had been watching DS and said to F "DS didn't spit F. He doesn't even know what spitting is" F's mum called F to her and told him off for telling tales and shouldnt make things up.
I didn't hear what was said or happened a few moments later but F's mum called F to her, said she was fed up of it every morning and if it's not one of them it's the other. I think DS had told F to come away from the door again and I said not to shout at F and that he needed to be kind.
Even now, an hour and a half after drop off, I feel sick with anxiety over this.
I am fed up of this same shit each morning. I have to be there when the doors open as I need to shoot off for work. I have to be at the car parking area at 8.20 to get a space because otherwise I am late for work.
I have kept DS in the car later. Have tried to take him to he other side of the playground.
I am trying as much as I can to do my best.
All i can think is to keep them apart/ But they both want to play with the other child. Both play nicely with the other child. F does seem sensitive and will sulk if he doesn't win a race. Or if DS plays with the other child. When DS sees F walk past the car they wave at each other and F begs DS to come out of the car and DS begs to go.
I genuinely do not know what to do anymore. And I feel sick with anxity.
Apart from keeping them apart - which is difficult in a playground with 3 kids that "want" to play together when we all get there - what can I do?
My Mum says to just not let it get to me and to keep them apart but it's the same shit every day and I've had enough.
F's Mum is nice but I am scared of her and her reactions. She has said in the past she doesn't want it to get "violent" and has hinted that my son is a bully.