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AIBU to ask for the slatterns of MN to come forward?

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MarianaMoatedGrange · 28/09/2019 11:05

Inspired by another thread. I am a self confessed slattern. Would rather read a book or browse MN than clean to a rota. I wash dishes, do laundry and am clean in person, but happily coexist with cobwebs until they get quite bad (adds to the Victorian Gothic of my home is my reasoning).

I will have a cleaning frenzy every couple of weeks or so then subside back into lassitude, draped becomingly on my sofa with a book or phone (aka slobbing out in leisure wear or PJs with chocolate to hand).

DC grown into adulthood with various views on cleaning. Oh, I lived briefly with one man when young, then never again so it was and is entirely up to me how I lived. DC taught how to clean/tidy/cook, which they did age appropriately. One enjoys cleaning.

Levels of squalor never enough to incite interest from authorities - just vaguely smug looks from my cleaner, tidier friends Grin

So, any more of you rota free, as-and-when sisters out there?

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Pinkarsedfly · 28/09/2019 12:40

I do little and not very often. I see no moral superiority in knackering myself and having shiny skirting boards.

There are certain flash points that I’ll spend ten minutes wiping - work surfaces, windowsills, coffee table - because I have a black dog who moulds for England.

The toilets are always clean and the laundry is under control thanks to dh

DH does the bed changing too. It’s far too exhausting.

Life really is too short to spend it on such a thankless, repetitive task. I love the darker evenings when you can turn the fairy lights on and hide the cobwebs.

TheSilveryPussycat · 28/09/2019 12:40

Better a slattern than a slob.

I am both.

Pinkarsedfly · 28/09/2019 12:40

The dog moults, thank you autocorrect.

Although, at his age he’s probably moulding too.

trinitybleu · 28/09/2019 12:42

We also have a gardener, window cleaner, and an oven cleaning man on a contract who also does the dishwasher.

Dontcarewhatimdoing · 28/09/2019 12:42

The thing is cleaning is a pointless exercise, as soon as its done some bugger comes along and messes it all up again. I used to spend a lot of time looking at my grubby house feeling guilty, but now we have a cleaner once a week which at least keeps things reasonable.

doskant · 28/09/2019 12:42

@TwattingDog I so need one of those. Which brands do people recommend? They ain’t cheap but I am so I need something that’ll deal with the dog and people hair, as well as all the @$&#ing sand and dust this place collects without breaking the bank...?

doskant · 28/09/2019 12:46

Awks. I can’t blame autocorrect for my “malting” dog and humans, but I can blame a chronic lack of sleep and a very memorable milkshake to had earlier today.

Mercedes519 · 28/09/2019 12:46

Oh my cleaner... DH actually suggested that we don’t need it because the house was clean enough. No darling that’s WHY the house is clean.

My DCs are teenagers now but I still buy baby wipes. What a revelation they were back in the day. I firmly contend that there is nothing that can’t be cleaned with a baby wipe.

TwattingDog · 28/09/2019 12:47

@doskant Mine is a Eufy. I love him. He's amazing. We call him Ro-sham for a neighbour's cat, sadly deceased, who used to appear through a window and do his inspection rounds of the house before letting himself out again...!

Eufy BoostIQ RoboVac 11S (Slim), Robot Vacuum Cleaner, Super-Thin, 1300Pa Strong Suction, Quiet, Self-Charging Robotic Vacuum Cleaner, Cleans Hard Floors to Medium-Pile Carpets www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07BFP9TNH/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_WE0JDb1BETBN8?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

I must have got it on a special offer, as I definitely paid £170. Maybe wait for a few days, and see what they do for Black Friday etc?

MarianaMoatedGrange · 28/09/2019 12:47

Our logo should be a 50s style depiction of a sexy minx in a negligee, smoking a cig in a long holder a la Hepburn in Breakfast At Tiffany's.

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MrsLeclerc · 28/09/2019 12:48

We have workmen coming this week who need access to all the radiators so I actually need to tidy every room! Sad

Does anyone else have a miscellaneous pile that gets hidden in whichever room visitors won’t be in?! I actually have to find homes for all this stuff now. It includes; embroidery thread, fabric scissors, baby sun hats that I don’t know whether to keep or donate, random paperwork and a rucksack used for swimming a month ago.

On the plus side I did find some treasures in the chaos. A brand new bedding set still in packaging, my ‘lost’ sunglasses, DC’s other shoe, a dummy and DH’s Star Wars slippers!

CilantroChili · 28/09/2019 12:48

Housework!!!! Ahhhh........
I took a career break after Dc2 was born, SAHM for 3+ years.

Somehow, in my head, I thought that Home Is My Job Now Every every meal HAD to be cooked from scratch/floors washed hoovered every day/school run/new bf baby. Baking etc.

Most of these things are outside of my skill set.
H would come home to absolute scenes of chaos with me practically weeping over a half finished complicated recipe... the place upside down... I even bought a sewing machine ffs. No clue how to use it. 🙄
I was a monster.

It was a form of madness I think, looking back.
Everyone was extremely relieved when I went back to work and our slightly grimy disorder quietly re-established itself 😊

My lovely mum (you could conduct open-heart surgery from her floors) kindly said (afterward) “another good idea gone wrong” 😆

TwattingDog · 28/09/2019 12:48

We have a husky-cross and a long haired cat, so the house is FULL of animal fur. This thing copes with it amazingly. I dread to think how much crap there was floating about before we got him.

LakieLady · 28/09/2019 12:49

Wooohooo, a group of people who would be welcome in my house even if I hadn't spent 48 hours grafting to make it presentable!

Cobwebs reach a level that Miss Havisham would feel at home with before I feel the need to deal with them. Hoovering is something that happens at most twice in a week, and after an hour looks like I hadn't bothered (thanks, dog). The surfaces are cluttered, but beneath the clutter lies a generous layer of dust. My windows are filthy (I blame the rain - we seem to have unusually dirty rain here).

Sinks (kitchen and bathroom), toilet, bath are cleaned fairly regularly. I spray the bathroom tiles after a shower, while cleaning my teeth with the other hand. The hob is usually pretty clean, unless DP has cooked, in which case it looks like Jackson Pollock has been round. The worktops where we prep food get wiped daily, but the areas of worktop that just serve as a repository for clutter (post, odd things that I find on the floor and have no idea if they're important or not and general shite) get a cursory wipe every month or two if they're lucky. The last time I moved the sofa to hoover behind it, I found 3 bras, covered in dust and cobwebs, that had been removed for comfort and slipped down the back, where they'd been lying for maybe a year or more.

Our bedroom and the spare room are complete tips. Piles of clothes and books, hair products, skin stuff, pills, orthotic insoles and gawd knows what else clutter every surface.

The spare room is particularly dreadful, it looks like it's been ransacked by burglars. Following a serious attack of rummaging, the airing cupboard appears to have been a victim of disembowelling. I can't even shut the door without giving it a serious sorting out, and I can't sort it out because there's nowhere to put the contents while I do it.

I used to be tidy. I used to do the whole house on a Saturday morning, every week. I don't honestly know why it's no longer possible and suspect it's because I no longer live on my own. The house is simply too small to put everything away. DP's motorbike gear takes up an amount of space equivalent to a fair sized wardrobe. He never throws anything away: till receipts, scribbled notes and lists, even chocolate wrappers are just left lying around. His idea of tidying up the kitchen table is to scoop all the detritus into his arms and dump it in the spare room.

I sometimes watch the tv ads for fitted wardrobes and wonder if they're the solution, but then I realise that I'd still have to actually tidy up and I know that I'd rather read or surf the net. I just don't care enough to be bothered.

My late parents were hoarders. I'm starting to understand how it happens. If I outlive DP, they'll find my body, half-eaten by a hungry dog, under a pile of books, old Guardians. discarded clothes and dirty mugs.

Bananashake · 28/09/2019 12:57

Nobody (I hope) ever says on their deathbed I wished I had hoovered more

LakieLady · 28/09/2019 12:58

I did once fail Commodore's Rounds for not dusting my light bulb at HMS Drake

Shock

I refuse to believe that it's safe to dust a light bulb!

Oblomov19 · 28/09/2019 13:00

I only really clean when someone, ie my mum is coming for lunch.

I do bare minimum : dishwasher daily obviously. Clothes washing at least twice a week. Hoovering once a week. That's it. Ds1 cleans the bathroom. Ds2 does the downstairs toilet.

katewhinesalot · 28/09/2019 13:01

I'm a semi slattern. It's surface tidy and clean but I'll take short cuts and do the least I can get away with.
I never move furniture when I hoover for example, because DH cracks before I feel I need to do it. It's not as perfect as he would like it but It's good enough for me.
Life is too short to spend hours cleaning.

LakieLady · 28/09/2019 13:04

I see no moral superiority in knackering myself and having shiny skirting boards.

Quite!

And what are skirting boards actually for? If they didn't exist, would anything dreadful happen?

I often think they're just a dustrap, and another bloody thing to wipe spilt wine tea from.

MaudBaileysGreenTurban · 28/09/2019 13:04

The last time I moved the sofa to hoover behind it, I found 3 bras, covered in dust and cobwebs, that had been removed for comfort and slipped down the back, where they'd been lying for maybe a year or more

I love this Grin. I feel less guilty about having to fish several cobwebby socks out from behind the washing machine the other week now!

Mammyloveswine · 28/09/2019 13:10

Sometimes I panic that I'll need an ambulance or die suddenly and people will see what an actual shittip my bedroom is... downstairs is by no means spotless but if someone called round unexpectedly I wouldn't worry too much.

The kids rooms are always tidy etc.

My room is like a hoarders paradise some days! My wardrobes are full of bags of clothes that no longer fit me/the kids/my husband along with random shite that I've stuffed in there over the years.

I have one small wardrobe with the clothes I actually wear...

MarianaMoatedGrange · 28/09/2019 13:10

LakieLady Three bras found? Bonus! I once found my ladle in a former sofa!

Yes I get how hoarding happens too. I do have a clear out seasonally as it's a worry, and I don't want to subject my DC to wading through years of junk on my demise. I have a hatred of going through paperwork but not long ago cleared out from 2016 onwards. Odd, the stuff you find.

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BuckingFrolics · 28/09/2019 13:12

Lakie at last, a slatternly approach that meets my own :)

There are some people who claim an unkempt home and cavalier attitude to cleaning, but what they really mean is they hoover once a day not twice a day and don't always move the furniture to get at the accumulated gremlin-shit, and feel guilty because they don't put used items straight in the dishwasher. You however are meeting, if not exceeding, my own standards of cleaning indolence.

I've found that, rather like clothes left to steep on the floor - any floor - a mug considered used yesterday and left where it was last put down, will be clean enough to use today. That failing to replace a bathroom bulb results - tada! - in a far cleaner looking bathroom. And when the house becomes full, the car can be used to store an incredible volume of detritus and shopping simply by making use of those oft overlooked spaces, the foot wells.

I am clearly coming down with a cold, as I went to sleep convinced I would clean my house today. Fortunately I must have fought the flu off overnight.

LloydColeandtheCoconuts · 28/09/2019 13:14

My DP calls me a Slob! I try my best but if I'm honest I just can't be arsed! When I do clean the place is sparkling because nothing gets ignored. I think that's the issue, I used to spend so long cleaning that it meant I was missing out on life GrinGrin not because I'm a lazy cow. Anyway we have a lovely cleaner now. And thankfully me and DP make sure toilet bowl is skid free Halo I can't speak for 5 year old DS though...Grin

TroysMammy · 28/09/2019 13:14

I love cobwebs. Flies spread disease, spiders eat flies.

I've been fur free for just over 3 years but I've now got a kitten and will soon be seeing fur on everything again.

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