Things you can’t actually say

[coffeeandrainbows]

I haven’t seen a thread like this in a while and I have to let this out before I scream:

S - you are selfish, immature, lazy and a bad mum to your kid. I can’t believe our relationship has come to this. I feel like I have always been there for you and done so much for you. I’m almost happy that you’ve done what you did as I have realised just how little effort you put into our relationship and how little it must mean to you. You only care about yourself and you always have.

D - you enabling fuck, I see you now and I will never be fooled again. You are just as bad as the two of them, if not worse.

That feels better, anyone else holding something in?

L - F U bitch. Cannot wait until the day you get your comeuppance for being a bully at work, lying and manipulating things to make lives difficult, so so difficult, in life changing ways. Karma is a bitch and you’re owed big slap in the face from Karma.

FIL - I don't think you've left enough room for future names on your new tattoo. There's only space for two, i might want another and your other son seems to want a football team. But it's permanent and no going back now!

M - you're so good at saying things heed doing and that other members of the family need to step up - but a huge part of the problem is YOU and the mess you make and when you DO attempt to do any housework, it's never a complete job and never done to a decent standard. It's exhausting dealing with the mess you and the kids make, specially when I can't manage certain aspects of housework and have always said I'll do some of the grimmer jobs in return for others doing the jobs I can't do, daily - but you don't do the jobs daily or even at all sometimes, it's all put on me. I'm sick of living in a cesspit!

N - you really aren't all that. You have put me down my entire life and now we aren't kids anymore and have our own families, you try and make contact with me every few weeks but our side of your family are all on eggshells with you and your wife, I always worry about what to say because nothing is ever right.

MrsE - I've NO idea WTF we ever did to you to make you hate me so much, but you're a nasty person who hasn't the people skills to be in your line of employment, and many people wish you'd resign so we felt comfortable.

New Neighbour.. ffs stop screaming at your kids and hooting your car horn Every.Single.Morning. You are not endearing yourself to the small quiet estate you have moved on to. Also get your bloody aggressive tomcat neutered before someone else has a £250 vet bill to deal with.

D sort yourself out, stop lying about things that never happened and knock the chip off your shoulder before you become an embittered old man.

M come and finish what you started. I can't stand this mess much longer.

D - Thank you for giving me so much hope and taking it away. How can you suggest 'that' as a viable option? Do you know how awful it was? It's getting tiresome, every time I try and explain something, you give an irrelevant response, that simply can't be true. Instead of saying x achieved y, seriously think if there's any correlation at all, this is there any point in your 30 minute ramble. I might put up with a lot, I don't need constant reminders of the obvious.

M - Please can you tell me once and for all, what your thoughts are about 'x' as I'm kept waiting, seriously not knowing what to do. It'll hurt me more believing in false promises, than you just being honest with me. We fell out over 'y' and you've suggested that 'z' is possible if situations change. 'Z' still isn't a satisfactory outcome.

E - you are a cheeky fucker of the highest order! You're welcome btw for all the lifts i gave you. No more ever. Sick of the constant moaning you're skint in one breath then the "going to go get hammered" on the next. The moaning you have to wait for a bus. Learn to drive then ffs. Next time don't quit your job because you "didn't fancy it". Oh and stop inviting yourself to get lifts off other people. Just because C lives in another city doesn't mean she's going to give you a lift to that wedding! I see you've already latched onto the new person for lifts. Hope you have the decency to thank them.

Fyi I would say this in real life but we've been told not to create an atmosphere on our course and this would be the only issue haha.

R- I love you so much. I miss you so badly it’s like I’m carrying a weight around inside my chest. I know we can work this out if we try, but I’ll be here for you always anyway. Always. You’ve got me.

B - You are the most selfish, spiteful, venomous person I've ever known. God help the people around you.

C - I hope the karma that comes back your way for lying for two years, hits you so frigging hard.

D - Get over it and stop trying to make sly digs. If you really want to know what happened, be a grown up and contact me. I will gladly sit down in a Costa and give you blow by blow details with a fucking powerpoint presentation if you like.

K- I don't understand why you think everyone wants your advice on life and child rearing when yours is a complete mess and your child is out of control. You also seem to think people need to explain their choices to you for your approval.... They don't.

@AdoreTheBeach I hope the L bully at my work gets what’s coming to her too. Fucking psychopath.

N- you are a lazy lying bitch,bullying people for lifts home from work, sneaking off work early while the rest of us work our fingers to the bone, lying to get time off work, we all hope management see though you soon.

D, the shit you've done over the past couple of years blows my mind. I wish L had felt able to tell us before now. I can't WAIT til we're all rid of you, you horrible, horrible waste of human skin.

H - call yourself a fucking sister? And a mother? You ought to be ashamed of yourself. No wonder you are a lonely old woman because you've brought it all upon yourself but I so wish you hadn't been this way, things could have been completely different but you're just a terrible person and have been for most of your life.

D- why don't you like me? What do I do that is so awful? Is it that I show you up because I do your job more efficiently than you? If that's the case then that isn't my fault! People need support and tasks need done so I do them because you arent! And then I get daggers/digs for stepping on your toes 🙄 if it isn't that then what is it? I hate walking on eggshells around you waiting to see what way you'll treat me that particular day.

D - Since you got promoted you’ve steadily become more full of yourself, to the point that you’re becoming insufferable. Your job is not more important than mine. If I ask your team to complete a task, I don’t expect to have to publicly justify the request and to have you go over my head on EVERY occasion to my manager before you eventually deign to lower yourself to do the work. It’s pretentious, has made me lose professional respect for you and, worse than that, makes me no longer see you as a friend.

D2 - Stop banging on about how much younger you are than the rest of us. Youth isn’t everything and you’ll soon learn that, because yours is fading pretty fucking quickly. I’d rather look good at 40 than average at 26, knowing the only way is down.

M - Stop trying to get friends to pass on messages to me. Stop inventing friendships with friends of mine you only met a couple of times, through me, in an attempt to rewrite history and make it look like you’re being excluded because we have ‘had a bust-up’. It is NOT a bust-up. I cut you out of my life because you are toxic, self-obsessed and losing your grip on reality. You don’t even like me deep down - you like the idea of a best friend. Well if that’s what you want, find someone, make the genuine effort to get to know them, take their feelings into account and build that friendship - and for God’s sake, don’t throw ‘But I’m your best friend’ in their face if they dare to behave in a way that doesn’t 100% suit you and you alone. I am NOT coming back into your life, EVER. The only reason this comes under the heading of ‘Things you can’t actually say’ is that I know you would interpret any contact, even contact to say ‘fuck off and leave me alone forever’ as a way back in. There is no way back.

P and T- I was a child. I didn't do anything that children don't do. I know I was unwanted and there under sufferance. I know T made it all look like it was about money, it wasn't, not for me. I just wanted to be loved by the two people that I should have been able to count on regardless of anything else. I didn't want to be a pawn in the two of you swiping lumps out of each other and no P, every time I contact you it's not about fucking money. I've never asked, it's been asked for on my behalf, and denied. You should have paid your share, you didn't. But I've never asked you for anything that a child doesn't ask a parent for. In fact I've never asked full stop - but now I'm too fucking scared to even be in regular contact because sooner or later one of you accuses me of just being after money. I've survived and brought up my daughter this long without your financial support, I don't need it now. I don't need it at all. But yes, part of me is still that upset and confused little girl wondering why no one seems to want her around. Wondering what she did, why T&G and P&K just didn't want her around. That's the reason for my mental health issues, the reason I attempted suicide so many times, when your own parents don't want you around and suffer you because they can't do anything else, it makes you wonder if you should be allowed to live, with something so fundamentally wrong with you even your own parents don't want you around. And to boot my other relatives in common with P all think the same as me. I'd have given anything to send a small something to my nieces and nephews when they were born, welcome them to the world, be an aunty. I can't do that though can I, because you all hate me just for being alive. I don't know how to overcome that. I'm past suicide now, but exclusion hurts. I'd love to have been sent a message, a picture of the new babies. That's all.

V - I'm so devastated this is happening to you, you've always been someone to turn to, and o treated you badly once and I can never forgive that, illness or not. I wish it were me, I deserve what's happening to you, you don't.

N&G - thank you for showing me what being in a family and being loved was, and for being my parents when mine were shit. All 4 of them. You can be never know how much I miss you every day and wish you were here because I'll never stop needing you.

L - FFS grow up. You're lazy, and you need to stop blaming everyone else and look at what you have. None of it is your own doing. Stop being a spoilt brat and realise what you have before it walks out the door!

FIL - my husband knows full well you are a cheap git and deplores you for it. He's ashamed of the snide comments you make, not impressed. You are incredibly lucky to have my MIL.

C - You're my oldest friend and I love you, but you'd never in a million years want me to say this to you. You are single because you put up an unbearable front to guys, strangers, even me sometimes. The real you is the loveable one. You keep getting outrageous crushes on guys purely because they're unavailable, because then you don't have to face the risk of being rejected.

s - I know you’re a nice person underneath but you’re so fake and self-deluding it’s exhausting. No not everything is positive, it’s ok to have a shit day, faddy diets and woo ceremonies will not make you happy (well they haven’t worked so far have they) and your dog is a nightmare because you haven’t trained it properly, take responsibility for it instead of just laughing, because it’s dangerous. Get some actual counselling from someone who knows what they’re doing instead of a string of woo charlatans who see you coming a mile away.

M - i’m Sorry it’s hard for you that I won’t take your shit any more but you will not gaslight me into accepting that how you have behaved was ok. It’s not ok to turn a blind eye to sexual abuse, pretend it wasn’t that bad and spend my whole life insulting my appearance - it’s shit and that’s why i’ve Had enough. So fuck you. Aaaahhhhh that’s better!

A - i love you, always will though we’re politically incompatible and you’re married! But if you’re ever single, i’m up for a fling...

School mum - my dd just doesn’t want to be bffs with your dd, i’m sorry but please stop pushing it!

P - what is happening now to you is karma for those decades of bullying of your son, then me and my child. You are a pig and I hope you suffer all day and every day
C - ditto
BIL - you toxic, manipulative bully. Stop trying to control everyone. Grow up.
G - get a job! Stop whining about everything and everyone. Take responsibility for your health and life. Grow up.
B - you were the OW. I don't care if it was love, you destroyed another family in the process, twice
X - you are a lovely man but you need to grow a pair.

Thought of another one

M - get out now. Don’t marry her and definitely don’t have a baby with her. Not for a few years at least. I know you both think that somehow the two of you are some special love story but you’re not. She does this every time and it always ends badly. Don’t drag another child into this fucked up situation just so you two can play happy families. You were the OM, no matter what you say. It was a messy, horrible situation but she’s using it as an excuse to behave terribly and she’s using you.

D - how can care so little for your own child that you would treat them like that? It’s disgusting and I hope you realise what you’ve lost one day but I know you won’t as that would mean you’d have to actually care about them and you are far to selfish to ever think about that.

to everyone dealing with shit

M&D - I worry so much about both of you every single day, I feel like I stop living because of it. I would give anything to make you well again including my own health if it's even possible.

SE - you are an attention seeking twat at the highest order. You are not funny or special.

believe it or not I would love a full-time job so if you can think of anyone who's prepared to give me one please let me know

P - I don’t understand why you behave so badly. No one wants to deal with your drama. We’d all be so happy if it weren’t for you.

A - for fucks sake sort out your financial life, I don’t have energy for this shit.

You are so incredibly selfish. You make everything about you. You have to be the victim all the time, you've always had it worse than everyone. You create drama. You can't stand for someone else to get attention or support. You introduce your children to a new man within weeks of splitting with their dad and get pregnant within a couple of months because you weren't using any protection. You barely ever face up to the consequences of your actions, someone will bail you out and it's always someone else's fault. You've barely worked a day in your life but think everything should be handed to you on a plate. You survive on the charity of others and won't hesitate to cut someone off for disagreeing with you or not giving you what you want. And for some reason everyone tiptoes around you, because you mustn't be upset. No matter to everyone who you hurt.

I miss you and think of you every day I wish for our yesterday back.

You are a mug,not only do you buy people you are wasting our faamily money,They don;t care a toss about you and I think you are beyond stupid.I don;t like you ....and I am sorry about that but I don;t want to ever be like you Little person..little life ,know nothing ,seen nothing but an expert on every fucking thing aren;t you....

You are a set of fucking leeches and I hate the lot of you,You tight fisted selfish backward think inbred bastards..You are liars.You are think as pig shit.You make me want to vomit.You are shit on my shoe,you are awful parents to your kids,and you have no hope,dignity ,standards or morals and I wouldnt piss on you if you happened to be on fire unless I was magically able to piss petrol...

Blimey,how much better do I feel for getting that off my chest!
Brilliant thread by the way OP.

L no wonder you are single. Since you've had that job you've been insufferable. I've paid for nearly every holiday we've been on and you act like a complete bitch when we're on them