Things you can’t actually say

[coffeeandrainbows]

I haven’t seen a thread like this in a while and I have to let this out before I scream:

S - you are selfish, immature, lazy and a bad mum to your kid. I can’t believe our relationship has come to this. I feel like I have always been there for you and done so much for you. I’m almost happy that you’ve done what you did as I have realised just how little effort you put into our relationship and how little it must mean to you. You only care about yourself and you always have.

D - you enabling fuck, I see you now and I will never be fooled again. You are just as bad as the two of them, if not worse.

That feels better, anyone else holding something in?

P you are an ugly, bitter, dried up old cunt. You're also lazy, thick as shit and a disgusting snobby bitch. This is why everyone leaves you and you'll die miserable and alone, hopefully very very soon.

Dear Dom. You are a little man promoted above your abilities, and every time you belittle your staff you remind us of that fact. I know you value 'feedback', so I hth

Oh I love this!

S - drop the passive aggressive judgemental bullshit. You expect everything your way and offer no consideration for my desire to do things differently. You think I can't see through you but I can.

C - if you think trying to make me look bad at work and dropping in unkind comments masked as chit chat is going to work, you're wrong. You are poison and make the tough days at work ten times harder, you keep complaining about how rubbish it is so do us all a favour and go - you aren't as indispensable as you think.

B - please help me. You think I don't want it, and I do want to cope but I can't. Please see that and find a way to help me. I don't know how much longer I can manage

H - I forgive you

S - I'll never forgive you. You will always be a dick and you'll always be useless.

L - stop letting your insecurities make you a bully. You could be a great person if you weren't so over bearing and ridiculous.

S - you're a liar and lazy. You love being the victim and honestly it's pathetic. Grow up and get on with your life. Stop letting other people work for you and get off your ass you pathetic example to your kids. You're raising sappy childish young adults.

A - you are a selfish, deluded, abusive arsehole and you are damaging the children you are bringing up.

L- please dump your arsehole boyfriend, you could do so much better. He tells you that you need to lose weight and getting rid of him would help you shift 14 stone immediately.

M- I love you so much but living with you is killing me. You’re a hoarder, you’re messy and you refuse to acknowledge your mental health problems. You store your books and magazines so precariously that last week I sustained an injury because of them. Please please seek some help, because otherwise I will leave.

D - Your the best boss I’ve ever have and your support has stopped me from killing myself.

Then why post in it if it upsets you?

DD - I’m so sorry for what’s happening to you and that I can’t make you better. I feel like I’m failing as your mummy but we really are doing everything we can to find out what’s wrong with you. I’m sorry the medicine you have to take has changed everything about you but you’re still my beautiful girl. Please keep fighting baby, I know you’re exhausted but don’t give up.

A - Stop pissing about and face up to things! Make a choice, her or me, I don’t even care if you don’t choose me, I just want you to stop running away from responsibilities. Whatever happens between us the DCs still need you, you can’t run away from them when things get tough. DD needs you now more than ever, man up while you still can.

D - Thank you for supporting me through a year of ups and downs. I know we hadn’t known each other long but you became like a sister to me and it was lovely when you said you felt like that too. You were on the end of the phone during my labour, we spoke nearly every day, and if I ever felt like I was off loading on you too much you always reassured me and said it was never a problem and you would always be there. So why did you suddenly disappear out of nowhere? Why are you reading my text messages asking what I’ve done wrong and not replying? Why have you read my messages worrying that something had happened to you but not even had the good grace to tell me you’re okay and happily posting all over Mumsnet everyday apparently without a care in the world? My personal life has got a million times harder since we last spoke but I don’t even want you back for support anymore, I just want you to answer one message telling me what on Earth I did wrong, even if it won’t be nice for me to hear, I just want answers. I opened up about absolutely everything to you and now I feel such an idiot, you have treated another human being appallingly, I hope you see this message.

M. If only you weren’t so busy throwing everyone else under the bus in order to make yourself look better you might have been promoted. If you weren’t so busy lying and making up stories that nobody believes you could have been good at your job.

Instead you only served to draw attention to yourself and now you’ve been caught stealing.

You’re getting sacked Friday you idiot.

S. That persons death was not about you. Continually posting about it on Facebook when you spent the time he was alive hating him is so cringey. That’s why I don’t see any of your posts. I stopped following you and hopefully you’ll delete me once you realise I’m not liking any of your crap before I have to delete you and make things awkward.

P - for God sake, walk away. Stop wasting your time. Learn from your mistakes. It hasn't worked the million times before, why is this time different? Look at the cycle. You're both in more of a mess than you were the last time. You are no good for each other. I know you want to look after him but you're barely looking after yourself. Oh and stop being flakey with your friends who actually stick around. Also stop drinking. Just stop.

R - what did I do? What did my son do? I am sorry if I/him upset you but I don't know why or how. OK you don't want to be friends but I don't know what happened that makes you blank me and look through me or ignore me when I say hi as I pass you.

E - you fucking bitch. You absolute fucking bitch. Whatever drives you I hope you fix it, for your sake as well as everyone else. I'm happy now. I can't forgive you but I hope you sort yourself out.

J - I won. Suck it up.

T - my house isn't spotless and it is tatty but yours isn't all that. You seem to forget I work full time and have 3 kids. You had 2 kids and didn't work. You had your own challenges I know but you are delusional if you think ypur house was (is) any better than mine. R wasn't lying when he said you needed to clear it because when you die he'll throw it all in a skip.

M - stop being so bloody passive aggressive. If you have something to say, just say. Don't be all smiley nasty with me. You may have a point but just say it and people will listen. You come accross as a nasty bitter woman which I don't
think you are. Your jokes aboit entry fees just make everyone feel awkward or go over their heads. You seem to forget when we've paid our "entry fee". Plus your "entry fee" kinda sucks and I only join in to be polite and from obligation. It is also not just my responsibility, in fact a lot of it is none of my business. Just because I'm female doesn't make it my job. Instead of judging offer to help and also remember people in glass houses... Plus stop being so rude about S. She makes C happy and is nice enough so stop it. And stop bad mouthing me too.

H - bleach?! Fucking bleach? To me?

H and L - stop with the penis portions!!! I am not greedy if I want as many roasties as my husband. Even if I was, that is nothing to do with you.

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That backfires. I don't feel better, I just feel like a horrible person now for acknowledging those thoughts.

Oh and

H - hating you is just part of what I hate about the situation you put us all in. You're a desperate and insignificant piece of shit and I'm not so hurt that you tried to sleep with my husband but that you were so sly in your approach, that you used cliched flattery at a time when he was vulnerable and you're still completely devoid of any responsibility for it now. You wouldn't know responsibility if it hit you in the face. Poor H always the victim. Shame you're a mother and you're setting a horrific example for your child. Your daughter will grow up knowing that you're a loser who forced her dad away and threw herself at someone else's husband in the hope of destroying their family to make you feel better about yourself. You're pathetic.

Yes he was a colossal moron to fall for and encourage your bullshit but at least he admits it and didn't lie about being the victim of domestic violence to make me feel sorry for them.

You'll get yours one day.

L - I know it hasn’t been easy but your behaviour is becoming hard to tolerate. You’ve lied so frequently than nobody believes you now even when you’re telling the truth. People are tired of it and can’t keep dropping everything for you. You need to grow up and take some responsibility.

G - I cant cope with this any more. I just want you to stop doing all this stuff. You have reduced my life to nothing and yet you still seem to want more from me. My life is like a prison sentence. I’d have more prospect of freedom if I’d actually killed someone. I hope that this Christmas is my last.

Some of these have such sadness behind themto all who needs it.

Does anyone else read through these threads to as if anyone is posting about me??

H - I love you so much that it frightens me, because one day I will be facing life without you and I don’t know how I will manage. I can’t say this to you because you know it already and I hate to bring us both down, but I think about it quite often. I miss you even when you’re out for an hour or so, like tonight. I’m crying now so that I will be smiling when you come through the door.

slowdownplease, when the post started "you dried up old slapper", i did wonder if it was about me . Reading on it definitely wasn't.

C
You are a massive cock sucker . And I don’t really like you , and wish I didn’t have to sit across from you . I love it when you are away and the way you suck up to senior people annoys me

A - You will burn in hell for what you done to them when they were children. The way you treated them and the things you done are the type of things no normal human being would being upon children. I hate you and I don't even know you for what you've done. The effect it has had now they are adults are something that can never be undone.

F - How could you stand back and let A do those things to your own fucking children? How could you participate and enable it? How could you?? How could you abandon your children like that? How can you sit in a room with me now and act like your not part of the reason ALL of your children are fucked up.

J - I Hope your now on the right path to finding some inner peace. I hope you find the strength and courage to become the man, husband and father that you want. I hope that you are not chained to your past and can find some happiness and banish your deamons. I love you.

M - STOP PRETENDING YOU DON’T KNOW MY NAME I’VE BEEN WORKING WITH YOU FOR MONTHS

B - Glory hole does not mean what you think it does. It is not a suitable analogy to use in the workplace but I don't know how to tell you this without embarrassing you.

G - how could you do that to me? You were my closest person in the world. You were the person I always turned to and relied on. and you threw it all away for what? A controlling cunt who told you too. Someone who put you down and called you a slut and called you fat. Who was there to pick up the pieces over the years? Me. Who picked you up when he threw you out. Me. Who gave you warmth and support every time you went back to him. Me.
He told you to cut me out your life because I could see through him, just when you were starting to see his true colours. You cut me out your life in the lead up to the most important day in mine. You abandoned me when I needed you most. And for what? For him to cheat on you. And did you reach out to me. Did you fuck. You wouldn't have had to apologise as you know I would have dropped everything and been there in a heartbeat. But it's too late. Time has passed. I'm married now. You missed that. I have a baby now. You missed all of that. Doing what you done was the most hurtful and painful thing anyone has ever done to me. I didn't think you had it in you. Shame on you.

E - you knew how unwell F was for years and you allowed it. It was your fault. You are wicked beyond measure but F knew what you were really like and if he were here now he would be disgusted at you. You stole from me, lied to me, cut me out of T's life, used what happened to get sympathy from people. You are a vile woman.
J/Y/G - you are all cowards who let F down. I hope you can all live with yourselves.

@Moomoofamoo