Things you can’t actually say

[coffeeandrainbows]

I haven’t seen a thread like this in a while and I have to let this out before I scream:

S - you are selfish, immature, lazy and a bad mum to your kid. I can’t believe our relationship has come to this. I feel like I have always been there for you and done so much for you. I’m almost happy that you’ve done what you did as I have realised just how little effort you put into our relationship and how little it must mean to you. You only care about yourself and you always have.

D - you enabling fuck, I see you now and I will never be fooled again. You are just as bad as the two of them, if not worse.

That feels better, anyone else holding something in?

FIL you're still a cunt and MIL you're an enabling cunt. Karma's peeking its nose around the door though and it's nice to be able to see it.

B I fucking hate you. You are a nasty sexist bully and I wish you would fuck off to fuck.
S you are so up p arse you want to fuck him so much you sad little individual.

R- what a massive bitch you are..trolling online yet can't say it to my face when I saw you...you have said some of the most hurtful things online and you don't bat an eyelid...you were a bully at school and you still are now...you have no empathy,and all you do is fucking argue on Twitter all day long, I feel sorry for your child with a mother like you

dad - i’m sorry i’ve stopped talking to catherine, i’m sorry i held a grudge for so long, i should have been more mature and now i’m making the same mistake with catherine, i should have replied to your last text, i should have accepted your drinking, i should have forgiven you for leaving, i’m so sorry. i hope you’re not suffering anymore, i miss you.

J - I hope you’re happy with him, with your relationship built on lies. Homewrecker.
B - idiot. You threw it all away.

My beautiful F - I am not angry with you. I love you so much. I know now that by the time you met me, it was too late, you were too far gone. I am so sorry for the pain you were in and I hope you are at peace now. I miss you so much and wonder what you think of the choices I made. I hope you are proud of me. I hope the years we were together helped with some of the pain. I miss you everyday and everyday l wish things were different.

I still hate you, D. How can you live with yourself? I hope it is worth it to you. Do you know I go through stages of wanting to kill myself because of your actions? Would you even care if you knew? You ruined my life. I am trying to move on as best as I can, but you did, and I hate that you still have power and control over me in more than one way.
But. I know that eventually I will be strong again and you will be just a weak and cowardly person, as you always were.

K stop pretending to be my friend you really are the most toxic person i have ever known. You are a liar and thoroughly unpleasant person. If i could i would totally cut you off.

S if you're done with us at least have the balls to tell me. I deserve that at least.

T you really need to admit whats in front of you. She is not making you happy. Relationships need trust and respect. Timing your journey home is just fucking wrong. Tracking your every move is deranged. Love doesnt look like that. Please see that.

L i'm absolutely completely in love with you. But fucking hell i wish i wasnt.

I think I’ve got too many of these..alas..

N - I like you. I’m really confused over how I feel. I almost said love you the other day without even thinking. I have no idea why as I don’t love you, but I am fond of you. For the love of god stop telling little lies..it winds me up no end. You don’t have to impress me and I’m not stupid. Please just be honest.

P - I don’t understand how we’ve got to this. Some days I really don’t like you, but I’m terrified to lose you. Please get healthy. Please stop being jealous. We’ve been through so much shit, please don’t let it all be for nothing.

M - I don’t understand your reasoning and quite frankly I don’t give a shit. You’re being unfair and I’m sick of DS being left out. No he doesn’t understand, he knows he’s not being included. Change it or lose out...your relationship with him will suffer, it already has. I’m afraid you will do what D did. I’m not strong enough to go through all of that again. Sometimes I don’t really like who you’ve become.

D - I don’t think I can ever forgive you. Why did you do it? The note alluded to nothing. How dare you leave us all? I am still angry at you, but I still miss you every day. I wish you’d spoken to us.

S - sometimes we just need to be left alone to be a family. Please stop sticking your nose in and do as we’ve asked politely many times.

P (again) - I don’t know why I cut myself. Part of me has had enough. No matter how bad I’ve felt before I’ve never done that. I don’t want to die, I just felt numb and worthless. I hate myself sometimes. I hate my body. I’m struggling to cope and feel like I made a wrong decision career wise. The medicine has helped but I still get episodes where I can’t stop thinking about breathing. I’m scared that this is me forever. I don’t like being like this, I’m sorry.

These all make me sound like a mardy cow

@UnoriginalUserName948 that sounds extremely tough. Keep going, you'll get there x

R - You are not bold for not going to uni, you're a coward and you were too afraid to fail. Stop bragging to the family about your success, it's a menial admin job in a factory and they pay you a pittance. Please get over yourself. In the meantime, I'd appreciate it if you didn't belittle people like me. You don't go on "all these holidays" because you're better at saving that other people (me?) Daddy paid off your car. I'm writing this here because I'm too polite to tell you to your face that you are extremely insulting. While I'm on it, you're not original, you're not "out there" - the term is "basic". You like what everyone else likes. I don't think I've ever met a less original person.

I feel a complete bitch but I scream this internally most days.

S where were you when I lost my baby? Why did you not even care? Not ask how I was, how we were coping, just expected me to carry on as normal because it was an inconvenience to you as it took the lime light away from you! You are meant to be my friend. Even now all you can talk about it your pregnancy, your due date, what you have bought, expect me to plan a fucking baby shower without a thought of how hard this is for me! You don't care about the kids you have, why have more. In all the years I've know you I have never seen you cuddle or kiss your kids! You frequently put others before your children, even to the point of putting them in danger. We have supported you through so much, but we literally get nothing back and it hurts so much.

J although I understand you are a product of your upbringing I despise you for what you have out my daughter through, if you were both adults you would have been arrested for assault, stalking and more but because you are young nothing is done, if you continue on this path you will end up in prison and god help you it's my daughter you hurt. You have destroyed her confidence and self esteem, she struggles every day with anxiety and panic attacks because of you, she has such bad separation anxiety she struggles with going to school and letting me go to work. My beautiful daughter is a shell of her former self because of you and I don't know if we can fix it because she still has to see your face at school and worry you won't leave her alone or that you will continue to hurt her, she still has nightmares about you.

Js mum you are a fucking disgrace, to let your son continue in his behaviour towards my daughter and to encourage it because it's cute he likes a girl is disgusting, you are the reason he is like he is because you literally shag anything that moves and bring all these men into your home, he has seen you with them in bed! He thinks it's normal behaviour to stalk and harrass girls, to then hurt her friends when he can't get to her anymore! You lie to everyone, your little angel could never do anything like that, utter bollocks! You should be fucking sterilised and be prosecuted for child abuse, or even for his crimes towards my daughter as it's your fault!

Sorry it didn't put the spaces in, my phone is crap lol

Things I can’t actually say out loud because if I did it would make it too real, I’m genuinely frightened that my DD isn’t going to recover from whatever is wrong with her. She’s one and has been chronically unwell for several months with rapid deterioration these last few weeks. She’s fading in front of my eyes and I can’t see how things can possibly get better. Sorry, I know I’ve already posted on this thread earlier but things always seem worse late at night when I’m up on my own with her.

M you are the reason we left the funeral early. You're a jealous little bitch. E may think you're wonderful because she was close to your mother - who, let's face it, was a druggy psycho domestic abuser, but plenty of the rest of your family have seen your true colours. And don't be so smug about your marriage - I wonder why you're so afraid of him straying? You do know that's not normal behaviour? And we all know your money is a huge part of why he's with you. Good luck, you'll need it.
S you wonder why your children won't speak to you and you're not allowed to see your grandchildren? Well they told us the truth and you should be in prison for what you did. All you care about is money. The way you treated your parents was atrocious, and your mum only put up with it because she was terrified you'd stop her seeing the kids. But now she's gone and the kids are grown up, and you're alone. Karma.
J we are all gobsmacked that you got the promotion because you're fucking useless - lazy, condescending and quick to take the credit for other people's work. The only upside is that it's got you out of our department. But now you'll have to do some actual work - the word three months in is that you're floundering. Who'd have thought it, eh?

F- The reason people don't like you is that you are self absorbed and only talk about yourself. You have driven away pretty much everyone and you are one of the laziest people I know. You are in your 50's and should know better! I've never known anyone to post so many cries for attention on social media than you. I'm a decade younger and you act like a teenager. You have a new baby now and that somehow made you worse.

D-See above. When you talked to me about how your wife has bad luck with friends it has nothing to do with bad luck we are all just worn out from her. And you enable her. You need to protect your kids and stop enabling her to do nothing but whine all day. Not everything is about her, and yet somehow it always comes back to her issues. Both of you should be ashamed of your behaviour. It's bloody embarrassing.

And when you complained about your hectic summer which for the life of all of us we don't understand, you might want to look around see what life is like for most people. You were both home with an 11 yo and baby and by your own admission didn't go anywhere because you don't like the heat. And your home is awful. Yes she is a hoarder. You complain about having no money but she spends money constantly on line. She just spent 250 on 20 pairs of leggings for herself. But her parents are buying you groceries... And at a basic level, ask how people are. Frankly you are both as bad as each other and sadly the lot of us are sick of it. We aren't here to be your therapist. You are not 15 or 16 you are 47 and 52. You need to start acting like it.

KateK00 I’m so so very sad to read your post. How devastating. It’s puts the rest of these into perspective. I’m so so sorry. I hope there is a happy outcome and your little one recovers.

sibling 1 - invoicing our mother for parking costs to visit her in hospital was low, even for you.

sibling 2 - you are mid-30s. Stop trying to make it as an "influencer", "youtuber", or whatever it is. How about finding a real job?

DM why are you lying about the type of cancer you have? It is not brain cancer, it is lung cancer due to decades of smoking. Is it because you think lung cancer would bring you less sympathy?

C - your husband is a complete perv, you knew he had an affair but ignored it. He has now hit on every single one of us in the group and none of us can say since he is perfect to you. No wonder he moved you an hour away, to stop further gossip.

SIL - I'm sorry you've had miscarriages and its awful but why use that to stop BIL from visiting us. You've seen DD once in her 8 month old life and now it seems that both of you are pushing away from the whole family. Please stop and think about how much this is hurting DH, they were once so close as brothers.

BIL - stop being a pushover and actually speak to your own family.

Victoria Derbyshire... The presenter has a little know it all on TV, add to this the angry climate girl.... Parents what are you doing too your child, you are letting them be used by others, and setting them for years of heartache

L - F U bitch. Cannot wait until the day you get your comeuppance for being a bully at work, lying and manipulating things to make lives difficult, so so difficult, in life changing ways. Karma is a bitch and you’re owed big slap in the face from Karma.

You saved me writing mine although my 'L' was 2 bitches. Glad I am gone and hopefully never see them.again.

M- your body is fucked because you eat like crap, don't look after yourself and don't listen to what the doctors say to do. I've been caring for you for years now and it's getting too much. I'm an anxious wreck because of it.

R- I cant believe you are disputing the fact you had your hands wrapped around my neck telling me you were going to kill me and that you threatened me with a weapon at 7 months pregnant. You vile man. Your solicitor told me you don't remember because of you drinking heavily at that time. You know full well what happened. I hope you get what you deserve.

L- how dare you treat my sister and her children how you did. People like you deserve to rot in hell. It apparently wasnt in your best interest due to MH to go to prison. What about my sister and her children? They suffer because of your actions.

D- I wish you'd make more time to even answer the phone to me. It upsets me you dont take even 5 mins sometimes. I worried about you and it seems like you dont care sometimes.

Ex -friend.
You latched onto someone you thought was rich, then he spent the little savings he had as you had no job, now your moaning that your both broke, you used to have the looks and clothing to move onto the next victim. Welcome to reality. P.S anyone you now approach we all rush to worn, what shocks me most is it is the men doing the warning.