To be upset about colleague's comment

[Scottishgirl85]

I'm 34, 2 young children (youngest 17 months), 8 stone, 5 foot tall, size 8 clothes. A colleague today said 'congratulations!' as she assumed I'm pregnant! I definitely have a protruding tummy since having children, but I'm fairly slim otherwise. Obviously colleague was mortified but I'm now shamed into sorting it out...
I don't ever want such a comment again, dd2 is an IVF baby and husband is now completely infertile due to losing both testicles to cancer, so the comment has had a double whammy of hitting the tummy issue and infertility issue!
How on earth do I get rid of this stomach?! If anyone has any tips I'd love to hear them!

What a rude cunt! You don't have a tummy problem, you have a rude colleague problem.

V sorry about your DH.

It could be diastasis recti - split abs. If so, there are exercises that are good to do, and to avoid.

What ISmellBabies said - the colleague is rude.

Stupid woman, why do people do this?!?

Absolutely nothing wrong with your body, there is however something wrong with the colleague who felt it acceptable to comment on your body. Colleague should feel embarrassed and no further action required from you.

Thank you! I feel so much better already! I'm never brave enough to comment on pregnancy until a lady is almost in labour, I'm just so embarrassed that she must have felt confident enough to ask.
Going to look into split abs...

Here's a pic at end of day, to be fair my posture is terrible which doesn't help...

Sorry I have no idea if pic worked

Learn to dress to hide it I guess, that's what I do!

Core exercises will help flatten it a bit too.

Bloating?

Rude colleague. I like your Fatface Simone though.

Firstly you have nothing to be embarrassed about. You have a healthy body which has birthed two babies, one of when is only 17 months!

If you want to improve your posture, dress in a different way to make the most of your figure or do some exercises to tone your shape then by all means do so.

But there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you.

Work out your core. It will help flatten the area somewhat. Also try wearing separates more as I find my post baby tummy always looks more protruding in a dress. I can totally understand your upset!

Shes a cow as its a known fact you dont just spring it on a woman.
Nearly everyone has a food baby at the end of the day.
Personally low carb gives me flat tummy. I do wonder if its a muscle issue in your case though.

I am an overweight apple shape with no waist and a big tummy. Or I was till I started doing TRX classes. Brilliant for your for your core. I now have much less motivation to lose weight as my tummy is no longer hugely out of proportion with the rest of me.
If you can’t get to a local gym, do the plank daily for just one minute. It really helps.
Oh, orstart kick boxing and intimidate your rude colleague

As pp have said you’ve not got a tummy problem, you’ve got a RCC (rude, cunty, colleague) problem.

Mine looks like that at the end of the day too. I would never comment on someone’s tummy, ever!!

Colleague is a daft cow. I look like that after a pizza.

If you're a size 8 and 8 stone you're fine. Ignore it.

Pilates ... if you want to do something about it.

IVF puts weight on your tummy, I didn’t know this until (after failed IVF) I looked down at my stomach one day and thought wow it looks big, apparently it’s a Side effect .

Wish people would keep their gobs shut though I really do.

I once had something similar happen to me, only it wasn't a colleague, friend or family member! It was someone from an estate agents who was at my mums house and commented "oh, are you having a baby? congratulations!" and we all just looked at her, I said "no" and walked away into another room to cry! It really upset and angered me so can imagine exactly how you feel. I would never dream of making comments to a pregnant lady much less someone I'd never met before!

Happy to say I am actually pregnant for real now and have had no comments apart from one older lady who was next to me in a long queue for the loo at a service station and said that she thought I qualified to use the disabled loo.... er thanks? I think?

Colleague was very rude. You have the posture I had for months and months after having my daughter by C-section - I was walking around bent forwards at the hips without realising and when I eventually noticed and tried to straighten up, it became apparent how weak tummy muscles were. You look absolutely fine though, I'm only saying about the posture as it could cause you back issues x

I don't get some people, I would never comment on someone being pregnant unless i knew for sure they were ie they told me themselves.

I have no advice in regards to exercise but I'm sure you are perfect the way you are

My youngest is in double figures and I am fit and strong and BMI 21- my tummy looks exactly like that by the later part of the day.

Women don’t actually often have flat bellies- occasionally you find women who are pear shape and have a flat belly but it’s not that common.

Fizzy drinks, veg like cauliflower, chewing gum, stress- all makes us bloat and then it looks worse

But colleague is a twat.
Ignore and rise above.
You have a perfectly lovely body.

I always had a big belly in relation to my otherwise petite figure so got this quite regularly. Now the rest of me has grown to match my big belly it doesn’t happen anymore!

It can be hurtful when it happens but they probably didn’t mean to be rude. Unless they have a track record for being a tactless bitch it probably was just a misunderstanding and they are probably mortified. I said it once to a colleague who I had been told was expecting (it was mistaken identity) and she was very upset and I know I felt awful.

My DH says you should never ask a woman if she is pregnant unless you can actually see a baby hanging out of her.