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AIBU December wedding ..

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Clangers23 · 24/09/2019 14:26

Hi ladies (and gents!)

Would like your feedback on something …

How would you feel about being invited to a wedding on the first weekend in December?

I ask because my OH and I have been looking at venues and found one we love but a winter wedding at our venue is £2,500.00 cheaper than spring/summer plus our venue décor works out cheaper if we go for winter. At first, I hated the thought of a December wedding but now I am growing to love it, especially as our venue will be so Christmassy. I would hate to put anyone out so close to Christmas and would be specifically requesting NO gifts. We will be laying on return coach transport (venue is 20 mins away in the next town) to cut out expensive taxi’s, and canapes, 3 course choice meal, 4 drinks PP and an evening buffet will be paid for by us, so really, guests wont be out any money unless they want more than 4 drinks (we’re Scottish so it’s likely they will lol!)

I know it’s our day, but our friends and family mean a lot to us and I wanted an outside opinion.

To add, we will be inviting 90-day guests and a further 25 in the evening.

Thanks!

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ToffeePennie · 24/09/2019 14:33

I wouldn’t go. I’d send a card and some money, but that weekend is always solidly booked months in advance for me. I run my own business and I can’t afford to miss a market or stall so as a family, we wouldn’t attend as it takes two people to put up and take down.
If I didn’t work, I would go though.

iklboo · 24/09/2019 14:34

My best friend got married early December last year. Brilliant do, loads of people attended. It sounds like your being very thoughtful and accommodating for your guests. I'll dust my hat off

iklboo · 24/09/2019 14:34

My best friend got married early December last year. Brilliant do, loads of people attended. It sounds like you're being very thoughtful and accommodating for your guests. I'll dust my hat off

WisestIsShe · 24/09/2019 14:35

I'd go, sounds lovely, but if need plenty of notice because Christmas weekends book up early.

Inferiorbeing · 24/09/2019 14:35

Depends on your guests and their lives, I wouldn't go.. DH can't book time off in December and it's also massively busy for me. However if we had normal office jobs we would!

TheFlis12345 · 24/09/2019 14:35

I have been to a few December weddings and all have been lovely! Very atmospheric and festive. Go for it!

BuffaloCauliflower · 24/09/2019 14:35

I’d be fine and happy to go. I love weddings and I love Christmas. First weekend of December is a whole different kettle of fish to something like Christmas Eve, or the couple of days before that, which Id probably say no too.

SongToTheSiren1 · 24/09/2019 14:36

I AM going to a wedding the first weekend in December. It never would occur to me not to have (but I don't run my own business as PP above). I knew about it over a year in advance however. Are you looking to book for this December? The short notice might put people off but you could say that of any date?

Pukkatea · 24/09/2019 14:36

Best wedding I ever went to was 2nd weekend of December. With plenty of notice it should be fine, assuming it's the Saturday. Most work dos etc are on Thursdays or Fridays.

Windydaysuponus · 24/09/2019 14:36

Winter wedding sounds great! Same as people are busy in the summer with holidays - don't expect 100% attendance but hey ho!

DoraleeRhodes · 24/09/2019 14:36

I’d go, love a Christmassy wedding!

TheRobinIsBobbingAlong · 24/09/2019 14:37

At my time of life, with my two DDs grown up and me being more financially secure, I wouldn't mind it at all, so long as it was beginning of December and not later in the month when I'm busy with Christmas prep. If I had small children I might not be quite so thrilled as budgets are often tight in December (and January!) and I was always a bit frantic with the present shopping at weekends. It sounds as though you're doing quite a lot to reduce costs for your guests, which is very considerate, but there still may be some outlay, eg if they want new outfits.

dollydaydream114 · 24/09/2019 14:37

First weekend in December would be fine. It's still three or four weeks before Christmas at that point.

My friend got married on 23 December and all her guests still turned up, although I think there were a lot of behind-the-scenes grumbles about the inconvenience.

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Clangers23 · 24/09/2019 14:37

Thanks for the replies!

We would likely send out a save the date 1 year in advance and then follow up with a formal invitation 3 months in advance. Would you say that would be ok?

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Isadora2007 · 24/09/2019 14:37

I’d love it.

userxx · 24/09/2019 14:38

What time do you want us :)

HugoSpritz · 24/09/2019 14:38

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dramalamma · 24/09/2019 14:38

In the last few years I've been to several weddings in the few days before Xmas - I love them with the Xmas spirit and general party feeling but they were ones I'd make sure I went to anyhow and we're local enough so if it was a long way to travel or someone I wasn't that close to I might feel differently. Would need to give lots of notice tho (over a year for all of the ones I've been to) but if you're ok with that, go for it!

Passthecherrycoke · 24/09/2019 14:38

I’d love it. A word of warning though a save the date a year on advance would not only be pointless, it would be forgotten about. I reckon send them when people start thinking about Xmas- August/ September

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Clangers23 · 24/09/2019 14:40

The wedding would be Saturday 5th December 2020.

Ceremony would be in the local church so guests would make their own way to the church, after the ceremony we would have 2 coaches to transport guests to our reception and then at the end of the night, 2 coaches would transport our guests back home to a local (well lit) and central taxi rank.

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Drabarni · 24/09/2019 14:40

My ds1 gets married the second week in December. I'm told the table favours are xmas themed.
Everyone invited has accepted, I was quite surprised.
I'm not sure what to wear, as don't want to be cold, also don't want long sleeves.
Your guests may find this difficult too. However, enough warning will give them a fighting chance.

Idontwanttotalk · 24/09/2019 14:40

I would go. In fact 3 of the weddings in my family took place in November, with mine near the end of November. I can't see the problem. People might be able to double up their new wedding outfits and wear for Christmas.

Paddington68 · 24/09/2019 14:40

Sounds lovely.
Whenever you book a wedding someone will not be able to make it.
Go for it.

KittyVonCatsington · 24/09/2019 14:40

I did. Got married at the weekend: 4th December 2010 and even with the horrendous snow at the time (Bluewater shopping centre completely shut and I was getting my wedding cake from there!), I still had a full house of guests, young and old. The Christmassy feel added some extra magic, in my opinion.

Ponoka7 · 24/09/2019 14:41

Yes that would be fine.

A lot of people might even be relived to have an excuse to not go to a clashing work do!

You know your guest list and how busy etc they are.

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