AIBU December wedding ..

[Clangers23]

Hi ladies (and gents!)

Would like your feedback on something …

How would you feel about being invited to a wedding on the first weekend in December?

I ask because my OH and I have been looking at venues and found one we love but a winter wedding at our venue is £2,500.00 cheaper than spring/summer plus our venue décor works out cheaper if we go for winter. At first, I hated the thought of a December wedding but now I am growing to love it, especially as our venue will be so Christmassy. I would hate to put anyone out so close to Christmas and would be specifically requesting NO gifts. We will be laying on return coach transport (venue is 20 mins away in the next town) to cut out expensive taxi’s, and canapes, 3 course choice meal, 4 drinks PP and an evening buffet will be paid for by us, so really, guests wont be out any money unless they want more than 4 drinks (we’re Scottish so it’s likely they will lol!)

I know it’s our day, but our friends and family mean a lot to us and I wanted an outside opinion.

To add, we will be inviting 90-day guests and a further 25 in the evening.

Thanks!

Winter weddings are great! Go for it!

sounds fabulous OP

Does the bus pick up in SF? If so, I'll dust the (wintery) hat off and be waiting on the doorstep.

Awww thank you everyone for the lovely replies, I really appreciate it.

Someone mentioned heating, that's something I will definetely discuss with the venue. From memory, I was at a Christmas party night in the venue and don't recall it being too cold but will definitely check with them.

Got married on 10th December a few years ago - it was magical.

That's a good date we chose it too several years back we didn't have a big do though.

I would definitely go to yours if invited, you've been considerate with the plans and provision to people.

The only thing I would say was although I was disappointed it rained on the day, the next week was very heavy snowfall that stuck around for ages and family wouldn't have been able to make it.

I had a red silk corseted dress with ivy embroidered round the neckline and red swarovski holly berries. Also a robin embroidered on the back.

I don’t understand the angst here. People will come because they are free and want to, or not if they have plans or don’t want to. This will be the case in any day of the year.

Also a family member had a Nye wedding that was a big do and very well attended. Lovely event

I think that would be fine. Life does fill up around Christmas and dc always have a million things we get committed to doing, but personally, it tends to be a much less busy time at work than summer weekends for both of us, so we’d probably be more likely to be free then.

I’d love it. All christmassy... will be fab.

Send STDs to the guests from abroad a year in advance if you want to increase the chances of them coming. Everyone else, six months in advance will be fine

It sounds amazing! Give plenty of notice like you say and it shouldn't be an issue for people. It's not like it's on Christmas Eve!

We got married on Xmas Eve. It was my second marriage so quite a small affair for family mainly but everyone came and said it was lovely. We had snow, I had holly, ivy, Christmas roses and mistletoe in my bouquet and we had a dozen folks stay with us right through to New Year.
My cousin also had a December wedding- white wedding in church. She wore a traditional gown with a stunning aubergine velvet cloak over it. Stunning.

@LenoVintura I bet your wedding was fabulous! I wish I could see pics of the decorations & flowers!

Early December is fine, it’s a nice Christmassy buzz.

The week before Christmas or between Christmas & NYE is a complete no go for me personally.

I thought you were talking about this December originally, but now I saw you're talking about 5 December 2020! You're giving people 15 months' notice. That's plenty! I love a winter wedding.

There will always be someone who can't go because of x, y or z.

Even the self-employed poster from page 1 could surely sort something out with 15 months to go. Caveat - I am self-employed, so I do understand that pressure.

I went to a wedding on 23rd December. It was magical! And it snowed! So perfect!

Its fine, I've been to one and it was lovely. Definitely give plenty of notice though. I already have plans for every weekend this December coming.

First weekend is definitely fine, still gives people plenty of time to get sorted for Christmas & have their hangovers gone

I went to a wedding on 23rd December. It was magical! And it snowed! So perfect!

Sounds great. We went to one between Christmas and New year once and there was a lot of grumbling in the ladies about eating yet another roast dinner and how everyone had struggled to squeeze into dresses! Early December would be fabulous though.

I was bridesmaid for my SIL who got married between Christmas and New year and one of my closest friends got married early December both were fab weddings and whilst I get people might be busy I would think a years notice would be totally fine...even a bit less and I'm a working mum of 2 little ones so still at the hectic Christmas phase.

I'm doing it! But we only have three guests and no one else knows! I hadn't even thought of how lovely and Christmassy my beautiful city will be! I'm very excited.

I got married three days before Christmas. 95% of our guests came. I loved it and wouldn’t change a thing. Go for it 😊

Sounds fine to me. Closer to Christmas and you’d probably have an issue but first week in December is fine.