AIBU December wedding ..

[Clangers23]

Hi ladies (and gents!)

Would like your feedback on something …

How would you feel about being invited to a wedding on the first weekend in December?

I ask because my OH and I have been looking at venues and found one we love but a winter wedding at our venue is £2,500.00 cheaper than spring/summer plus our venue décor works out cheaper if we go for winter. At first, I hated the thought of a December wedding but now I am growing to love it, especially as our venue will be so Christmassy. I would hate to put anyone out so close to Christmas and would be specifically requesting NO gifts. We will be laying on return coach transport (venue is 20 mins away in the next town) to cut out expensive taxi’s, and canapes, 3 course choice meal, 4 drinks PP and an evening buffet will be paid for by us, so really, guests wont be out any money unless they want more than 4 drinks (we’re Scottish so it’s likely they will lol!)

I know it’s our day, but our friends and family mean a lot to us and I wanted an outside opinion.

To add, we will be inviting 90-day guests and a further 25 in the evening.

Thanks!

Our wedding was on a Friday evening in January, and we only got engaged 5 months previously.

Everyone we invited came, some putting themselves out.

It depends a lot on how close you are with the guests, their situations, etc.

I got married between Christmas & New Year. Everyone we invited to the daytime attended. Only a few declined the evening. We had open fires, Christmas trees, open stairs with Christmas garlands etc. Saved a lot on decoration. We gave our Christmas presents out as favours - all personalised. Took a lot of thought for 55 guests but worth it for the reaction.

I love Winter weddings and this sounds lovely!

Would just echo what others have said about December weekends getting booked up quickly, so would appreciate a save the date in advance so I could put it in my diary.

Congrats!

We are going to a wedding the w/e before Christmas. It is hundreds of miles away but we can’t not go or it would cause an upset. I am already fretting mightily about all the last minute Christmas things I would want to be doing that w/e and I imagine I’ll still be fretting at the wedding.
But the first weekend in December would have been fine for us. But not our decision or business I guess.

@SleepymrsE I was married between Christmas and New year too. OP, we had no issues, neither did our families. Only stipulation my dh had was no turkey for our meal so I didn't eat as I hate red meat. Lol

I`m with Isadora 20.07 all the way

Yes I'd go and I have been to weddings early december a few times. My only advice is HEATING. I've been a couple of times and whilst the couple were off getting photos taken the guests were left in a tiny area with no heating and not allowed to go in the main room and no food! It was woeful. So keep guests with plenty to do and nice warm areas of the venue if you plan to go off for 2 hours having photos done. Still fuming about that one!

But anyway yes I'd go and it sounds lovely. Enjoy.

My wedding was 2nd January and we loved it being wintery - Christmas decorations still up in church and we used dark green and gold colours. Loved it - i think only one cousin suggested the date was inconvenient but still came. 180 sat down for dinner and 250 at night 😱 definitely the right decision for us, I say go for it!

I'd definitely go.I went to a wedding on the 28th december which is a much more awkward date.Everyone showed up!

Our wedding was in early December. O day go for it! Think of the £2.5k you are saving. Whatever date you pick there will be someone who can't make it and it's barely Advent anyway.

Congratulations!

O day?! I say! 🤣

You sound really thoughtful and sensitive to your guests, OP. I see no reason why people might be concerned about the date, especially with a whole year's notice. I'm sure you could put £2500 savings to great use, too!

First weekend no problem :) I've been to one 23rd Dec (in the town centre!) and 27th and most people came. (inward grumble but they came) enough notice and no problem, 12 mths definitely enough notice :) the decorations were beautiful and the weather was beautiful (cold but crisp) and venue cheaper!

fwiw, we're off to wedding in mid-December on the other side of the world - the other hemisphere, so at least we won't be cold!

Do it! We got married mid November and it's wintery and lovely! I appreciate it's not quite December but only 2 weeks ish out. We had a (non Christmas) winter theme and got loads of decorations like pine cone candles and bits for the venue in the January sales before!

Oh it's so magical getting married in December.

We got married a couple.of days before Christmas. It was brilliant. We had a little snow on the ground which made the photos gorgeous! And the atmosphere was great!

Do.it!!

We got married Christmas Eve and everybody invited came

We got married first weekend of December last year, it was beautiful and so festive. Our little boy turned 1 a few days later so it’s a very special time of year for us x
Definitely do it 😊

Plenty of notice (3-4 months in advance). I'm planning a wedding atm (albeit not a December one) but may I suggest some decorating things? I'd use plenty of gold and white & candles, lots of them. I've seen some great winter weddings.

Are we all invited, cause it sounds amazing!

I got married December 8th - sent 'save the dates' in the previous Christmas cards.

It snowed. Lots. But it is unusual for the amount we had in December. Most people made it.

Tbh the people saying 'I wouldn't go' are miserable sods who would probably find a reason not to go whenever you have it.

I had a Christmas theme and people loved it.

Winter weddings are lovely. Go for it!

I got married in mid December. We sent out save the dates with Christmas cards the year before so have people plenty of notice. I don’t think we had anyone not be able to come. It was a beautiful day with clear blue skies. I loved it.

I'll come, it sounds lovely! Good idea to send the Save the Date card out really early, maybe send official invitations out by July/August? Good luck!

op it sounds lovely.good for you.
it also means family and friends get to see eacohter closer to chrismtas that they might not have already been able to make time for/moeny for around this time of year especailly.
you seem to have ti all planned out and i think its going to be wonderful :)