AIBU December wedding ..

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Hi ladies (and gents!)

Would like your feedback on something …

How would you feel about being invited to a wedding on the first weekend in December?

I ask because my OH and I have been looking at venues and found one we love but a winter wedding at our venue is £2,500.00 cheaper than spring/summer plus our venue décor works out cheaper if we go for winter. At first, I hated the thought of a December wedding but now I am growing to love it, especially as our venue will be so Christmassy. I would hate to put anyone out so close to Christmas and would be specifically requesting NO gifts. We will be laying on return coach transport (venue is 20 mins away in the next town) to cut out expensive taxi’s, and canapes, 3 course choice meal, 4 drinks PP and an evening buffet will be paid for by us, so really, guests wont be out any money unless they want more than 4 drinks (we’re Scottish so it’s likely they will lol!)

I know it’s our day, but our friends and family mean a lot to us and I wanted an outside opinion.

To add, we will be inviting 90-day guests and a further 25 in the evening.

Thanks!

Sounds lovely but check with the people who must be there ASAP, and send the save the dates early (I'm guessing this is for 2020). Not everyone has busy social lives anyway

As long as the weather is not terrible and people can't travel I dont see the problem apart from the cost which may put some people of despite you saying no gifts. . Why don't you ask your closest family and friends and if they say they will be able to attend go ahead with it.

sounds lovely

Yup I would go to one.

I love a December wedding! Just make sure you send a save the date or your invites with plenty of notice!

I've also been to a wedding on the 22nd December which was brilliant too- so xmassy!

Our wedding was 22nd December and we have three children who were 5,3 and almost 2 at the time. Lots of organisation required as we were engaged and married within the year but everyone came from varying distances and I wouldn’t change a thing. We did book a whole hotel and provide rooms so people would have an opportunity to party and relax before Christmas. If I win the lottery I will hold an anniversary/Christmas party the same weekend there every year for all of our friends and family

Then pre kids I’d go
Now- no- too many activities and family obligations then

Willalso add- probably outing- I work in retail. I don’t get Christmas off (think the one with the big sale...) so to the 5 years of weddings on 27.12 (because so pretty and christmassy) I’ve used ALL my holiday chips and good Will in order to be there. Won’t do that again either

I had a late December wedding, it was lovely! Everyone was still in Christmas spirits!

I know 5 other couples who got married in late December!

Also...I had a cold, crisp, sunny winter day and my photos were taken just as the sun was setting... just perfect!

Everyone we invited came along!

Winter Christmassy wedding xx lovely

I’d go it sounds lovely!

I got married early December, was just perfect. 🙂

I got married mid December, it was great! We had quite a few people at our wedding and all but one person were able to come. Go for it, it will be great!

I got married in December. It was beautiful.

We got married 19th December and it was lovely. Do it OP!

I wouldn’t be keen, but I’m lazy! In December most people have a zillion social obligations, are skint, and riddled with germs.

I don’t understand the angst here. People will come because they are free and want to, or not if they have plans or don’t want to. This will be the case in any day of the year.

This is mumsnet. Visions of RSVPs being returned with "Are you on glue?" scribbled on them.

I used to work in the industry. Winter especially December weddings aren't well attended.

People are saving for Christmas, on leave bans at work (especially if they work in Christmas related jobs like retail or Amazon or manufacturing gifts), they don't feel confident driving in bad weather, and there's the flu factor! People are far more like to come down with a bug this time of year (or claim they have)

How far away is reception and is there a possibility of weather bad enough to stop bus going there? Just thinking you said you were scots so assuming you're marrying in Scotland the weather can be shit and very unpredictable

The response to you sending save the dates will let you know how guests feel - but by that point you face losing deposit

I got married the Friday before Xmas. I only gave 3 months notice (as soon as we got engaged), and at least half of the small wedding party had to travel from Ireland to London. The only person who didn't come was our friend who lived in the next street! It was a wonderful day, we didn't get snow but London at Xmas was very atmospheric! I wore a red velvet mini suit and had holly berries in my hat and table decorations. Good luck!

We got married on the 17th December and it was fab! Some people couldn’t make it but those who could were all in the Christmas spirit already and we had a great time! I love Christmas even more than before as it holds such special memories for us now.

December weddings are my very favourites. I was going to say it's short notice for people and they often get booked with holiday plans, but with a 1 year save the date it sounds perfect! Go for it! Photos will be beautiful!

Do it.

The only one I grumbled at was on 22nd December 200 miles away.