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To never go in my little girls room again!?

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FedUp1850 · 24/09/2019 00:22

Soooooooo Aragog is residing in my little girls bedroom. He is massive. I just can't go in there. He's been in there for days, I shut the door and put a blanket down at the bottom to hopefully keep it in there.

I'm petrified of spiders. My mum said that her mum put one right up in her face when she was a kid, thinking about it almost sent me into cardiac arrest 😅. Someone help me overcome this irrational fear!

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SchadenfreudePersonified · 24/09/2019 08:10

*WASPS, not asps.

Though asps probably aren't very nice either.

FedUp1850 · 24/09/2019 08:10

@AllStarBySmashMouth wasps are worse, I'm allergic to the sting. But I actually have a genuine reason to hate them. Anaphylaxis is not nice.

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NearlyGranny · 24/09/2019 08:10

Is it unreasonable to demand that all umninvited spiders occupying human habitation be repatriated to wherever they lived before people built houses?

You could slide a tiny eviction notice under the door. We have autumn immigrants with us at. Well, it might be one that keeps returning. It encountered me on the stairs last night. They're quite clumsy scrambling down hoping to remain unseen. I gave it verbal notice to quit.

DH deals with them grudgingly with a plastic bowl and thin, strong card.

Likethebattle · 24/09/2019 08:12

@SylvanianFrenemies that was also the way I developed no fear of spiders. My mum was terrified of them so sent me to deal with them.

FedUp1850 · 24/09/2019 08:14

@Nanamilly I have shut the door and tried to seal the bottom of it, I haven't set foot in there since, it's been days. I won't even put my little girl to bed in there. I am terrified of them, it is a phobia.

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TheProdigalKittensReturn · 24/09/2019 08:15

My wasp related feels.

www.memecenter.com/fun/1979421/bees-wasps-hornets-be-like

NearlyGranny · 24/09/2019 08:16

DH offers to come round and sort it for you if you're in anywhere in the SW. He just has to finish his cuppa.

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 24/09/2019 08:19

My more serious advice is, find someone who's not terrified of the evil 8 legged monsters and have them kill it for you. Or take it outside. I personally don't care what happens to them as long as it happens a long way away from me.

99problemsandjust1appt · 24/09/2019 08:20

I dont like them at all dd had a massive one under her bed, he had been sitting on her unicorn cushion relaxing when I walked in on him and he hid.
I had to go and borrow some of teenage dd white jeans and a white top, socks over jeans and hair in a bun in a shower cap and I then proceeded to buy by bit with a torch and a stick empty under her bed. He hid so well and there was no way I was risking him crawling on me and not seeing where he was hence the white clothing.
Got him in the end but it took 2 hours 40 mins and I sweat, a lot

99problemsandjust1appt · 24/09/2019 08:22

I wish my dad lived nearer he used to come round and scoop them up, talk to them and take them outside but told me I was better leaving them as they wouldnt hurt and did a lot of good eating other bugs and things
I was always in awe of how kindly he spoke to them

FedUp1850 · 24/09/2019 08:25

@Tumbleweed101 No, I can't bring myself to open the door. I have laid a blanket down at the bottom but it's a big one and there isn't really gap so I don't think it would fit anyway.

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FedUp1850 · 24/09/2019 08:26

@NearlyGranny SE if that's any good.

@speakout yes, on a serious note - I do.

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placemats · 24/09/2019 08:27

You will never see that spider again.

Take your daughter into your bed. Snuggles with children are the best.

Deep breaths.

At least it's not a gigantic moth.

Tensixtysix · 24/09/2019 08:30

It's my daily job to get rid of spiders. Big ones, small ones, nothing fazes me. I'll go headlong into cobwebs when required.

I'm a cleaner, you wouldn't believe the state of some houses I start cleaning at. One had webs all over the ceiling. The owner never noticed it had got that bad.
Get the vac on it!

TheAlternativeTentacle · 24/09/2019 08:31

This whole 'women petrified of insects' schtick is really fucking dull.

Just pop a glass over it, slide a piece of card under and flip it out the door/window.

Honestly.

FedUp1850 · 24/09/2019 08:32

@placemats I just am petrified of bugs/arachnids/reptiles in general, as well moths. I can only just stomach ants and flies. The rest just aren't welcome here.

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gingersausage · 24/09/2019 08:37

@Toastymash Tunisia?? Who knows what creepy horrors might lurk there?

FedUp1850 · 24/09/2019 08:40

@Tensixtysix I can only see webs if I see them over lights.

@TheAlternativeTentacle no, I am actually terrified of them. It's not a girly 'ewwww' type of thing. I can't fucking do it. The sense of dread I feel when I see a spider or anything alike I freeze or run, I really do have a genuine phobia. Sweaty palms, dread, my blood actually runs cold, I can't calm down. My friend actually said she couldn't understand me when I phoned her. Arachnophobia is a real thing.

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ravenshope · 24/09/2019 08:46

@TheAlternativeTentacle

I'm not a "woman petrified of insects"- can handle any others plus mice, rats etc.
The photo upthread has me nauseous and shaking.
For some of us it's not a little woman help me act, but a genuine phobia.
Interestingly there is a little spider on my outside window I am watching daily to desensitise myself and that's going really well. But the shock of something like that picture and also the fact it is a different kind of spider, means it doesn't work here. Which is actually more annoying than interesting, come to think of it.

glitterfarts · 24/09/2019 08:46

@SaraNade - I lived 2 decades in Oz, they seem to come inside far more often in the UK. They aren't poisonous, but they are huge.

As a lifelong arachnophobic, who will have a panic attack and stop breathing if a spider crawls on me, I suggest putting a cry for help on your local facebook page, or knocking on a neighbours door.
However, there's no way I could have taken my eyes off it, then it could move and surprise me elsewhere.

Missingstreetlife · 24/09/2019 08:51

Please don't kill spiders. They eat flies and are essential part of ecology. Try opening window, it may let itself out or get someone to come and put it outside. You are teaching your daughter to be afraid.
I know they look strange, I don't particularly like dealing with them but don't kill them.
I think there is a spider deterring spray but maybe dreamed it

ScrambledEggForBrains · 24/09/2019 08:54

Are you seeing balloons at all? It could be Pennywise the dancing clown in the day time, or Ronald MacDonald 🤡🕷

AloeVeraLynn · 24/09/2019 08:54

Call the police, say there is a Michael Myers/Freddie Kruger type character in your house and you're very concerned. When they turn up, how lucky that the serial killer is gone but "while you're here would you mind dealing with Aragog?"

FedUp1850 · 24/09/2019 08:55

@Missingstreetlife I never kill spiders, I can't get close enough anyway!

My mum is coming over later, hopefully she can come and get it.

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madeyemoodysmum · 24/09/2019 08:56
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