To never go in my little girls room again!?

[FedUp1850]

Soooooooo Aragog is residing in my little girls bedroom. He is massive. I just can't go in there. He's been in there for days, I shut the door and put a blanket down at the bottom to hopefully keep it in there.

I'm petrified of spiders. My mum said that her mum put one right up in her face when she was a kid, thinking about it almost sent me into cardiac arrest 😅. Someone help me overcome this irrational fear!

My toddler kills spiders for me, if he sees one he picks up a shoe or ball and kills it. Money spiders and tiny bugs he squashes with his fingers

That is a horrible thing to teach children.

That is a horrible thing to teach children.

Yes.
Teaching a child to kill harmless creatures.
That's disgusting! Are you proud of this?
How will he know when to stop?

Jesus. I'm properly terrified of them and I would never train my child to kill them. The fact you find that funny is really unsettling. Not normal behaviour for a toddler.

@Mamabear144
unbelievable.
You've taught your child to kill things just because you don't like the look of them? You should be shamed.

Agreed with others @Mamabear144 , that is absolutely disgusting and irresponsible of you, and you'd better train him out of it before he goes to school or else the teacher and other kids will come down on him. So evil and cruel. You're training him to be a monster with no appreciation for tiny creatures (that are all important to the ecosystem). I can assure you that the school will not look favourably at this at all, he may even be punished. And boys that go around killing bugs are usually ostracised. If he goes around hitting creatures with shoes and squashing them in his hands, he will soon be known as a budding psycho. I am not even kidding. You really should feel very ashamed and embarrassed and nip this in the bud now, sooner than later, for his own mental welfare.

Hes perfectly fine mentally and kills them because I'm terrified of them, he absolutely loves animals and things so nothing to worry about there and doesn't hurt others unless it's done by accident. Also literally everybody I know kills spiders so no need to be so dramatic about it. He knows the difference between killing a spider and anything else.

Training kids to be monsters? Bit dramatic isnt it

@Mamabear144 So just because you're terrified of a creature, that means your son should kill it? Is that what you're really truly saying? If I am terrified stiff of dogs, does that give my DC the right to kill any dogs in my vicinity? Spiders are still animals too.

"Also literally everybody I know kills spiders"
It's normally the child making the 'everyone does it!' argument not the adult. And 'just because' 'everyone else kills spiders' doesn't make it right. If everyone else speeds or steals, would that make it right?

It's still teaching a child bad influences.

Mamabear I really hope if there's such a thing as reincarnation you come back as a spider, living in a house with someone like you.

@slipperywhensparticus Maybe it is dramatic, and maybe this is too, but most serial killers do start out by torturing or killing small animals. Stomping on things like harmless spiders and other creatures like that is often a precursor. And a lot of their parents just wrote it off as boys being boys etc. Yeah, I know people might laugh at this but it is truly shocking that a parent would think that getting objects and killing creatures with it or picking them up and squashing them is a good thing to teach your child to do or psychologically normal. If he can pick it up to squash it, why can he not just relocate it? Set it outside?

Oh my God the dramatics, it's a spider, hes not a psychopath or serial killer if he kills a spider. So you're telling me that everybody I know must be a serial killer because its normal to kill spiders? He can't "relocate it" because he's a toddler and not allowed outside on his own and not a chance would I go near the spider. I'm actually sitting here laughing at the reactions and dramatic over my child killing a few spiders, but then again maybe he gets the psychopathic behaviour from me😂😂😂

I never said he is a psychopath or serial killer, calm down with your own dramatics. That you find this so funny says a lot about you and the type of values you will instill in your son. Other posters on here have told you that your attitude is disgusting, not just me. Doubling down instead of admitting that maybe you need a rethink and taking stock of what people are saying says everything about you. And goes to prove my point.

Well he's getting the attitude from you, whatever you like to call it.
"If I don't like it I can stomp on it."
That will go down well when another child upsets him in the school playground.

Where I come from it's perfectly normal and acceptable to kill a spider so yes I find all of these responses absolutely hilarious. And I know I'm a good mother so I don't need anybody to tell me otherwise.

@Mamabear144 Well where you come from may very well be barbaric, uncivilised and with zero regard for any life smaller than you - and that says a lot about you and where you live - but it is NOT perfectly normal or acceptable elsewhere to stomp on creatures or pick them up and squish them. That is not normal human behaviour. It appears you have had an upbringing where it is acceptable and normal kill things that terrify you hence it doesn't seem like you son ever had a chance. What is sad is that you are not grown up enough to take this on board and just admit what you are teaching him is wrong, almost like a stubborn child refusing to admit they're wrong. A mature mother would say ok I take your point, not say we're all hilarious just because you think that behaviour is normal and acceptable when it is very clear by the responses that it is not normal or acceptable. When we know better, we do better. There is never shame in being humble and mature enough to acknowledge that.

Obviously if we were terrified of anything other than spiders we would not harm them so no it doesn't say anything about who we are as people. It doesn't make me immature not to agree with you, we all have our opinions and my child is in no way harmful or aggressive, he is a happy and healthy little boy with a loving and caring nature, he loves animals and other children and would never harm them on purpose. If you do not know us personally then you cannot comment on his or my upbringing. Every family or town or country or whatever does things differently. In our house we certainly do not invite spiders to set up camp and we do not allow them to stay. They are not welcome, we are terrified so they must go. I have no shame and I never will.

Your last sentence was all you needed to post.
I feel sorry for your son and hope he hasn't learned too much from you.

I feel your pain. I once had the same problem at home, my hubby was away for work. Normally my son (then 5) would save me but this was too big even for him. I couldn't leave the room in case it moved and then I didn't know where it was. My neighbour was as petrified of them as I was. In the end I rang my ex boyfriend (this was at 7am) to come and save me. Thankfully he did. Not sure his wife was terribly happy about it as apparently he got out of bed with her to drive over!! Bless the man! But it was an emergency! My hubby found it hilarious.
I'd ask a neighbour personally.
Then get to Tesco and buy Fresh Basil/lavender/mint/citronella plants and strategically place them. Also white vinegar round all the doors and windows just wiped on. No the house wont smell like a chippy. may be an old wives tale but I see very few since taking the above measures.

Where I come from it's perfectly normal and acceptable to kill a spider so yes I find all of these responses absolutely hilarious

What's the weather like in Wankerville?

Hover.

Hoover even!

@onefootinthegrave quite rainy, cloudy the odd bit of sunshine.

I have asked both a friend and my neighbour on several occasions for help - I am PETRIFIED!