To never go in my little girls room again!?

[FedUp1850]

Soooooooo Aragog is residing in my little girls bedroom. He is massive. I just can't go in there. He's been in there for days, I shut the door and put a blanket down at the bottom to hopefully keep it in there.

I'm petrified of spiders. My mum said that her mum put one right up in her face when she was a kid, thinking about it almost sent me into cardiac arrest 😅. Someone help me overcome this irrational fear!

This whole 'women petrified of insects' schtick is really fucking dull.

My Dh and Son are scared of them too if that helps?

OP it's definitely safe now because my DH came upstairs this morning and informed me Aragog was scuttling about our kitchen blinds. He then fucked off to work, leaving the baby and me to fend for ourselves against the eight legged beast.

Hopefully he's not as big as Shelob that scuttled under our couch a few weeks back and was found squished under the cat tunnel a few days later (good cats!)

My mum is not scared of them and neither is my sister so it is not always a learned thing.

Yeah neither of my parents are scared of spiders either

Have my sympathy OP. Yes it's irrational but that doesn't mean it's not real fear.

I deal with the spiders in our house because DH is scared of them (will Hoover them if I'm not about).

Daddy long legs on the other hand....... no, nope, not a friggin chance!

There are no poisonous spiders in the UK.

I think you are right. There are some venomous ones though...
Luckily not as venomous as creatures on other continents. Our just cause swelling. Occasionally bigger issues. But there are very few of them and normally they don't go and bite, unless they have to.

OP, seek help. My friend had a massive phobia of moths and it stopped her going out with kids and do other stuff. Also her gilrs started to freak out around moths too. It was then when she realised she needs to seek help. She is still afraid of them as in she wouldn't touch them, but she can now deal with them without locking herself with children in one room for a whole day.
Good luck!

I do wonder how people would react to a group of men posting like this.

@BertrandRussell we all know how...

@RightYesButNo your reply was absolute genius really made me LOL x

I don't believe it's necessarily a learned behaviour, my mum adores spiders and my dad happily just scoops them up in hand and pops them outside. I don't even mind the tiny ones but something about those big brown ones with the huge fat legs truly and irrationally makes my skin crawl. Just thinking about them makes me feel slightly queasy. Popping the glass over and hearing their legs scuttle on the paper gives me the absolute fear 🙈. I'm generally a very strong and rational person. There is really no reasoning for this. DD(9) happily scoops them up for me and puts them outside

I don't have any advice the spider could be anywhere now tho OP it can quite easily go under skirting board etc you should of splatted it with your shoe when you first saw it, I hate spiders but I hate the thought of them roaming my house more so always splat them when I see them and I've had some beasty ones just lately. I'm wondering if it's the change in temperature.

Good luck x

I do wonder how people would react to a group of men posting like this.

I actually know alot of men who hate spiders, it's a pretty common phobia, not just a "lady one"

Please try to overcome your fear and do the glass and cardboard trick, spiders are not the baddies that they are made out to be! That said, I had a neighbour many years ago who was a top policeman and absolutely terrified of spiders. I was often called upon when there was no one else available to carry out the above trick.

humans are not born with a response to spiders that causes them to squeal and run away.

I think we pretty much are, and even if we aren't we develop it early in life for a very good reason . . . fear of snakes and insects is an instinctive reaction because A LOT OF THEM ARE BLOODY DANGEROUS!

In evolutionary terms, the person who blithely picks up anything with more than four legs or less than two is looking to be taken out of the gene pool.

We've had three monsters since about 8 last night. I know they are supposed to be in the house all the time, but there does always seem to be a bit of a spike in numbers when it gets wet and chilly.

I'm on hight alert now, but trying to look brave.

If you do go the splatting route (and I do, even though I wouldn't splat any other kind of creature really ) a nice flexible flip flop is the way to go

There are no poisonous spiders in the UK.

I think you have to eat a lot of them for it to work.

Oh god sorry OP. I wouldn't be much help either. Could you ask a friend to come and help?

I wouldn't say I have a phobia. I just don't like them. I can look, but I can't get close enough to get rid of them. They make me very uncomfortable.

My mum hates them, gets very worked up around them whereas my dad can just pick them up in his hands and throw them outside so maybe that's why I'm in the middle!

DH can get rid of them in a glass but he doesn't like it if they start to run!

I used to be scared of spiders, still am but have learnt to deal with them since being a single parent. I can now place a glass over them, slide a bit of card underneath and put the spider outside, I have hoovered a few up and have killed a few (if they run towards me) 😁

If you do go the splatting route (and I do, even though I wouldn't splat any other kind of creature really confused) a nice flexible flip flop is the way to go

I use a crap spatula from IKEA that was too useless to be worth cooking with.

Aww poor spider

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I do wonder how people would react to a group of men posting like this.

I would imagine that people who have experience of a genuine phobia would be sympathetic, as they are here. And you'd get a lot of twats saying things like "But they're not poisonous", as if that's at all relevant.

Hi Fedup1850,
I'm also terrified of spiders but I have good advice for you. Please use a kitchen mop with fibres to get the spider out of your house or flat. The spider will cling to the fibres and won't crawl onto the long handle. Then run like mad and throw the mop out!!! Always works for me. I can't bear to look at spiders and feel I will also have a heart attack if I come close. I now have 3 mops in separate parts of my house just for spiders! Let us know if you managed please, best of luck xx

I know a number of men, including my DP, with arachnophobia. On the other hand, I have no issue with spiders and nor does my mum. So it's not a female thing. Anyone can be afraid of spiders.

Phobias are a real and debilitating condition.

What most people experience (as I do with wasps) is a more extreme reaction than normal that can and should be overcome.

@TheProdigalKittensReturn damn straight. I love bees. They are fluffy and sweet and I shall save them all from extinction!

But wasps??? They can fuck right off.

My dh also believes I have a real phobia. Crying, shaking etc. If I see a large one I have to close the door if dh is not here until he is home and can remove it otherwise I scream until he comes.

Op posting 'get a grip' etc really aren't helpful. I wish I didn't have the response I do but it's not a rational fear.

I've also had the unfortunate experience of having two on me, one rather large, still makes my hairs stand on end.