To think getting someone’s name wrong is rude?

[KyraLittle]

So I’m having some meetings with someone at work and this week is the first time we’ve ever met.

She got my name wrong once and I corrected her.

This morning she again called me the wrong name.

My name is not difficult.

Before ML I worked in a client-facing role. I would repeat their name back to them because if I didn’t I’d find it nigh on impossible to remember. I also store new contacts under their name and child’s because the child’s is easier.

There is one child who I currently have a lot of contact with via work, and despite my best intentions , I just can't get that name right all the time. Sometimes yes, other times it just comes out of my mouth incorrectly.

I try to remember names by relating them to something else with that sound or syllable - but some names are more difficult to do this with than others.
I think people need to be given some slack.

Names are hard. They just are. Esp if you have loads of people coming in and out of life.

I am awful with faces, terrible with names and even worse with "call me xyzs". I try my best, but sometimes I forget and sometimes my brain has already programmed you as x when you are in fact y and it takes a while for me to reprogram it. Sorry if that offends you, I'm doing my best.

Oh and I ask and apologise for names that are wrong but it does often get to the point where it is embarrassing to ask again.

I also often avoid using some names and then have to convolute my entire conversation in order to do so.

I'm terrible at remembering names and it's so embarrassing. I'm sure they are mortified!

Maybe it’s a genuine mistake. Or maybe she’s putting too much pressure on herself to remember your name as daft as it sounds. I can relate though, Theresa gentleman at work who is called either Charlie or George and I always get it wrong despite being told several times

I wish people would be more relaxed about it, then we'd feel less bad.

So it’s not you fault for not making the effort to remember a name - it’s THEIR fault for expecting you to remember and being annoyed when you don’t?!

Yes @StillCoughingandLaughing, because if it’s not done deliberately then you should cut people some slack.

Totally agree with you OP.

There is one child who I currently have a lot of contact with via work, and despite my best intentions , I just can't get that name right all the time. Sometimes yes, other times it just comes out of my mouth incorrectly.

^^

So just don't say their name? 'Hello!' rather than 'Hello Sarah' or whatever?

So just don't say their name? 'Hello!' rather than 'Hello Sarah' or whatever?

Isn't that why actor-y types call everyone Darling? Darling means never having to remember a name...

Some people are genuinely forgetful with names - I'm great with faces, not as goid with names - hate introducing people as i am scared I'll have a mental block. Once, i was speaking about bf at the time and i loved him very much but could not for the life of me bring his name to the forefront!
It's not being deliberately rude. Correct politely and move on.
They'll feel bad enough they've got it wrobg again so be gentle