DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

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DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

Quite a few of our babygros have zips - they're amazing!

DD's 'day wear' when it's not onesies is generally a leggings + top combo (I think we own the entire catalogue of JoJo Maman Bebe and Blade and Rose). She does have chubby legs though so rolling the leggings down and back up sometimes isn't that easy and the worst is when you roll them down but not far enough and there's poop and then things get bad.

Both the Sainsbury's and the H&M zip up baby gros had horrible rough edges from the zip on the inside, which put me off them as I thought they'd be very uncomfortable for the baby. Maybe they were just the wrong brands.

Babygrows aren't pyjamas. He's ridiculous.

I dressed my ds in 'proper' clothes when I took him out, when I saw others all in babygrows I could've cried with relief, made life so much easier and ds was much more comfortable and snuggly.

Ops husband, you are confusing onesies with baby grows. This is understandable, but wrong.

Is he always a twat?

I am with DH here. I KNOW MN always says it's fine to dress babies in gros every day but there are tonnes of nice footed leggings out there.

You can get different tops and bottoms to make a cute outfit...and they're easier for changes as no poppers.

She’s eight months old - so what if she’s wearing pyjamas anyway?

My DD is two and I felt a prang if sadness recently that I'll never see her in a baby grow again. They look so sweet.

Condescending and twatish remark from your DH.

He IBU for the “struggling today?” comment. That would hack me off.

However, I love dressing my kids, and liked to sort ‘day time babygrows’ from ‘nighttime babygrows.’ From 3 months onwards, I liked to dress them in proper outfits - I don’t mean jeans and a shirt, but soft cotton or cord dungarees, tights and comfy jersey dresses, little romper suits in the summer, basically comfy baby clothes in cute patterns and colours. Onesies seem like kind of a waste during the day, I’ll see them in those at night.

My DDS night wear was a vest as we had a sleeping bag for her.
She wore white baby grows and hand knitted cardies in different colours.
An aunt bought her a pinifore dress set(tights,turtle neck top and pinafore dress) ,she wore it is once to visit.Keeping hold of a wriggling child in clothes that don't stay put is a thankless task.
Baby grows all the way.

Personally I couldnt be bothered with babygrows after 6 months, way too much faff with all the poppers and wriggling. Leggings vest and a top was so much easier

I just don’t understand why anyone would put their lil princess in babygros outside the house. They are babies for such a short time. They’re going to look back at photos and wish they’d made the effort.

Disclaimer- I also think of Babygrows as pajamas. I only took my babies out in them when I was having a tough day, just needed to get out and couldn't be bothered getting them changed.

That said, YANBU! Lots of babies wear them all the time. Your husband is rude for implying that you're 'struggling' unless it came from a place of genuine concern and an offer to lighten your load.

If I had sent DH a photo of our baby in a babygro he would have known that for me, that was was a sign I was having a rough day and he would have written 'how are you travelling today? Would you like me to sort dinner?' Your DH was not being constructive at all, he was just throwing some mild criticism your way because he personally likes the baby to be dressed differently.

Rude!

#struggling mother #squandering memories #living our second rate life

I have a 7 month old and I put her in babygros to go out sometimes. She looks so comfy and cute!

My dd is 11 this year. One of the pics a pp posted reminds me of how bloody cute she was in her babygro. I can hear her crawling after me with the slap slap of her hands on the floor 😭😭
op keep your baby a baby for as long as possible 💜

How he spoke was really bombastic and patronising. Plus, saying he doesn’t care because he doesn’t want to admit he’s incorrect is very unattractive.
Babygros are NOT pyjamas...they are clothes that are practical for warmth/access/comfort on baby skin. All of mine are in them pretty much constantly until age one/when walking.

Please be aware some men intentionally want to fake a storyline/history that you “struggle” to threaten you with getting custody of children in a break-up.

I'm going to be the annoying dissenter here. I think it's okay for your husband to have his own opinion. He said you could dress your child how you like. It's just his opinion that you are dressing your child in pyjamas.

Most babies wear sleepsuits outside. Not until they're walking do they need to be dressed like mini adults.

If my dp gave two shits about what I dressed the kids in and decided to have a dig I'd tell him if it's such a bloody issue then you take some time to dress them yourself. If you can't be bothered then stfu.

Your husband is the odd one ! All Mums love babygro's, and all babies love them too.. so that's settled then !!

Babygros are great! Tell him to sort out the outfits in future if he is that bothered.

One thing though--if you use a sling, make sure the babygro is pretty roomy and on the large size and tweak the legs downwards after putting them in the sling, otherwise they can get their toes kind of twisted up which may not be good for them. Same with jumperoos and things like that.

I am the first to freely and openly judge adult wearers-of-pyjamas-in-public as total scuzzers. I even judge children in public in pyjamas.

But non-walking babies are meant to be dressed in nothing but onesies, for heaven's sake.

He didn't "have a go", he asked if you are struggling. To me, thats considerate.

FWIW, IMHO a child that age in a babygro is in its pyjamas, would you wear a onsie to Asda?