DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

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DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

I prefer to dress babies as babies rather than mini adults so don't do 'day clothes' 'pajamas' etc.

But there's nothing wrong with dressing then anyway at all as long as it is comfy/clean/temperature appropriate. I'd be telling DH to fuck off if he decided to criticize my choice of clothes (but he wouldn't).

Being ridiculous. But not unusually so ime.

I'm pretty sure I've posted before about the daft Health Visitor who suggested I needed to dress DD during the day so that she could learn to distinguish between day and night.

I think my face may have been a picture.

Maybe everyone else had lovely placid babies who stayed still during the endless popping?!

Even when mine were still I still regularly got the poppers wrong and had to un pop and start again. Hated it!

My DS stopped wearing baby gros outside when he was about 6 months - he stopped wearing them altogether at about 11 months when I realised baby PJ's existed and I'd been a stupid fool dealing with poppers for so long.

He wore, and continues to wear, soft trousers or leggings with t-shirts or jumpers. He has a couple of pairs of soft jeans (elasticated waistbands) if he needs to look a bit smarter (for a meal with family for example). He's largely in his nappy round the house because he likes to show me his toddler bod!

You're fine! I always took my kids out in baby gros when they were that age! Everyone does! He needs to alter his expectations. If you're looking after the kid, you dress it as you see fit!

My 19 month old daughter still wears babygros, sometimes if I am in a rush getting all 3 kids ready in the morning, I put her boots and coat over the sleepsuit

No one, has ever told me I shouldn't do so?

Your husband is being ridiculous. I’d be furious.

I must be one of the few that found babygrows a pain in the bum when babies started being mobile. Trying to do the blooming poppers up when they were wriggling 😭.

But I dressed my babies in clothes during the day. I found it easier.

The were you struggling today comment was such a patronising thing to say, Your Husband was an arse for that comment.

I loved my DD In a baby grow and would have ones that she only wore when out and about. I did stop around 6 months old, but I wouldn't look twice in a park at a baby... in a babygrow.

When he changes his life completely and stays at home to look after the child, then he can have an opinion in what she must wear when she is out.

Until then he can keep his ridiculous opinion to himself.

Does he try to control you in other ways too?

Well that sounds passive aggressively condescending. Does he by any chance rarely have charge of his child for any length of time such that he has failed to understand how sensible it is to have a baby in a onesie like this?

Baby grows are perfectly reasonable, practical daywear for babies. Who does your DH imagine is judging this daily baby fashion parade he sends to think is going on?

@yabbers that’s what I thought! As soon as he’s the one looking after the baby, he can choose the baby’s outfit 🙄

But she wasn't wearing pj's. She was wearing a babygro, perfectly acceptable clothes for a baby to wear. And to imply you are 'struggling' because you didn't dress her in what he thinks is pretty shitty and unsupportive.

Probably the silliest thread I've seen all day (well his comment). But it does put actual problems into perspective.

My first born was always dressed in proper outfits, he looked like a little person. And then when I had my second I wanted to keep her in the baby stage a bit longer and savour it, so I put her in baby grows because you know, it's a baby - grow. An outfit for a baby. It's absolutely fine. She wore them until she was about 18 months old.

Now I'm on baby no 3. I don't care what she wears so long as it's clean and warm. Sometimes leggings and a top sometimes a babygrow.

Jesus wept 2019 and you're just a mum enjoying your baby and you can't do it without a problem. I hope it's not come from somewhere else and someone hasn't put a seed in his head like his mum or sister saying "she must be struggling that baby is always in pyjamas ect". Only suggesting that as I struggle to believe a dad could be that weird about something so not a problem

I used to love babygros so easy to get them ito and in the summer they had the feetless, short sleeved versions. They always seemed so much more comfy than mini adult clothes IYKWIM. Your DH is a bit of an arse

Hmmm, a baby in actual baby clothes...can't see the issue myself? Personally I hate seeing under 1s in regular clothes like mini adults.

I am laughing at the thought of a baby in a waterfall cardigan, though (first page)

This thread has made me feel a lot better thank you - I refuse to be criticised by my DH for looking after our DD all day, keeping her clean and comfortable. FWIW I think he was trying to make a point with his "struggling" comment and it's come back to bite him because I've held him to account and fought my corner!

I always dressed my babies in babygrows in the daytime. I did not regard them as pyjamas. Plus babies need to be comfy. Babygros are much comfier and more practical than little outfits. He is an idiot.

Seriously PA way of acting from your DH

Mine wore babygros for much of the time until they got mobile. Before they could sit, and were therefore on their backs most of the time, it seemed far more comfortable not having waists bunched up, socks sliding off and tops riding up. Gradually soft outfits, mainly dungarees crept in. For casually popping out e.g. the supermarket, they wore babygros for much of the first year.

We used babygros as nightwear up to age 2-3. They were long lean babies, so trousers slid off too easily.

Calling them "sleepsuits" is like gendered stuff, just another way to present something to make you buy more of it, in this case "day wear" and "night wear".

With my 2nd DD I made a conscious decision to dress her in baby grows during the day for a long as possible, ie until she walked. I see some babies in outfits that look hideously uncomfortable and they don't look any cuter than babies that are in sleep suits.

YANBU
Personally I would buy a wardrobe of onesies to wear out and about during the day just to prove a point. But I am petty AF

He sounds tiresome. Poor you!

First child: wearing cute colour coordinated outfits when leaving the home at all times.

Second child: babygros all the way!

They sell such cute outfit ones, that are clearly designed to be worn as day wear. They are not PJ's.

Am I the only one who had babygros with zips? They were so easy - arms and legs vaguely in place and then zip them up and let them wiggle around until everything's where it should be!