DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

[TopBoi]

DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

What a twat. Mate - you have issues. It’s a baby gro......it’s comfortable for a BABY....who is still just flopping around being all comfy and unrestrained. Don’t ruin it just yet with socks n skirts and layers and stupid headbands, etc etc. Your wife knows what she is doing fuck off and leave her to it.

Aussie here. My son wears onesies which I assume are the same as babygros most of the time unless we've a special occasion. It's so easy to take them off by just unzipping them and folding in comparison to outfits where you have to take the pants off

would you wear a onsie to Asda?

The OP hopefully wouldn't, but then again, she probably doesn't get pushed around in a mobile bed, complete with mattress and blanket, so it's kind of less appropriate for her.

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I see babygros as clothes for babies. I actually love the babygro and little cardigan look for babies.
I got similar comments a lot from people "Oh she's in her pyjamas" er no she's not. I used to take it to heart on my first but by my second I didn't care. I used to say it's not her pyjamas, it's her clothes. I really like them.
They usually just stopped then.
I love that look. Keep your baby in it as long as you can 🙂

Your husband is a weirdo...sorry!

Baby grows are the same as sleepsuits right? If so then yes they are PJs, and I personally don't do them as daywear past 6 months. I think he's entitled to the opinion he wants her dressed in daywear? I know some who always put their baby in (comfy) clothes from birth, and sleepsuits at night but another who kept her child in sleepsuits till 9 months! Mumsnet can be a bit anti-men sometimes, I feel like if someone posted in reverse saying that their OH took 8mo to park in sleepsuit they'd be criticising then too! You two need to talk and figure out when you'll be moving them to daywear in the day

Mr TopBoi, as you are reading, have you enough evidence or is this about something else? TopBoi is doing an amazing job. I think an apology is in order. Enjoy your baby both of you.

Oy unreasonable husband.

There are only a few items of clothes designed for babies, babygrows are one of them.The clue is in the name.

If you want your child dressed differently then you dress her, and change her, and change her again.

You two need to talk and figure out when you'll be moving them to daywear in the day

And evening wear for dinner I presume. Obvious a smoking jacket for after dinner but before bed.

DS lived in babygros for his first months; definitely pre walking.
I cringe when I see babies in miniature clothes, like jeans. They look so uncomfortable.

Practical, easy access clothing for babies. What on earth is the issue with DH and some of you?

My one year old wore a babygro (which to be fair was his pyjamas) to the supermarket and the crèche at the gym yesterday. We had a busy morning and it was clean so why would I add extra work and change him into a fancy outfit?

This is just curiosity - call it nosiness! - but what would OP's DH prefer to see his DD wearing, I wonder? And would it be radically different if the baby had been a DS instead?

As a society we do appear to have gone a bit doo-lally in demarcating the genders so extremely. We may have sown the wind here and already be beginning to reap the whirlwind. It is one explanation for the rash of sender dysphoria amongst the young and very young.

I am happily planning and beginning to make a stylish, practical gender-neutral wardrobe for my forthcoming DGC without yet having a clue which sex it is!

The thing is though that mn is not representative of real life. I'm in my 50s and I come across all sorts of people, I also live near a school and see many families going past, I rarely see any babies of that age in babygros.

I'm my experience, it's limited to a very specific type of family. Most babies of that age, outside of MN circles will be in some form of day clothes.

I cringe when I see babies in miniature clothes, like jeans. They look so uncomfortable.

Babygros are also miniature clothes...but the thing is, you don't HAVE to put jeans on your baby. There are tonnes of soft, comfortable options that aren't babygros.

TopBois husband - they’re not mini adults or dolls to be dressed up, there’s plenty of time for them to be ‘judged’ on what they’re wearing sadly. They’re babies and comfy baby grows are exactly what they should be wearing. Sorry if it upsets you, are you struggling today.

Both of mine lived in baby grows until around 9 months old. Then I started dressing them in daytime clothes, as it felt easier to manage and they were less sickly. Baby grows are cute but they are pyjamas!

Babygros are practical and comfy. I had dd in them loads during the day until she could walk! I had plain white ones for night and coloured ones for day. They’re perfect crawling clothes compared to trousers which can slip and impede them , or skirts where they can put their knee inside their skirt when crawling. So you’re thinking of her development! 😁

#LivingMyVestLife

No, it's the opposite of you wearing a onesie in Asda as an adult, not the same at all (from a class point of view). Well, no-one else has said it yet...

I noticed the class divide someone mentioned upthread. We lived in a very mixed area of London when I had my baby. Some baby groups were very much dominated by the middle class professionals and these tended to have lots of babies in babygros. Others had a less middle class some graphic and were dominated by babies in jeans and designer trainers.

Your DH is an idiot. Just be aware that as soon as your baby starts pulling to stand, and cruising, they aren’t safe and you’ll need to stop using them in the day. (Slippy feet!)

Eurochick meh...I know a woman who went to Benenden...posh as you get...her children all wore outfits. Expensive ones but outfits nonetheless.

Mine did too. Not jeans but soft, comfortable separates. Much more practical as if they have a nappy leak you only need to change the bottom part. Same with sick.

YANBU I dressed mine in baby grows until he was 12 months! Can get a good drip of them in when they wear them, they feel like they’re slipping through four fingers in separates lol!

Missing the point (cos babygrows are fine) but if you do want socks to stay put, get some 'sock-ons'.

I always dressed mine and kept babygro for pyjamas but there is no hard fast rule I guess. Infact mine came home from the hospital in an outfit, I couldn't wait to use all the cute clothes after 9mths of waiting!