DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

[TopBoi]

DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

[QueenofLouisiana]

Think it’s already all been said, but this thread has brought back lovely memories of tiny DS crawling in his baby-gro. Watching that little pudgy nappy bottom wiggling around

[KUGA]

Sorry if your born stupid you stay stupid and dh is .

[LadyMonicaBaddingham]

I loved babygros when my two boys were little, there's really nothing cuter than a baby in a babygro!

Tights under their trousers solved the sock-pulling/losing/cold feet issue when they were a bit bigger, though...

[mauvaisereputation]

Ooh I never knew I was an outlier, but I dress my baby in leggings and bodysuit during the day and babygro/sleepsuit at night. Reasons:

• I like her to be able to feel and try to grip stuff with her feet so I only put socks on her if we go out and it's chilly.
  
• I like her to wear something different at night to cement the day/night difference.
  
• I somehow feel it's more dignified to be wearing a top and leggings rather than a onesie.
  

I do see that the last one is absurd...

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

It doesn’t sound like he likes you, OP.

[Frangible]

I somehow feel it's more dignified to be wearing a top and leggings rather than a onesie.

You're quite right, @mauvaisereputation. Every time I encounter a baby wearing sleepwear in the frozen food aisle in Sainsbury's, I tut to myself and think 'Where is his dignity???'

An undignified baby is a sad, sad sight.

[Teaandcake1000]

OP, does he like to
Comment on what you wear?

Babies need to be comfy cool when it hot and warm when it’s cold.

Babygros are perfect.

[LisaSimpsonsbff]

I thought of this thread today when I noticed that one little boy in DS's toddler swimming class was dressed in a babygro (they're all aged between 1 and 2). He did indeed look absolutely adorable, but his mum definitely didn't find it easier to get him into a babygro than I found it to put DS in a T-shirt and joggers - he kept taking his legs out halfway through her doing up the poppers, and by the end they were essentially wrestling!

[yikesanotherbooboo]

I am a bit judgmental about people who dress babies in outfits. Carry on with the babygrows they are comfortable.

[AlansLeftMoob]

I dressed mine in babygros all the time, they're warmer. I think it's more ridiculous to put babies in frilly things and jeans, how could a baby be comfortable in jeans?! They need to be warm and comfy, tell your DH that if he feels that you are "struggling" then maybe he'd like to take a few days off and dress the baby himself while you get a well earned break. Fucker.

[NearlyGranny]

Topboi, the only possible response to "Were you really struggling today?" is,
"Why, were you? Never mind darling, you can tell DD and me all about it when you get home. You'll soon feel much better."

[messolini9]

"DH - it's called a BABYGROW & millions of little kids wear them. Get over yourself, & shut up while you're doing it."

Maybe you should start displaying similar surprise when he trots off to the office wearing his suit/the garage wearing his coveralls, OP?"

[messolini9]

Every time I encounter a baby wearing sleepwear in the frozen food aisle in Sainsbury's, I tut to myself and think 'Where is his dignity???'

[NearlyGranny]

And fwiw, the only things I really don't like seeing babies wear are headgear like back-to-front baseball hats, tweed flat hats and tiny pork pie hats. I think babies look undignified togged up like miniature adults. But that's just me. I know many people find them super-cute and adorable. 🤷

I'm making soft cotton jersey knotted sleep gowns and matching knotted hats Wee Willy Winky style for DGC No1's first months, with patterned all-in in ones or simple linen rompers over jersey bodysuits for daytime. I think I can make just about everything baby will need except socks and, later on shoes!

[Proudofmynane]

Why are kids clothes being described as uncomfortable? Off topic I know!! Go out OP and buy a big load of the prettiest, jazzyest most colourful onesies and rock it out! My Daughter was barefoot till she walked cos she chucked her sox off. I wish I had thought of a onesie!!

[AnnAlder]

Buy him a onesie so that he can feel how cosy an all in one is for himself 😁...... but seriously- My babies used to wear babygros all the time- I knew they were cosy in them and that’s the most important thing .

[NoIDontWatchLoveIsland]

There's always loads of people on these mnet threads saying their 1 yr old is in a babygro all day every day but yet when I go to baby groups etc ive never seen a baby older than 6m in one in the day time..... its one of those things everyone says on mnet, I'm not sure it happens in RL.

Soft trousers and tops or soft dungarees seem to be the norm in the day time as less fiddly to change nappies, no poppers.

That said, nothing wrong with it OP so your DH is being unreasonable.

[alittleprivacy]

Are babygrows actually particularly practical and comfortable for daytime for any baby beyond the first few months? If their nappy leaks, they get their sleeves wet, dribble all over their front, etc you have to change their whole outfit instead of just their little bottoms or top. In terms of a baby that's starting to get mobile an all in one is restrictive compared to two pieces. When you are just learning to move about, it helps if moving your arms does not affect your feet and vice versa. And if the babygrow goes over their feet, as most do, you are making movement even more uncomfortable. There is a reason we as adults tend to wear socks that are totally separate from our necks and wrists, this is even more important to someone newly mastering controlled movement. DS was a fairly early walker, he walked fairly well before 10mo, but the difference in his ability was distinctly different in two piece outfits and babygrows because the babygrows inhibited his freedom of movement.

Little long sleeved tops and jersey trousers are far superior in terms of practicality. Both in terms of baby's comfort and parents ease of dressing/changing/limiting laundry needs. Babygrows are only more comfortable to lie down in.

[Beesandcheese]

I realise there are a hundred reasons why you were sending a picture to your husband who wasnt doing any childcare when you were. But out of curiosity was it to give him a lie in? Was he stugging today? Also, quite frankly if you were struggling and the only thing that 'slid' was the baby not wearing a twin piece and pearls ..... it's hardly time to worry is it? You were out at the park. That sounds a successful day really

[BabyDereksToes]

Babygros are fine until they are walking, and even then footless ones are fine during the day! I find it really weird when people put babies in 'real' clothes like jeans and leather jackets when they're just lying down all day. Cannot be comfortable.

[OooErMissus]

@alittleprivacy - the OP's baby is 8 months old. Unlikely to be walking. Still napping.

I think a onesie is perfectly practical, especially if you have a baby that doesn't routinely leak out of their nappy and need changing (mine didn't).

Changing a onesie is just as easy as changing a top or bottom, and the onesie won't get twisted or untucked, making them uncomfortable or cold.

[DappledThings]

Changing a onesie is just as easy as changing a top or bottom

Definitely not in my experience. How can anyone really find all those poppers easier than slipping a pair of soft trousers on and off? Or dungarees.

[Answerthequestion]

There's always loads of people on these mnet threads saying their 1 yr old is in a babygro all day every day but yet when I go to baby groups etc ive never seen a baby older than 6m in one in the day time..... hmm its one of those things everyone says on mnet, I'm not sure it happens in RL.

I agree. Other than newborns I never see babies in babygrows. It’s all bodysuits and seriously cute leggings often with little animals on the bottom. But of course, on MN, the only alternative to a babygrow is jeans and a leather jacket. IMO the only thing cuter than a baby in little leggings is a baby in soft dungarees.

[bananasandwicheseveryday]

I am afraid I really don't like babygros and never used them at all. Some people gave us gifts of babygros when DC were born and I thanked them politely and passed them straight to my dsis who used them for her babies.

[SinisterBumFacedCat]

The thing about leggings, joggers and tights etc is the tightest part is on the waistline, which I think would be uncomfortable, because babies tend to have broader waists than hips. Even t shirts, if they are pre sitting up stage, are going to ride up if they are fidgeting about in a pram or chair. Dungarees and a bodysuit is good but then there’s the socks that come off. A babygro is just easier and more comfortable.