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DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

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TopBoi · 19/09/2019 20:00

DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

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alexdgr8 · 19/09/2019 21:20

here's your next photo to him:
you wearing a day-glo onesie, preferably with rabbit-ears aloft,
pushing the pram in the park, with its infant occupant sporting Hardy Amies twin-set and pearls, (pearls printed on for safety), black patent court shoes, and one of those robin-hood style hats with a feather.
but spurn him if he ever dares to go abroad with his bottom waistcoat button fastened...
one has to have one's standards after all.

chickenyhead · 19/09/2019 21:22

I took the baby grows off for bedtime Grin

Just a vest and sleeping bag.

Sheldonoscopy · 19/09/2019 21:23

I was working with babies and children when pregnant with my youngest and one mum always collected her eldest with the baby in sleep suits. Always immaculately turned out and in the comfiest clothing a baby could wish for.
It really made me wonder why my older child had ever been out of them.

So, youngest child was basically living in them until old enough to ‘need’ other clothing. I have so many lovely pics of baby in them, wouldn’t change it for the world. Baby was comfy and happy at all times. They are the perfect clothing for a baby. So ops dh...? Please get over it!

RhymesWithOrange · 19/09/2019 21:24

She's a baby. She should wear whatever she is comfortable.

Personally I love babies in baby gros.

stealthbanana · 19/09/2019 21:25

Gosh my babies live in babygrows (the bonds ones that have 2 way zips - no poppers, bonus!). What a weird way to think of them. Although I suppose even if they are pyjamas, babies sleep during the day anyway so...

YANBU OP!

Dutchesss · 19/09/2019 21:25

Babies sleep so much that all their clothes should be like pyjamas. It would be silly to put them in something in impractical for worry of judgement.

Mrscog · 19/09/2019 21:26

Tell him it’s a jumpsuit - they’re in fashion after all.

Okmama · 19/09/2019 21:26

Much prefer seeing babies comfortable in baby grows than dressed up in clothes that keep coming up/down and just look uncomfortable for the sake of fashion! & pulling the socks off or then just falling off all the time is reason enough with a non walker - his BU. You’re fine!

MitziK · 19/09/2019 21:27

The only time mine didn't have babygros on for the first six months were when they were in the bath - or it was the middle of summer/they were in the sling, when they had a vest instead. They were kept warm/cool, no uncomfortable waistbands, suitable for frequent changes and, when they started to move about, it protected their knees/arms/etc. By about 9 months, I started putting them in a vest, top and leggings, but if it was cold, they stayed in the baby gros.

Out of all the things that can show somebody is struggling, putting a baby in clothing meant for babies, is comfortable for babies and is less likely to be completely destroyed by the substances babies eject from their bodies, is certainly not one of them.

Dinosforall · 19/09/2019 21:27

I listened to MN re babygros and took DS1 out in babygros - and he was pretty much the only one at groups (a real mix, classwise).

I bought soft trousers and tops for both - separates don't have to be stiff/mini adult etc.

To me babygros are for wearing round the house, but start to be impractical when they start to crawl.

For what it's worth, I dress casually myself and am resolutely MC Grin

TheTrollFairy · 19/09/2019 21:28

Yeah but who cares even if she did? She’s an 8 month old not a 22 year old!
I know a few people who think this way... uncomfortable clothes as soon as they slipped out the womb

DHW1 · 19/09/2019 21:30

My daughter (12 weeks) spends the majority of her time in baby-grows she’s sick so often that they are by far the easiest things to put on when I need to change her several times a day! I go to a baby class though and she is always the only one in a onsie - the rest of the babies are always dressed in full outfits. I think all the clothes look cute but I think my daughter is far comfier in her onsie compared to when I do occasionally put a different kind of outfit on her!

friedeggsandbeans · 19/09/2019 21:30

If I could, I’d still dress my children in baby grows! They are adorable and look so cute!!

ReanimatedSGB · 19/09/2019 21:31

His opinion on what the baby wears doesn't matter. And if he thinks you're 'struggling' then he can do some more housework.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 19/09/2019 21:32

Personally I ditched babygros (including to sleep in) by about six months because DS hated having the poppers done up so much and I found putting them on took about ten times longer than just putting on some soft trousers, so I never quite understand the MN devotion to them. But of course YANBU to dress your baby in anything that you like, find comfy, and which is suited to the weather.

Lillygolightly · 19/09/2019 21:32

All my DC pretty much lived in babygrows, they are cosy, comfortable for baby, cute and extremely convenient for nappy changes etc.

When taking mine out wherever I simply put a matching hat, cardigan and socks to make it into an outfit.

As an adult if I could live in a babygrow I would because they are freakin’ awesome!!!

Jenala · 19/09/2019 21:32

Both of mine were in sleepsuits until they were approaching 1 year. Little jeans and stuff just looked too stiff and uncomfortable to me. Sleepsuits are warm and cosy, look cute, easier to change nappies.... the list goes on

Nousernameforme · 19/09/2019 21:34

Baby grows for as long as possible imo. I cut the feet off the biggest size one in the end and he had them as rompers for a bit longer. Its a one piece outfit easy wash easy dry easy access for changing no clingy waistband what more do you need.

That reminds me i kept all the feet for crafting must bin those. Bloody sleep addled brain.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 19/09/2019 21:34

Incidentally, I did try those ones with zips instead because of the popper issue, but those I do think are uncomfortable for a baby, much more so than soft trousers and a top.

Kdubs1981 · 19/09/2019 21:35

The man is an idiot

gem584848838 · 19/09/2019 21:35

How stupid is your husband?! Babies are so much more comfortable in baby-grows and they are babies!! -why do they need to wear anything else?? They will have enough of that when they're older.
My baby girl is 9 weeks old and she is mainly in baby-grows. She has got some pretty dresses which she has worn for a couple of special occasions but they're such a faff with the socks and changing her nappy etc. Plus she never looks as comfortable in them

NeedAUsernameGenerator · 19/09/2019 21:36

I don't think many baby clothes are uncomfortable. I had some lovely stretchy dresses for my DDs or leggings with a vest or nice cool dresses for summer. In my experience they didn't care what they were wearing as long as they were the right temperature and it didn't impede their movement. It's just down to what the parent prefers.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 19/09/2019 21:36

I can't really imagine a one year old in a babygro during the day - maybe it's just because they never fitted DS (very tall, quite slim for a baby) very well, but aren't they really impractical for them moving around? Even at six months they were getting all bunched up and twisted on DS as he rolled and commando crawled.

DappledThings · 19/09/2019 21:37

I found putting them on took about ten times longer than just putting on some soft trousers, so I never quite understand the MN devotion to them

Glad I'm not the only one who found trousers easier. I think I must have some kind of popper incompetency as everyone else swears faffing about with those poppers is easier than slipping a pair of trousers off and on

LisaSimpsonsbff · 19/09/2019 21:39

Glad I'm not the only one who found trousers easier. I think I must have some kind of popper incompetency as everyone else swears faffing about with those poppers is easier than slipping a pair of trousers off and on

Maybe everyone else had lovely placid babies who stayed still during the endless popping?! Mine did not...

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