DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

[TopBoi]

DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

[Frangible]

Agreed, @whitershadeofpale, being shocked at the idea of taking an 8-month old out in a babygro is as much a class marker as what/pardon.

[tvdinnertracks]

I think babygros arre for bedtime. DD was in normal clothes like T-shirt and jogging bottom quite early on. She was even in dungarees and jeans but that was a bit older, 4-5 months.

Far cuter than sleepsuits in my opinion

They're babies not fashion models or dolls.

Comfort is what babies need, not cute.

[Poppins2016]

I think there’s a bit of a class thing about whether they’re considered pyjamas or not. I think my family would all be horrified if I put a DC in a one for going to the park, they’re firmly working class and I think generally there’s more of a thing about having ‘nice things’ for a baby whereas maybe more middle class people are confident and more practical. I reckon most designer clothes for babies are sold to working class people too.

This probably won't be a popular take on it, but for what it's worth, I agree with you (I attend baby groups with a rather diverse range of mums and I've seen your scenario in action!).

[chickenyhead]

64sNewName

Like - have you met any babies? Because acknowledging the difference between night and day is not one of their strong points.

[Lifeinthedeep]

This is interesting. Ds is 9 months and my partner said it would be like taking him out in pj’s!! I think it’s perfectly acceptable!

[MiniMum97]

Your DH is an idiot. Babygros are for both day and night wear. And who gives a shit what babies are wearing anyway. It just needs to be practical.

[INeedNewShoes]

DD lived in babygros and wore 'outfits' very rarely until 9m when she started crawling and the feet ended up dragging behind her. I tended to have one set of white babygros on the go for nighttime and brighter ones for the day.

Babies spend so much time lying down it only seems fair to avoid waistbands and other faffy bits on clothing that aren't as soft to lie on as a babygro.

They've got their whole childhood ahead of them for parents to choose pretty little outfits but there's such a short window when babygros are practical I think we have to make the most of them!

[nocoolnamesleft]

Babygros are sensible, comfortable, warm, and above all practicable clothing for infants.

[Nos123]

I think this phenomenon has a lot to do with women doing most of the childcare and recognising the importance of being practical!

[MrsJakeLovell]

I was just about to post this is a class thing without having RTFT!

I agree, middle classes seem to be ok with baby grows and knitted cardigans. Mine were in them until they walked (but I’m resolutely working class!)

Rather that than frou-frou, frills and discomfort...

[Tonnerre]

Babygros are not pyjamas. I left mine in babygros till they grew out of them, which was at least age 1. And, guess what, they've grown up normal human beings who only wear nightwear at night time, so it obviously hasn't damaged them.

[user1493494961]

Mumsnet love their babygros, I think they're pyjamas.

[TurquoiseDress]

There is, in my opinion, nothing cuter than a squishy baby in a babygro!

I know I've posted already, but just to make it clear- I think your DH is being totally unreasonable...and quite snide & passive aggressive in his comments!

[TumblingTumbleWeeds]

When my son was 20 - 24 months old he had a friend whose father instead his son wore jeans with a belt ...with a buckle. I guess he wanted to 'make a man' of him. He look uncomfortable and a bit silly. The dad also bought him a regular two wheel bike thing with training wheels. My little boy wore cute little baby boys things and played with toddler toys.

When my son was born my MIL bought him a tiny white shirt, with a bow tie and stiff little trousers. She wanted him to wear them. The bow tie would twist off to the side, the shirt would come untucked, the trousers made it difficult to change his diaper. He looked a mess.

They are only babies once!

[SoyDora]

Mumsnet love their babygros, I think they're pyjamas

But so what if they are? Why does is matter if a baby is wearing ‘pyjamas’ during the day? They don’t have to dress appropriately for work, or for interviews, or for sporting activities, etc etc. They just have to be warm/cool enough and comfortable!

[LloydBraun]

I agree with the class analysis of babygros.
I was the only professional middle class mum in my ante natal class. When we met up post birth the other babies were tricked out in the most extravagant outfits with gender insignia everywhere and ds was in a Tesco Babygro. They looked at me like I’d shat on the carpet.

[Tonnerre]

he was even in dungarees and jeans but that was a bit older, 4-5 months

Poor kid, how uncomfortable. Imagine sleeping in dungarees.

[LloydBraun]

The mums not the babies that is. The babies were nice, if somewhat uncomfortable

[Breathlessness]

Yup, class marker.

[SunMoonRainShine]

Interesting!

I didn't think people thought they were pyjamas? But I wonder if that's why we're now calling babygrows 'sleepsuits', so we HAVE to buy more outfits, separate ones for day and night?

I would only think of them as 'pyjamas' if they had i.e. pics of clouds and sleeping rabbits on or something. Like pyjamas.

Sounds like your reason for preferring them makes a lot of sense. I prefer a no-legs one (what do you call them!) And some little trousers/leggings/dungarees just because that's what I find easiest for nappy changes!

Also, I definitely never realised babygrows were a class issue...

[drspouse]

I didn't even know babygros are supposed to be pyjamas till someone told me when DS was about 6 months.
In the US they are called "sleep and play", is that better?

[DappledThings]

Poor kid, how uncomfortable. Imagine sleeping in dungarees

Huh? DD lives in dungarees, I find them much more practical than the faffy sleepsuit poppers. She's 21 months now but still naps every day. Why would dungarees be uncomfortable? They've no waistband or anything.

[TooManyPaws]

So if babygros are pyjamas/sleep clothes, are all these people changing their babies into them every time it looks like baby is about to fall asleep? How many changes would that be, then? And what if they then wake up once you've got them in? Do you change them back again?

The man's a numpty. Who gives a flying fuck what a baby's wearing along as they're clean, warm and comfortable? Unless he's one of Those People who are all 'what would people Say/Think!' 🤣

[baldpate]

I used it I dress one of mine in a onesie to do the school run with the older ones- it kept them warm and snug and acted as a warm jumper and trousers. Baby groes are perfect when they’re little

[reluctantbrit]

@tvdinnertracks so, I am not allowed to say babies in outfit look cute but lots of pp said babies in babygrows are cute. Sound a bit like double standard for me.

A T-Shirt and jogging bottoms are hardly haute couture, a bit much to say I see a baby as a fashion doll, for me babygros are pyjamas and therefore no daywear. But I also never wear a pyjama outside bedtime.

I am not British and find the idea to identify class by what a baby wears hilarious, sorry, I will never get around this idea.