DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

[TopBoi]

DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

[CarysRed]

She’s a baby! Why does it matter what she looks like

[Gemz1806]

I'm not going to lie with my first i dressed him in "proper" clothes very young, jeans, chinos, jumpers the lot! I got funny looks and comments from friends who did genuinely know better! 2nd born was in babygrows ALOT longer and I'm glad I listened eventually. A clean one in the morning not the one he slept in. It was so much easier and he did look alot cuiter.

[kb16]

I personally wouldn't have taken my baby out in a babygrow at that age as I see them as pj's but everyone is different and I wouldn't judge someone who did take their baby out in a babygrow. Each to their own x

[whitershadeofpale]

I think there’s a bit of a class thing about whether they’re considered pyjamas or not. I think my family would all be horrified if I put a DC in a one for going to the park, they’re firmly working class and I think generally there’s more of a thing about having ‘nice things’ for a baby whereas maybe more middle class people are confident and more practical. I reckon most designer clothes for babies are sold to working class people too.

I think there’s a balance to be had between ‘they’re always pyjamas’ and ‘all other clothes are stiff and uncomfortable. Nothing wrong with having some clothes designated as nightclothes and some as day as long as they’re comfy, practical and clean’.

[CatsOnCatnip]

Tbh I’d really like to wear sleepsuits out and about. He’s being ridiculous. Mine’s 7 months and like you, on cooler days she’s in an all in one. Too many socks have been lost. And also, who does he think cares what a baby is wearing?

[64sNewName]

Weird that so many people are imposing the nightwear/daywear distinction on babies.

Like - have you met any babies? Because acknowledging the difference between night and day is not one of their strong points.

[chickenyhead]

I was gutted when mine grew out of baby grows. I never bothered with proper clothes, they just didn't look comfortable at all.

Another way in which I no doubt failed as a parent.

Good way of DH making sure that you don't send him more pictures though eh?

[saraclara]

Babygros are pyjamas? Since when?

My babies had simple one colour thin babygros for nighttime. The pretty/patterned/lacy/picture ones were standard daytime babywear for my kids and those of all my friends.

[BatmanLovesTheCircus]

YANBU! My DS lived in babygros until very recently, he’s about to be 10mo and has recently started pulling himself up onto his feet and “cruising”, so I don’t feel they’re very practical any more. But before babies are on their feet, they are cosy, comfy and practical.

Personally I absolutely hate seeing babies in uncomfy “mini adult” clothes like jeans, shoes (why on earth do non walking babies need shoes?!), and dresses with tights. And don’t even get me started on those ridiculous massive headbands

[Celebelly]

Also the 'were you struggling today?' comment is snidey, passive aggressive bullshit. If he actually thinks you're struggling, then maybe he can offer some actual practical help rather than prattling shite about clothes. But it's clear he doesn't think that, he's just doing it to diminish what you do while he does his 'oh so important' work, I'm presuming.

[NearlyGranny]

Well, that's not the response you hope for when you take the time and trouble to send a photo to baby's DF at work! What a downer.

Is DH laundering baby's clothes? Sorting, folding and putting them neatly away? Ironing what needs ironing? If not, perhaps let the person who is decide what she wears.

[reluctantbrit]

I think babygros arre for bedtime. DD was in normal clothes like T-shirt and jogging bottom quite early on. She was even in dungarees and jeans but that was a bit older, 4-5 months.

Far cuter than sleepsuits in my opinion.

[NameyMcNameyChangey]

If baby grows are the same as pyjamas then why can you buy baby pyjamas as well!?

Also I would go out in my pjs if I had 2 naps a day and spent 12 hours in bed at night!

[64sNewName]

Quite, @Celebelly.

[vanillaicedtea]

I do a mix with my 8 m/o, although babygros are slowly becoming bed-time only in our household as DD is a manic crawler and cruiser at the minute, and she keeps ending up with her legs in the body section . Soft leggings and tops are our preference now, but only because of that aforementioned reason (and the fact she literally will not lie still for me to do up all 10 poppers )

Before that happened, though, I always had her in babygros. Super handy to get on and comfortable. During the summer when it was warm, it was bodysuits every day.

For a trip in the pram, babygros are completely acceptable. He had no need to be patronising, because evidently, if you were struggling so much, you wouldn't have even made it to the park (and that is also completely ok! We all have days where things just don't happen).

[FurrySlipperBoots]

As a nanny I always find it bizarre when parents insist I dress their babies in the morning. I mean they're going to be napping again in 5 minutes! Besides you have to change their outfit so often anyway it seems really wrong to take them out of a clean one! Why make work for yourself? Babies look adorable and feel comfortable in babygrows - so much more appropriate than mini jeans etc that are so fashionable now.

[Zaphodsotherhead]

I walk the dog in a onesie.

Babygros are just onesies for babies.

Your DH is an idiot.

[Parker231]

What’s the point in putting a baby in clothes when they are spending the majority of their time lying down and sleeping?

Mine went to nursery, supermarket, the park, on holiday, weddings, parties etc in babygros as well as in their cots. I like how cute a baby looks in a babygros.

[Drabarni]

My young gypsy relatives dress their babies in designer labels and frilly dresses. The boys are wearing waistcoats from an early age.
They look lovely, but I couldn't have done with all that faffing, keep them clean, cuddle and play. They grow up too soon and you won't remember what they wore, but the happy memories of being with them.

[Travis1]

Would rather see a baby in a baby grow than horrid jeans or stiff clothing. Their skin needs gentle clothing

[cakeandchampagne]

Sorry to hear your DH is “really struggling” with baby fashion.

Well done keeping your baby comfortable and getting to the park today!

[RainbowUnicorn1]

As long as they are clean, fit and weather appropriate, what difference does it make? I take DD to school every morning with DS in his sleep suit with a jacket on and his blanket.

[JamieVardysHavingAParty]

Babygros aren't "sleep clothes", they're comfortable, practical clothes designed to meet babies' needs, which does include a lot of sleep, at a moment's notice. Does he think you should be whipping her clothes off and changing her into pyjamas (and thus waking her UP) when she's about to have a nap in the pushchair after the park? Or is his plan for her to be put in uncomfortable clothes and be left to sleep in those?

[Her0utdoors]

He's a plonker, they are perfect until the baby can crawl.

[chickenyhead]

Nothing like scrubbing poo out of denim waistbands