DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

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DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

I see them as pyjamas too and never been to a baby group/soft play and seen a little one wearing one. Mine wore mostly leggings and top or tights and a dress.

@mummyto2munchkins

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OP, your husband is BVU

Pepsi, yes recently discovered them! Got some sleeves and a pj top. They're a bit big for him though.. Where did you get the custom made ones from?

Soubriquet he's absolutely gorgeous

In the minority I know, but I think they’re pyjamas. My daughter came home from hospital in a (summer) dress and never left the house in a babygro. I might have thought differently if I’d had a winter baby!

How ridiculous. Ignore him.
Call it a ‘jumpsuit’ not a babygro, and get a matching one for yourself.

Dear god, I hope he's nice in other ways because this is stupid, she's a baby.

Personally i wouldn't have taken any of my 3 out in a babygro but only because i tried to make day and night very different, clothes and a carrycot during the day and babygro and moses basket during the night. I must have done something right for 2 of them as they slept through the night by 5 weeks

YANBU!
Mine were in babygros as much as possible, dressed up for visits to grannies but not much else. They're all grown up now. My little DGS spent quite a while in NICU and DD was desperate to use proper clothes as soon as she got him home, he wore babygros to bed so they were his pyjamas. I think little ones are better in all-in-ones, or at least dungarees, so they don't come adrift in the middle! It's silly for your DH to comment the way he did.

My DD is 2 next month an my husband wishes I would still dress her in baby grows as he feels dressing her I'm clothes is making his baby girl grow up too quick, baby grows are also cheaper than clothes tell your husband to go out an buy her wardrobe he won't be long changing his mind when he realises price of clothes

I don’t like babies in babygrows either, not past about 3 months. They are pjs, and look a bit naff when they’re older. I agree with your DP!
Mine were in cute little leggings and dresses from a few wks old from what I remember and from looking at pictures.

Nothing cuter than a baby in a baby grow and a hand knitted cardi! I did the whole “proper” clothes thing with mine, and actually think they’d have been comfier if I’d stuck to all-in-ones a bit more. It’s just fashions, and maybe regional as well (baby grow is synonymous with pj’s here, but I never heard it in that context where I grew up).

Well, when it's his day for looking after her (which, surely, he does at least one day a week? Sunday?) he dan dress his baby however he likes, and do the washing which comes with it. And the hanging out and the drying. And the ironing, folding and putting away.

Surely he does do that?

@Mummyto2munchkins

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Tell him you are going away for a few days and he's in charge. When he's fought with flailing linbs a poonanmi or two and spent the whole time dressing and undressing her when she's tired and or hungry instead of playing with her...he'll understand. He just needs to experience it for himself...

I suppose it is better than dressing the baby in tight jeans

I think little ones are better in all-in-ones, or at least dungarees, so they don't come adrift in the middle!

Yes I found with clothes with a waistband, the waistband tended to get rucked In with the waistband of the disposable nappy making the top of the item wet. I suppose it wouldn’t be a problem with girls dresses but then you might want to cover the nappy with something.

I'm sure your baby looked lovely, ignore your other half you have a choice as well as him what to put your baby in.

I had DD in joggers or leggings and T-shirts all the time during the day from about 5 months but that’s because I couldn’t be arsed with doing up the bloody poppers all the time. I wouldn’t think twice seeing an 8 month old in a babygro, they are still very much a baby so why wouldn’t it be ok?!

If an adult wore it then it would be PJs but she is a baby and so her needs and clothes are totally different! Babygros are totally normal daywear for babies and so, so, so much better for their physical development since they can move more naturally than in stiff faux adult clothes.

With my first, I was really precious about making sure she was ‘dressed’. With number 2, she’s mainly in baby Gros. The odd occasion I have dressed her in something else, I’ve always regretted it; she doesn’t like getting the clothes on (or off!), I spend more time adjusting it and she is never as comfy (she will often not nap in them).

At this age, it’s not about what they look like (as long as they are clean!); it’s about comfort.

Do you have separate baby gros for daytime and nighttime?

We had white for nighttime (towelling in winter, thinner in summer and colour/patterned ones for daytime.then you can say these are not her pyjamas the white ones are her pyjamas.

And repeat.

Nothing wrong with babies wearing babygros/sleepsuits during the day. My two wore them almost exclusively until they were about one. As for children going out in pyjamas, really, who cares? We once took our three year old to the zoo and just as we pulled in to the car park she vomited with no warning straight down her front (travel sick, not a bug). For once I didn't have spare clothes with me so we cleaned her up as best we could in the loos and bought the closest thing to an outfit that we could find in the gift shop. Yes it was a set of pyjamas! So what? She was clean and happy and had a lovely day at the zoo

This is similar to the debate as to colour clothes you dress babies in.

With my DT’s the aim was to get them dressed. That involved a babygro of whatever colour, brand, design was next in the pile. So if DS went to nursery in a pink babygro and DD in blue with trains on it, I was happy. They were in clean appropriate clothing.

My DS wore nice babygrows all the time- super comfy for them.

I can't stand seeing young babies all trussed up in silly outfits especially jeans! They must be so uncomfortable