DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

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DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

YANBU, he is ridiculous. My 10.5 month old still wears sleepsuits some days. They’re just a lot easier and absolutely fine for non-walkers during the day.

DS wore babygros almost exclusively as a baby. He also had some very cute pyjamas from about 4 months or so that he wore as day wear just because they were comfy. Does it matter for a baby as long as they're clean (when they're put on at least!) and regularly changed?

I can't bear to see small babies wearing denim - jeans etc.

Much nicer to see them in babygrows, followed closely by soft rompers and soft dungarees. Babygrows are awesome! I've always had night ones and day ones.

@whitershadeofpale I wanted to say something similar, but was hesitant because I hate all the class stuff. However, around here it's definitely who people would label working class who dress their children fully in jeans and what not earlier, even little trainers. I don't quite know why, but it's the 'middle class' who tend to take them out in nice babygrows more. Not always, but often.

Absolutely nothing wrong with it at all, I did with my first before I knew better, because like a pp said, I had time on my hands and enjoyed it. But she still had nice 'going out' babygrows too. I still dress my baby sometimes not with babygrows but with soft dungarees, soft rompers...but that's as far as I'll go. They've got their whole lives to wear waist-digging clothes!

I love to see babies in babygros! I only stopped putting my DS in them because he was too wriggly and it was like trying to dress an octopus rather than a baby

I'd wear them myself if I could! 😂

Your DH is definitely BU

I say nothing wrong with it...that's if they're comfortable and not digging in. It's the uncomfortable things I can't bear to see, poor babies. Also shoes on small babies - I just don't see the point!

Babygros and bodysuits are the best for babies. He has no clue, does he?

I'm trying to figure out the 'logic' behind the position of people who disapprove of 'public' babygro-wearing. It sounds like a bizarre combination of 'Ooh, she's let herself go, she's not making an effort' (only applied to babies?) and the idea that unless strict 'sleep/loungewear' vs clothing distinctions are preserved, pretty soon QCs will be arguing cases in onesies and the queen will shuffle in to open parliament in her pink winceyette nightie and bedroom slippers.

YABU. At this age, she should be dressed in formal morning dress (including infant corset) to attend the park.

I'm trying to figure out the 'logic' behind the position of people who disapprove of 'public' babygro-wearing

No disapproval. It just wouldn't occur to me to do because I found them awkward and fiddly and yes, I do think of them as sleepwear. But no judgement of others.

I would find it really unusual though. Can count on one hand the number of times I've seen a baby past about 3 months in one in the say.

Who cares what you dress your baby in to take her out of the house, so long as she's cosy and happy? Even if it was PJs, a dressing gown and slippers, who cares? As a parent you have enough battles to fight, without being bothered about things that don't matter. Wow. Your husband sounds like an idiot. "Were you really struggling today?" What the fuck? I'd be so annoyed. Going to the park is, in my opinion, a win - getting out of the house is good! Not struggling!

All my children were in well worn babygros for many months. Soft and very comfortable, easy for them to move in. Ideal.
Another reason I feel I had very easy going babies. They were warm and snug and very comfortable.

Your husband is an arse.

DS only wears them as pyjamas now, he's nine months, as soon as he started crawling and then cruising they'd stretch out get caught under his feet etc, or was also too warm in the summer and he spent most days in a short romper or soft cotton shorts and a short sleeved bodysuit. At the park he wants to 'climb' (we hold him obviously) the big spider web, go on the slide and swing etc and hold onto things) our hands and practice walking, a babygro hampered that but he is like a tornado, and can walk a few steps between things so not far off independent walking I think. I still just put him in long sleeve body suits and leggings though, so essentially like a babygro in separates without the feet, we've actually got some he wears for bed from H&M without feet, because he's a sweaty little beast.

If he is that bothered maybe he should get up and dress her. DS even went on the school run in his sister's hand me down pink babygro once when his were all in the wash. Fortunately at 8.30 in the morning no one cares what he was wearing and the psychological trauma of going out in pyjamas was minimised.

Wait til she gets a bit older and refuses to take off her favourite onesie to go to the supermarket. Fortunately it was Asda not Waitrose and everyone survived seeing a 4ft bunny wandering around with wellies on. Plus dd decided maybe not to go out in a onesie again.

I probably wouldn’t have taken my 8 month out in them because I see them as sleepwear.

But to be honest what you dress your kid in is none of my business.

Tell him to shaddup. Dd lived in babygrows - I love them! She then got to an age where she didn’t want things on her feet so I had to sadly give up on them. Babygrows are brilliant for that age!

My daughter 19months and I use baby grows for the school run and if I have to pop to the shop etc. If they're not walking anywhere then it's fine. Comfy for them and easy for you! Hes being a dick!

Sorry but I also see babygrows as pjs.. baby clothes aren't all "naff and uncomfortable", i never put jeans on my baby just stretchy leggings and vests/cardis

Nobody has said why, even if babygros are pyjamas, it matters that a baby is wearing them in the daytime? They generally don’t have to be dressed appropriately for particular activities, they tend to sleep for a portion of the day, their only needs are to be warm and comfortable... so why does it matter if a baby wears ‘pyjamas’ in the daytime?

I completely agree. I can't feel any shame whatsoever for my baby wearing babygros during the day given that her job description pre around 10m was to sleep, lie around, sit in the pushchair, be carried around, look at books & toys, sit in the car - basically her days were all about chilling out!

I wish DD could wear babygros now then I wouldn't have to worry about finding trousers that are the right length but not so wide that they fall down all the time!

Even though I'm only 48, my DD1 spent most of her first weeks in blue babygros handed down by exH's pupil master. Babygros were her default outfit at home for the first year. For the first 3 months she actually wore long flannel nighties at night that MIL had used for both her boys. They were great for nocturnal, stealth nappy changes. She was changed into her babygro in the morning.
I love a squidgy babygro baby! Babies have ridiculous wedgy feet that repel socks and shoes aren't recommended. Our outings in dresses or trousers and socks were interrupted by helpful strangers pointing out she'd lost a sock, or that her little feet were blue or something. She always kicked the blanket off and lay like a frog rubbing her heels together.

We used almost exclusively babygros to about a year old. Had a few outfits which people had bought as presents but they were such a pain to get on and off (who on earth thought tights for a baby was a good idea?!) that they tended to be worn for a thank you photo and then never again. They were very easy to layer, for baby to wriggle around in and perfect babywear.

Much easier for changing bags too - just have a couple of vests, couple of babygros and sorted. No worries about losing socks etc.

Are you sure he isn't just teasing you? It's not really the sort of thing a bloke would care a toss about.

He’s ridiculous, babygros are not pyjamas - otherwise they would be called baby pyjamas. They are comfy for the baby, practical, easy to launder. I thought they were what all babies wore (until I had my own and received a few ‘pyjama’ comments!!).

One word springs to mind - laundry. I'll take a babygro over a dozen pairs of teeny tiny socks any day! Also, spare outfits for the changing bag - 3 babygros or 9-odd separates? I'll take the easy option thanks.