DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

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DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

Definitely mind blowing LisaSimpsonsbff! But apparently all waistbands are totally uncomfortable and restrictive so someone will be long to tell you you were doing it wrong.

I was trying to add a photo of DD at 2 months I some lovely comfy dungarees but I can't work out how to download it.

Interesting thread. Clearly there are different opinions on this subject but only the OP's Dh gets called stupid, an idiot and a twat for sharing the same view as lots of women.

I'm sitting here in my onesie so I'm not judging...

YANBU babygros aren't PJ's!

You two need to talk and figure out when you'll be moving them to daywear in the day

WTF?! DH and I have never talked about when it’s appropriate for our children to be moved to ‘daywear’.
Why does it matter if they are ‘pyjamas’?! It’s a baby! A baby whose only need (clothing wise) is to be warm and comfortable. They have their whole lives to be forced into wearing ‘appropriate’ clothing for various scenarios. 8 months old is not that time.

Why do some posters keep calling babygros pyjamas?

Genuinely wondering why

Pyjamas are usually two piece outfits- trousers/shorts and a top

If I went out to work in my pyjamas that would not be socially acceptable

But a young baby in a park wearing a babygro is completely normal- they are not still in their "nightwear" or wearing pyjamas!

Dh gets called stupid, an idiot and a twat for sharing the same view as lots of women.

No, he gets called stupid and a twat for suggesting his wife is struggling because she did something that clearly the majority here see as no problem. He gets called stupid and a twat for telling his wife off for dressing the baby in a way that suits her, when it isn’t any of his business.

He can have that opinion, that’s fine, but having a go at his wife for having a different one is what makes him stupid and a twat.

having a go? He asked if she was struggling as (as he and many people on here see it) the baby was 'undressed', if you like, when out and about.

This, to me, is one of those minor issues that should not be posted on MN because then they become something far greater and far worse than they were.

For all we know, the OP is struggling. Maybe the OP's DH has genuine concerns that things are too much for her - why is it now a terrible thing for a man to be concerned about his wife?

Obviously, if the OP and her DH actually discussed this together, rather than coming on to MN, the whole thing could be resolved in 5 minutes.

I love seeing babies in babygrows. It feels like they're being allowed to be babies and comfort is the priority rather than rushing into outfit choices.

I never took mine out in a baby grow personally, I had far too many clothes for her to wear before she outgrew them (mostly gifted to me), but there's nothing wrong with them wearing babygrows when they are out either

So what if he thinks that they are pyjamas, Bavies sleep during the day. Does he want you to let her sleep in uncomfortable clothes or every time she starts to fall asleep does he want you to undress her?

I hate seeing babies in jeans.

Also little girls in skirt day and dresses has been shown to delay the physical development compared to boys as they cant move around as much and are told from a young age to not get dirty etc

I can see where he’s coming from. I tend to think the same when I see older babies out in babygrows. I’m also amazed that anyone can be bothered to fight a wriggling baby to do up poppers.

There’s a nice happy medium between babygrows and jeans and that’s what I see most 3-12 month old babies wearing which is soft leggings and a nice poppered too, lovely and comfy, very cute and in my opinion perfect. It’s very rare with any of my 3 that I ever saw babies over about 3 months in babygrows during the day.

having a go? He asked if she was struggling as (as he and many people on here see it) the baby was 'undressed', if you like, when out and about.

The baby was not “undressed”. The baby was dressed in a way he didn’t agree with.

If the OP said he had a go, he had a go. She was there, she heard it. Or are you going to say she doesn’t know her own husband and when he is having a go?

You two need to talk and figure out when you'll be moving them to daywear in the day
Why on earth does this need a discussion? If OP is looking after her day to day she can dress her how she likes.

There are plenty of things parents need to discuss. What the child wears going to the park isn’t one of them.

oh, so people never take what their spouse says the wrong way? Mumsnet Talk can just close its doors in that case.

Yanbu.

I think the idea that baby gros and sleep suits are just PJs is unnecessary and ridiculous. They are comfy so why not wear them during the day too? They are only babies after all.

My ds used to wear sleep suits all the time when younger (unless too hot). He's nearly 14 months now and he still sometimes wears them during the day. The other day he wore a sleep suit to the park.

Your dh is making a fuss over nothing imo.

You two need to talk and figure out when you'll be moving them to daywear in the day

I think this counts as one of the funnier sentences I've ever head on Mn.

You two need to talk and figure out when you'll be moving them to daywear in the day

This has amused the hell out of me. If I sat DP down to have that conversation, I think it would be thing that finally convinced him I'd lost my mind.

Celebelly I was thinking the same. DH would think I was insane!

I presume your baby also wore a nappy and went in a buggy. All things your DH would not do. different rules apply to babies. Babygros are perfect and normal for a baby to wear.

oh, so people never take what their spouse says the wrong way? Mumsnet Talk can just close its doors in that case.

Far more likely that someone reads a text comment by the OP and misinterprets it. Especially when OP also says he doubled down, rather than saying it was a misunderstanding.

Mine wore babygros exclusively until they walked.

I love a baby gro...

I forgot about rompers!!! My ds had a gorgeous romper that my dh hated but still let me buy it because I liked it.

I was gutted when he grew out of it.

In fact I was gutted when both kids outgrow baby gros

My favourite romper suit!

When I was a young teen mum I used to think the same, that sleepsuits/baby grows were just for night time and I wouldn't leave the house with my baby dressed in one. Now I'm older and wiser and my younger children have all worn then until they could walk at least, then progressed to soft romper/dungarees with long sleeved bodysuits underneath until potty training. I cringe at FTM me and when people with babies dressed in little outfits like jeans and dresses. Being comfortable is essential. It's not even like a sleepsuit is easier with all the poppers, I continued with them for their comfort rather than laziness.

If they are having an argument about it then clearly they need to talk about it. Have I ever had that conversation or ever thought anyone needed to before this thread? No. But clearly it's causing them problems....