DH having a go at me for dressing DD in babygros

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DD is 8 months old. Some days I take her out in babygros (nice ones and they're clean) especially days if I think it's a bit cooler as she always pulls her socks off and I think all in one suits are cosier for her.

I sent him a picture of us in the park today and she is in an all in one suit. He said to me "why is she in her pyjamas? Were you really struggling today?" It's really irritated me. I've told him all the reasons I've said here but he says it's the same as me leaving the house in my pyjamas. He's implying I can't dress her properly. AIBU?

He's a fool.

Babygros are so comfy, that's why I put my DS in the so much when he was little.
A pet hate is when small babies are wearing thick denim jeans and trainers before they can even walk.

'I'm my experience, it's limited to a very specific type of family. Most babies of that age, outside of MN circles will be in some form of day clothes'.

I bet you I don't fit in your 'specific type'.

Jilly Cooper was amusing on the topic of dressing babies, I recall, in her very funny book on class.
Must dig it out.

I kind of dressed my children in whatever I felt like during the day, and that often was a babygro.

An underlying principle in child safeguarding is that every decision must have the child at the centre. What do babies need from clothes? Warmth & comfort. Babygros are a big tick for both of those! Miniature adult clothes on babies pander to adult sensibilities and will often be uncomfortable in comparison.

Mine lived in babygros. For a number of reasons. - They’re not too hot not too cold so adding a few blankets or leaving them off is generally perfect

• no shoes or socks needed
• no pants cutting in at the waist (even I hate jeans or trousers and skirts leave the legs bare making the cold)
• they nap so much anyway that it’s comfortable for when they do
• easy to carry change of clothes
• easy to wash and dry
• contain poonamis really well

It’s all about comfort for the child. Mine wore them up to 12 months pretty much most days and have you seen the amount of adults wearing onesies? If I could get away with wearing a onesie now, I totally would.

I'm going to swim against the tide a little bit here and ask-is that really 'having a go'?? He obviously associates baby gros with bed time. Fair enough. He made the assumption that the baby was still in her pyjamas. Again, not an unreasonable conclusion. He then asked if you were struggling a bit today. He's concerned for our welfare and making sure you're ok, surely?

He has a difference of opinion on the choice of outfit which is allowed, surely, and enquired after your welfare. What a monster.

Don’t bother sending him photos during the day if he’s going to be so rude.

An underlying principle in child safeguarding is that every decision must have the child at the centre.

Oh come on. By all means dress your baby in babygros until they're 1, or 3, or 8, or whatever works for you and your child, but to try and imply that it's an actual safeguarding issue if you don't follow in MN mandate of babygros and nothing else?!

Mine lived in baby gros or top and leggings. Avoided dresses until they could walk as they are a pain on crawling babies.

I don't really fit in any type to be honest. Most people affiliate to the style of their friends, those they come across in baby groups and family, no one is exclusively part of a tribe really.

When my babies were the age of the OP's , they wore long sleeve vests, with soft trousers or dungarees or jumpers or cardigans, as did most other babies, as most other babies do now.

It's not a choice between jeans and designer clobber or baby gros.

Are babygros the same as all in ones. Bright colourful ones that zip all the way up.? Bonds ones are particularly great.

My DGS wore them until he was over 12 months. (Lots of colic and sprewing up.( Easy to whip them off and replace them with a fresh one).

One of the bubs at my work used to wear a white one until he was about 18 months old. I called him casper. He looked absolutely adorable.

Fatty, mine also came home in an outfit, I'd already had to cut the feet off the baby gros I took to hospital as he was too long and they were restrictive. He came home in shorts...

WaxOn has done a wide-ranging survey and can therefore pronounce confidently on what ‘most babies’ wear.

Mine would go out in babygros. I didn't even know I was 'expected' to dress them in anything else!

Tell him it doesn't matter.

Mine were in baby grows until they got very mobile. Then it became more practical to put them in tops and leggings.

Your husband doesn’t sound very nice, OP. You sound like you’re doing a really good job. My baby was in babygro’s until he wouldn’t fit. Because cutting him half with a waistband and or stiff shirt would be impractical. Those babies always look a combination of ridiculous and uncomfortable. Doesn’t matter how many frills there are on your baby’s dress - she looks uncomfy and you look like a twit for making her wear it.

I suggest you do your own research then, outside the lentil weaving demographic.

I remember going to my first post natal group get-together when DD was 5 weeks old - I dressed her in one of my favourite baby gros to look extra nice.
Got there and all the other babies were in full outfits - dresses, jeans, shoes etc. I felt stupid and inadequate and it did knock my confidence. DD had never worn anything but baby gros.
But looking back - why the hell does it matter? Babies need to feel comfortable. They don't give a shit what they're wearing - unless it makes them miserable.
Jeez they've got the next 80 years to worry about what society thinks about what they look like 🙄😒

If you think Mn is ‘lentil-weaving’, @WaxOnFeckOff, you’re completely misreading it. Mn is primarily lower-middle-class in its class basis (not exclusively, obviously), though with a wide disparity of incomes.

WaxOn has done a wide-ranging survey and can therefore pronounce confidently on what ‘most babies’ wear. hmm

Like the many baby clothing experts on this thread who have surveyed the UK market and can inform us that, sadly, the sole choices are baby gros or either stiff jeans and shirts or frilly dresses. Why, oh why, don't the manufacturers make anything between these extremes?!

@LightDrizzle.
That's brilliant!

When my babies were the age of the OP's , they wore long sleeve vests, with soft trousers or dungarees or jumpers or cardigans, as did most other babies, as most other babies do now.

It's not a choice between jeans and designer clobber or baby gros

I agree with this. There is a weird angle on this thread which is that there are only 2 extremes; babygrows or miniature versions of formal adult clothing. There is an enormous world in between.

Mine were little babies in a very middle class enclave of SE London. I saw a baby in a babygrow past 3 months or so only a handful of times. Fine if you want to but very unusual in my experience.

My phone just came up with a 'on this day last year' photo of DS aged three months. As you can see, he is wearing neither a baby gro nor stiff jeans. Mind. Blown.

A lot of adults still wear baby grows,let alone babies!!