AIBU not to sell her the clothes?

[MaggieMagpie357]

A fellow school mum has set up an online clothing company selling second hand clothes, nothing big, think more local and social media based than large online trading company.

I recently posted quite a lot of bundles of clothes for sale on FB Marketplace after an unsuccessful car boot sale, all really good quality stuff, in great condition. She has now approached me twice about buying some of these clothes.

The first time it was a dressing up costume, she didn't specify it was to sell on although I suspected that's what she might do. I joked that it wouldn't fit her daughter to give her the chance to own up and say, actually it's for my online store, but she just kept asking when she could pick it up. In the end I relented just to get rid of it, as it was a bit marked and no one else was interested in buying it.

Now she has messaged me about buying 4 more items. Part of me wants to message back and say, actually I'm not very comfortable with you buying these to sell on for your own profit. AIBU?

Bit of background - I have known this woman for 7 years, I really do not like her (which may be colouring my judgement!!!) but our daughters are friends and in the same class. I don't really see her any more as our kids are old enough to walk to school alone so no awkward school runs to worry about, but she does live nearby.

I'm torn between wanting to get rid of these clothes and definitely not wanting her to profit from my stuff - especially as she hasn't been honest about it!

What difference does it make to you, really?

Anyone else may well sell them on too though.

If you don’t want to sell to her, you could say you’re waiting for someone to collect. A white lie, and one that will make it awkward if they’re not collected.

@UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername so you wouldn't mind someone you know profiting from your stuff? I would mind much less if she was up front about it.

Yes, what difference does it make to you. So long as you get the price you ask for it.

You're being a bit wierd about this.

@Stayawayfromitsmouth probably, which is why I asked AIBU? She is not a very nice person, which is no doubt influencing my decision!

It's stuff you're selling, not giving away for free. If she's willing to pay your asking price, what difference does it make to you anyway?

Sell it to her, there's a lot less effort on your part especially if she buys a lot in one go.
I hate selling on Facebook where people mess around and don't show up, I'd much rather an acquaintance take it off of my hands.

Confused? Just ask her to buy them at whatever price you are happy to accept. If she can get more who cares?

I'd up the price

It really wouldn't bother me as I would just be happy to have sold it.

What’s the problem? You’re presumably happy that she’s paying you the amount you’re asking for. What difference does it make to you what happens to them after?

So shes offering to PAY what you asked for the items? But you don't want her to make profit from it then yes YABU

You've set a price for it, and you're being offered it. Surely that's what matters

You're cutting off your nose to spite your face, which is fine. Sit there not selling them. No one cares.

Or sell them to someone offering you the price

Or put the prices up so she can't afford them

I don’t see the problem. You’re selling, she wants to buy. What she does with them is her business. If you want to make the profit she’s making then you’ll need to put the effort into the business she’s clearly aiming to do

Don't think it's that much of an issue personally.
Surely you'd feel good getting rid of stuff that are otherwise hard to shift? Does it really matter what she does with it? I get that you don't like her but the good thing is she's essentially helping you clear the stuff!

If she is paying the price you are asking what difference does it make? Once you have sold something you don’t get to decide what happens to it. You sound a bit petty to be honest.

Are your clothes selling otherwise?

If not take her money.

Sell them on eBay yourself. I'm sure the fact you don't like her is playing a part in this but if you don't want to give her your stuff then don't. Just tell her you're selling it. Or overinflate the price so she won't want it anyway?

If you think you can get more for them, sell them for more?

I trade in second designer clothes i don’t understand if she thinks she can make money why not sell to her or you try and sell them on for more £ if you don’t want her profiting ?

Just sell them for the price you want. She might never be able to get rid of them.

So someone else can have them for the advertised price, but she cant have them??

Here's a grip...

If you are selling on FB, just block her so she can’t see your posts. Then you can post to your heart’s content 🙂

If shes prepared to pay what you're asking for the clothes then you're being ridiculous. Why does it matter what she does with them. If you think.shell make a profit selling them then up your price