DH 'baking' AIBU

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Eurgh I may be U. DH had to go out last night, he told me if I bathed DD5, he would make a marshmallow/rice crispy tray bake with her at her request to take some baking to school. Great! He made the tray bake, didn't follow any recipe but said it tasted good. DD excited. I've just gone to check it and noticed he's lined the tray with bloody cling film instead of going out and buying tin foil. That means one sticky mess as I've tried to remove it with the cling film not really judging. Now got to go and buy sweets instead to give DD something to hand out.

AIBU to say only a fool would like a tray with cling film?!

Must add, I'm a little cross right now but there won't be a huge row, by the time he's home from work it will be a jokey 'if you had a brain you would be dangerous' type teasing.

The freezer didn't work so dashed to the shop and bought sweets instead with the promise of making another tray bake with me! What I didn't add is that I had a crying DD I had to pacify because he messed up. I think he definitely added warm mixture to the cling film. I think this is one for the bin, but not before he sees for himself as if I bin it he is quite likely to say "I could have got the cling film off, easy!"!

@28dollydaydream114

You sound like bloody hard work, OP. Have you never made a tiny mistake in your life?

Only one. Ever!
I once came on Mumsnet and called a dessert a Traybake, but it didnt need to be baked so wasnt technically a Tray Bake, more a 'Tray Set'!!

Of course I make mistakes. Other posters nailed it on the head. One, he is not a helpless person he's a capable grown man and his arrogance/impatience led him to not use a recipe. That mistake didnt cost him anything. Its me who had to appease DD and squeeze in an unplanned trip to the shops so that's what I was mildly cross about. He is a good husband and father, does his share and is an active parent but sometimes little character traits bug me when I have to sort out his mess!!

argumentative tray bake is a bullshit made up American term along with cupcake.

I'm impressed he knew to line the tray 😂

I can't see anything wrong with lining a tray with clingfilm. The recipe was wrong.

This thread is making me want to make a tray set.... I've made rice krispies treats once but it wasn't as crunchy as I liked, anyone with a better recipe?

-yes I missed the point of the thread-
-yes it was annoying that he didn't follow a recipe, OP is probably going to joke about it for a day or two and then it's forgotten-

“can't see anything wrong with lining a tray with clingfilm. The recipe was wrong.“

The point is he didn’t use a bloody recipe!

The point is he didn’t use a bloody recipe!

I know 😂 You'd think that would be the basis of the complaint, but the clingfilm is what the OP is worked up about 😂

liveinahidingplace As an American I've never heard the term traybake in my life and cupcake is not an offensive term

Man fucks up.

Woman has to sort.

Counless posters "oh at least he tried"

Plus ca change.

Any reason he couldn't have sorted his own fuck up OP?

It's understandable that a 5 year old needs sympathy, a replacement and a little help with resilience when she'd expected to take in the sweets that Daddy made. It's a lot less understandable that her mother and a bunch of other grown women can't take such a minor event in their stride. It's a mistake to use clingfilm, but really just one of those things and not worth the excitement. I'm surprised it didn't come off from the freezer, but there wasn't much time so that could have been an issue.

You can get shaped baking parchment inserts for bread tins, those are perfect for any of these kinf of tasks because they're so quick to slot in and out. I can't imagine following a recipe for basic sweets though, just put in whatever's to hand and mix up until it's tasty.

Any reason he couldn't have sorted his own fuck up OP?

Guessing he was out on the plains with his manly spear catching gazelles for the family dinner, cooked by the little woman in their semi detached cave. Or otherwise unavailable to fix his own fuck up so left it to the default parent.

20% because anything he does, my mother will say he's done it wrong and re-do it. So why should he even bother doing anything

Ah yes the favourite tactic of the lazy - do stuff but do it badly leading to more work for the person picking up your slack.

What he should bother to do is learn to do stuff properly. These are adults not helpless children and there is nothing charming or amusing about useless adults.

Guessing he was out on the plains with his manly spear catching gazelles for the family dinner, cooked by the little woman in their semi detached cave. Or otherwise unavailable to fix his own fuck up so left it to the default parent.

Or he had already left for work when it was discovered?

Or he had already left for work when it was discovered?

Of course. I mean why would he think to check the product he’s made is fit for purpose. He must have been worn out with all the previous nights mallow-melting action.

*Man fucks up.

Woman has to sort.

Counless posters "oh at least he tried"

Plus ca change.

Any reason he couldn't have sorted his own fuck up OP?*

Yep, nailed it in one.

Not having a go at OP who seems to have a very balanced view of responsibilities, but to many PP who are in awe of a man who made a tray set all by himself even if he did go wrong by trying to use his immense man brain to intuit the correct proportions rather than google a recipe

If a woman posted that her DH had gone bonkers because she'd used clingfilm, the cries of LTB would be deafening.

This is just not a man/ woman issue. If my DH got this over-excited because I mildly screwed up a dish, I'd think he was deranged. Some of you really need to learn to ride the waves of life's small inconveniences much more calmly.

Poor bloke.

I've used clingfilm countless times and it's been fine, I would be pissed off if my DH had a go at me for doing so, even if it stuck to the crispy-cakes for some reason.

his arrogance/impatience led him to not use a recipe

Not using a recipe for a simple bloody fridge cake that doesn’t even need baking as a bit of spontaneous fun with your child is ‘arrogance’ now? Christ alive. I’m glad I don’t live in your house. I can’t remember the last time I weighed or measured anything for a no-bake rocky road/chocolate tiffin/marshmallow crispie type thing! I kind of thought the whole point was that you didn’t need to.

“can’t remember the last time I weighed or measured anything for a no-bake rocky road/chocolate tiffin/marshmallow crispie type thing!”
No me neither. But that’s because i’ve done it loads of times and know how to do it. He didn’t.

My DH is a pretty good cook (now) but he sometimes tries to mix things up and experiment when he is the sort of person who just needs to follow recipes (I think some people like my mother can instinctively sense when things are meant to go together or how they should be.)

On Saturday evening he said he’d make us a nice tasty satay stir fry...I walked downstairs to this godawful smell...he had decided to chuck in some chorizo with it 😖 All the oil from the meat mixing up with the soy sauce and the satay and ginger - bleugh!!

Annoyingly, he and DD devoured it! 😂

I'd probably wing it with a flapjack and despite having made it countless times can't guarantee it would turn out perfect. It doesn't mean incompetent arrogance!

Sounds like he invented a new pudding - marshmallow surprise

OP, you sound quite invested in your husband having fucked it up and it being for you to fix it. I think you should have stepped back.

I have the worst common sense with cooking and baking. I'd totally have done this

Was it a Protestant tray bake (reference to my fave MN thread ever)

Mmmmm cake

Just as a quick note, get him to make flapjacks, oats, golden syrup, butter and bake (in a greased tin) for 10 mins. Easiest thing in the world and she'll have something to hand out.
You don't sound angry, more a bit frustrated at yet another job. He's a bit of a numpty for not following a recipe