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To report to school what my DD told me about this lunchtime supervisor?

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Namechangingforthis2019 · 14/09/2019 14:03

Dd(8) told me that yesterday she saw a lunchtime supervisor take a fish finger off the tray at the serving hatch with her fingers and eat it. Dd said no other adults saw, she has seen this staff member do this before.
Would you email school and pass on what dd said?

A few bits of context -

  • I believe dd, she is not likely to have made this up
  • lunchtime supervisor has been working there about 30 years. She’s very harsh with the kids (based on what dd has told me) and anecdotally other parents have said even the staff are a bit scared of her!
  • school has an outbreak of norovirus last week so have been very hot on infection control, washing hands etc.

I know she probably didn’t touch anyone else’s food, but it’s not right is it? If nothing else it’s unprofessional and sets a bad example to the kids. But I don’t want to bother the school if it’s not really a big deal.

Would you report it or leave it?

Yabu = I should not report it
yanbu = I should email the school about it

OP posts:
icontrolthebullshitnow · 14/09/2019 15:43

This is a bit unpleasant. The dinner lady has a rep for being harsh and I'm sure we've all met one in our time. The fact something so inconsequential is noted and recounted by the child suggests OP is encouraging her "So what did harsh dinner lady do today DD?"

The correct way to deal with this when the child first ever mentioned the dinner lady was to explain some people are just friendlier than others, and that's life.

Pinkarsedfly · 14/09/2019 15:47

This thread is brill.

PlaceYourItemInTheBaggingArea · 14/09/2019 15:48

I don't think she'll commit any more crimes, she knows her plaice now, she might get battered in prison.

Nonnymum · 14/09/2019 15:52

Are you sure your DD is telling the truth? It seems very unlikely. But if it is true, does it really matter?

PlaceYourItemInTheBaggingArea · 14/09/2019 15:52

She's not called Annette is she?

kateandme · 14/09/2019 15:54

i feel this is the perfect time to bring up that everyone needs to be making the fish finger lasagne recipe if they havent already. because it is bloody marvelous!

carsonforPM · 14/09/2019 15:55

Are you sure your DD is telling the truth? It seems very unlikely. But if it is true, does it really matter?

All sounds very fishy

Bookworm4 · 14/09/2019 15:57

It’s worrying the number of parents on MN that are prepared to report/complain on the say so of a young child over very minor things. The child is always ‘sweet & sensitive’, personally never come across anyone who describes their own DC as a sweet.

PlaceYourItemInTheBaggingArea · 14/09/2019 15:57

It's very koi.

Shopkinsdoll · 14/09/2019 16:00

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Shopkinsdoll · 14/09/2019 16:00

Mother not miner

Nonnymum · 14/09/2019 16:03

A lot worse happens in schools, but I don't think there's any need to call her 8 year old DD names
Totally agree with this. I don't see anything odd about an 8 year old telling her mum this if she is talking about her day. It doesn't mean she is telling tales (hate that term anyway) why shouldnt she chat about what has happened?
But the response should be did she? Were the fish fingers nice? Or something similar. Its not really a big deal.

HugoSpritz · 14/09/2019 16:05

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Lagatha · 14/09/2019 16:06

I think she's angling to be sacked.
But the head is unlikely to take the bait.
I just feel sorry for the child who lost a fishmonger from their plate Grin

AlexaAmbidextra · 14/09/2019 16:06

So if this was at my daughter's school, that lunchtime supervisor would literally be stealing that fishmonger from a child's plate. So I would report it on that basis.

Fuck me. There’s two of them on here. 🙄

Norugratsatall · 14/09/2019 16:07

You've cod to be joking OP?!

TalentedMsRipley · 14/09/2019 16:07

You're a witch if you report.

sparkles07 · 14/09/2019 16:09
Biscuit
FindusCrispyPancakes · 14/09/2019 16:09

Yeah if she was licking it and then putting it back or if she dropped a tray of food and scraped it up and served it, you'd have something to report.

Dinner lady eats fish finger, I don't think there's a crime to report. Maybe she's hungry and struggling, maybe she couldn't resist!

Juells · 14/09/2019 16:10

Fuck me. There’s two of them on here. 🙄

😂 The world is full of busybodies who train up their children to keep an eye on the rest of us 😂

kitk · 14/09/2019 16:11

A dinner lady once told my 5yo that Satan was real. That warranted a call to the school. But this? I can't even imagine you're being serious for a minute?

MrsA2015 · 14/09/2019 16:13

Ffs are you serious

Puppytooth · 14/09/2019 16:14

What a load of pollocks.

PlaceYourItemInTheBaggingArea · 14/09/2019 16:14

They'll have to trawl through their fish finger stock due to her shellfish actions, this might just be a drop in the ocean.

I wouldn't rise to the bait, or you may find yourself in deep water and she'll get off the hook, find a bigger fish to fry. It may actually be a red- herring.

BarbariansMum · 14/09/2019 16:15

Tell your DS she's a generation or two too late - the Srasi stopped recruiting a couple of decades ago.