To report to school what my DD told me about this lunchtime supervisor?

[Namechangingforthis2019]

Dd(8) told me that yesterday she saw a lunchtime supervisor take a fish finger off the tray at the serving hatch with her fingers and eat it. Dd said no other adults saw, she has seen this staff member do this before.
Would you email school and pass on what dd said?

A few bits of context -

• I believe dd, she is not likely to have made this up
• lunchtime supervisor has been working there about 30 years. She’s very harsh with the kids (based on what dd has told me) and anecdotally other parents have said even the staff are a bit scared of her!
• school has an outbreak of norovirus last week so have been very hot on infection control, washing hands etc.

I know she probably didn’t touch anyone else’s food, but it’s not right is it? If nothing else it’s unprofessional and sets a bad example to the kids. But I don’t want to bother the school if it’s not really a big deal.

Would you report it or leave it?

Yabu = I should not report it
yanbu = I should email the school about it

@Namechangingforthis2019 if you think there is any chance you would be seen as reasonable, why would you name change for this?

Has a sniff of goady about this thread.

Oh honestly are you that sad you have to do something like this?

Jesus Christ

No, because I'm not petty.

I don't know how meals are allocated at your child's school, but at my daughter's school, we have to pre order (choice of two non veggie hot meals, two veggie hot meals, or jacket potato). This means they cook only EXACT quantities. So if this was at my daughter's school, that lunchtime supervisor would literally be stealing that fishmonger from a child's plate.

So I would report it on that basis.

Are you bothered that she's "stealing" or are you bothered that she used her fingers?

Imagine your DD being the only one to notice.

These things escalate. This week it’s a fish finger, next week it’s two chips. Before you know it the dinner ladies are playing fast and loose with sausages and the gravy jug.

Jeeze if thats all you have to worry about in life you must lead a pretty charmed life.

In the school I work at midday supervisors where often given food by the kitchen staff. Perk of the job probably the only one. Although we did eat it in the staff room after lunch, the roast where the best.
So I don't think it's really reportable offence unless they have been short on food at lunchtime.

Has a sniff of goady about this thread.

This ^ the more I think about it.

I'd contact the police. Demand that they take a statement from your daughter.

While you are waiting for the police to arrive get the crayons out and get your daughter to reconstruct the incident. Ensure that she includes the locations of all other adults and which way they were facing. She should also name other children in the area as they could be key witnesses.

Beware that your daughter may have to go to the station to identify this lunchtime supervisor from a line up.

If the police gather enough evidence to prosecute you'll be rid of this supervisor and the school will no doubt advertise for a replacement. I have no doubt they will swamped with applicants - after all who doesn't want to work part time pro-rata hours with children for BMW?

Yes, YABVU and you sound judgy.

I seriously doubt the norovirus was from one lady, more likely young kids who don't wash their hands.

It sounds like your DD knew this was something that would rile you. Do you complain about a lot of things at school?

Why on earth would you report her? I literally don’t understand?

There's another thread going with tales that children take to school which are warped/ untrue. It's a funny thread

But I wonder why some posters don't get that it works the other way too.

By all means inform the school - they’ll probably all have a good laugh about you once you put the phone down.

Hmmm...considering the widespread existence of “finger food” at events, I don’t see how someone taking a fish finger from a serving dish is any more dangerous than someone helping themselves to a sausage roll! If it’s the principle of “theft” you’re concerned about...you haven’t much to trouble you! It might well have been at the end of lunch and that fish finger was destined for dumping anyway.

I regularly nick a fishfinger off my kids plates with my fingers - i didnt know i risked giving them norovirus! Think of all the kids picking their noses, going to the toilet etc and not washing their hands - i would think thats more likely where the norovirus attack is coming from - most kids are filthy little blighters!

Start teaching your dd to get a grip from now. Seriously the pair of you sound delightful. Poor lady was just probably hungry.

@caroloro an what if someone drops a fish finger, a child goes hungry?
Cooking exact quantities is drought with issues.

Besides which, if that is what this school does, someone would have noticed that often they are missing food.

And the dinner ladies would also know that exact quantities are cooked.

I very much doubt she gets a chuckle out of seeing a kids go hungry

@JumpyLiz

Oh good grief, no of course you shouldn't report it to the school - how ridiculous

Ask your DD to prove it. You are just awful @Namechangingforthis2019

What is it recently with snitchy kids on MN running home from school and telling their parents tales about the teachers and other school staff, and the parents thinking they need to call the school right away?!

Imagine if this was real and there were people out there who actually gave a shit about nonsense like this

Christsake. I'm a lot more worried about what you've done to your daughter's head that she thinks this is something to report back to you.