First time poster, long time lurker!
I am 20 and DP is 25. We both live with our respective parents. We have a 11 month old DS (My mum is retired and minds him during the day when I get my 20 hours a week done) We are saving for a deposit to buy a house, nearly there. He works full time, I work part time. We are together 2.5 years. He takes the baby from Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon. Things are normally great but I need to know who's in the wrong here. I don't work Fridays, my parents are gone away for the weekend from this morning on a holiday that was booked well in advanced, baby has a vicious tummy bug, couldn't keep anything down so DP and I were in A+E with him for 5 hours last night, he usually goes to the pub on a Friday evening with his friends, I am quite anxious at home with the baby and caring for a sick child is all new to me so I asked this morning if he would stay home tonight to help me with DS instead of going to the pub and he didn't reply til this evening when he completely ignored the message and said 'leaving work and heading to the pub, i'll let you know when i'm home'. I left it for a few hours and then text to say I was really struggling with DS and he is very unsettled and I asked why did he blatantly ignore this message? He replied saying I should be taking it up with my parents instead of him that they left for a holiday when they knew I'd need their help because everyone knows he goes to the pub on a Friday evening.
For what it's worth, I know he is in the pub, I can see the whole night play out on his various friends Instagram stories. He spends quite a bit of time in my mums and vice versa, we both get on with each others families great. AIBU or is he being unreasonable?