Aibu to think this just isn’t right

[Deyes999]

I have lived in my house for ten years. My neighbour has never once opened his windows or curtains in that time. Other neighbours in the street who have lived here for 20 years say he hasn’t opened them since they lived here either. He is a middle aged male lives alone, comes and goes to work each day, says hello if he sees me, not enough to make conversation. He keeps to himself, He rarely has any visitors but when he does he speaks to them outside and never invites anyone in. It’s all very strange and weird, anyone else ever known anyone like this? Would you do anything

There isn't a need for a reaction. Your post is a bit weird.

Maybe the bloke is somewhere on the autistic spectrum. Or maybe he's just a bit anti social, or has mental health or sensory issues. It's not odd, normal people deal with all sorts of things. Just be kind.

I have blinds on all front windows and I rarely pull them up, no need as they let enough light through anyway.

I do open windows but the blinds still stay down.

You would think I'm weird op.

I just wanted to know how others would react What is there to react to? Mind your own beeswax!

What on earth do you mean, 'would you do anything'? What is there to do?!

He goes to work every day and he says hello if he sees you. He's living his life perfectly well. What business is it of yours if he likes to keep his curtains closed and doesn't invite people in? Just respect his privacy.

If he does happen to be a hoarder or something, I doubt he'd want his neighbour that he only knows to say a passing hello be knocking on his door trying to stage an intervention. Just keep saying hello to him like you would anyone else and leave the poor bloke alone!

I don't think it takes a nosey neighbour to notice if someone never opens their blinds, it would be glaringly obvious.

Having said that, clearly it is no one's business but the person who lives there.

My sister does this. She is a hoarder and can't reach the curtains or windows to open them because there is so much stuff in the way. It's a sad situation.

Oh god I wonder what my neighbours think about me !

I rarely have my windows open because I feel the cold really badc it could be a boiling hot day but I'll still get a little chill so never have my windows open!

Urgh. His house will stink. Probably all mouldy inside the windows too.

I just wanted to know how others would react to having a neighbour like that

I imagine most people wouldn't 'react' at all because he is perfectly fine and the fact that he doesn't open the curtains affects them in literally no way whatsoever? What do you mean a neighbour 'like that'? A neighbour who doesn't keep his house in exactly the way you keep yours?

I wouldn't react. I live my own life and mind my own business.

My neighbour has had the same three boxes of cereal positioned in view of the window since I moved here in the last century. Untouched since 1999!

I always kept my bedroom curtains shut as a lil girl, and then as a teen - in my 30's now with two little boys and I still do it. I don't know why it's just comforting and feels more "den" like, more safe. I'm double weird though because I'll open them at night a lot of the time - I like the stars and moon and twinkly lights.

Maybe I'm a vampire :[

I DO have an obsession with opening windows though, to the point of where I feel I can't breath until I do. I feel like I need to let fresh air into every single room constantly.

I rarely open my curtains.
My cats shredded my net curtains so I had to take them down and there's no point in replacing them, so opening the curtains would mean everybody can see right in.
I'm hardly there during the day anyway and keep them shut in the summer to keep the heat out, and shut in the winter to keep the heat in.

My house isn't covered in mould (what an odd comment)

Maybe he's a naturist

It is odd but maybe his cleanliness just isn't great, or he has a hoarding problem and is embarrassed, so doesn't want people to see in or he can't access the windows. Could be any amount of reasons.

Unless you think there's criminal activity going on, I'd just ignore and let him live his life. If he's not bothering you, what he does in his own space is none of your business. It's 'weird', yes, but we all live different lives and different ways.

Jesus. He keeps himself to himself and doesn't do anything disruptive to the neighbourhood.

Some people don't know when they're well-off (By that, I mean you, OP).

He must be the husband of that poster who entertained her guests by giving them a camping chair on her driveway surely?!

I rarely open the windows or the blinds. Mostly because I am not keen on the neighbours and the view is not what I would have like

React? React to what? Someone living their life and using their house how they want to.

I would be more likely to react to the neighbours gossiping about other neighbours than someone not opening their curtains.

You could be describing us here (though he doesn't live alone, so you're not). We don't open our curtains at the front because we live right on the street, and you always get nosy people looking in through the living room window.

We also tend not to invite anyone in as the house is a mess and, quite frankly, we're embarrassed. BUT, we're slowly but surely working on that. Kitchen done, living room next! And then people can come round.

Are we murders or somehow otherwise socially threatening? No.

Let the man live how he wants to live for goodness sake.

I bet he opens them early hours of the morning when all the nosey neighbours are less likely to see.

My house isn't covered in mould (what an odd comment)

It’s not odd at all. Houses that aren’t well ventilated (Which they aren’t if windows aren’t opened) retain all the moisture thats in them. From showers, kettles, perspiration, breathing! It all gets trapped on the walls and windows and mould grows. I’m a cleaner. I’ve encountered plenty of houses like this. They’re grim.

you think he's a secret vampire?

Also to the person who says his house must stink because he doesn't open windows. Why?! How judgemental is that! Unless he pisses on the floor I'm sure it's fine!

maybe he has 4 wives (I really must stop watching that program) or he is an photographer with real camera & does his own printing or he is a mad scientist & hiding his time machine or ….he is an alien & he changes back in the house to his natural state

It's up to him. He doesn't choose to be sociable, and prefers his privacy. This may be unusual, at least taken to the extremes that he seems to, but it's his right. It may indicate some mental health problem or developmental disorder; it may not. At any rate, it is not a crime! Do you think that he's hiding dead bodies in his house, or something?

Yes I grew up next to a man like this and my parents lived there for 30
Years. There was nothing wrong with him, that’s just the way he lived