DHs sister taking her family on big holiday to Florida. All park tickets paid for in advance by DSIL. Daughters split up with boyfriend. £1500 quids worth of spare tickets going for nothing.
DSIL said to DH - why don't you and miaowing come with up if you can get a flight. I run an IT business and can't get away due to deadlines and currently my business takes me away from home. We don't have kids.
DH can get return flights to Florida for £122 using his airmails that expire in two months anyway. Same flight his sisters family is on. He's on extended leave from work using up unused holiday so that's no an issue either.
I have absolutely no problem at all with DH going - I encouraged it. I see no reason why he shouldn't go.
Just had blazing row with my mother who has called him all the ungrateful selfish bastards under the sun. He shouldn't be going whilst you are sitting at home working. You earn the money in that household and he's off spending it (he earns 65K a year - I earn double that but its not like he's a kept man).
I tried telling her that when my dad was alive, she had no problem with him going off on golfing holidays. Apparently that's different.
DH and I are off to Lanzarote at the end of October anyway - we were i the Caribbean at Christmas and South of France in the summer - not like I never go on holiday.
I've said to mum that if I don't have an issue she shouldn't and all she said was "I hope it bounces all the way across the Atlantic and makes him sick".
This is going to cause long term atmosphere which I hate (the three of us normally get along really well!) but I can't see how what he's doing is a problem.