Yet again. Please. Just say what your husband’s bloody hobby is.

[AliciaQuays]

Stop all this highly irritating coyness.

There's absolutely nothing sexy about cycling. Nothing!

EspressoX10

IYHO

Others may disagree

Fishing. Men who fish choose fishing over everything. Nights away. They would rather hang around in a damp bivvy with a pack of tissues and mobile access to porn than be at home with thier dp. They are often the sort who find sex 'too much bother' as pleasing themselves is so much less hassle. Emotionally unavailable. They get a bigger kick out of kissing their fish than their wife.....Strange breed

Bitter much ?

My BIL

My dh hobby seems to be buying minute computer parts from the internet. Hopefully he's not building my robot replacement.

Vegetable gardening. No complaints there.
Local politics (labour) fine, but he will use our joint email address (which I set up over 20 years ago) so I have to delete wade through all the bloody tedious emails cluttering it up because every single one of his local party group hits 'reply all' even if they just are saying, 'yes comrade I so agree.'

And the infighting! And the flouncing!
Has to be seen to be believed, although it is quite amusing, TBH.

On re-reading my posts I think I need to make it clear that DH is definitely not JC....

In my personal experience, archery, cycling, golf, model making of all sorts, gaming, battle reenactment are prime candidates for male twattery. All really bad from a decent relationship pov.

Virtually all are male obsessions. I've participated in a lot of them at quite a high level, but never been so obsessed and never detrimental to my family life!

Oh god and yes model trains, steam engines, vintage cars, jc/tractor restoration. OK the cars I share, drove racing vintage cars back in the day, but the rest oh god no.

Gaming. Dancing. Sexting other women.

Going to the Quakers every Sunday and some Saturdays too. I went to a course with him one weekend and all the Quakers who were running this were divorced. We're not together any more. Other men I've NJ met who are involved in Church committees love it and they are judged to be 'good husbands' and the wives spend their time cooking for church events or weekends alone looking after the children.

They're all Furries.

Two genuine stories from real life.

DH’s work friend use to go fishing and night fishing to avoid family life. Wife divorced him so he no longer has a family to avoid and doesn’t see his two DC.

Another family were into cycling. One member fell off a bike and suffered serious injuries involving an operation and months’ recovery time. Another suffered horrific life changing injuries which I cannot mention as it would be outing.

That is not to say that all hobbies are risky but they need to be judged on their merits and according to how selfish they allow a participant to be.

My DH is a steam train enthusiast and likes to dress up as the Fat Controller and play trains on the local steam line and my DS is an all night online war gamer with additional tabletop war gaming time with like minded friends. My own interests are very quiet and domestic as I am a bit of a loner. I read, walk, cook, bake, make preserves, garden and look after my lovely house.

Crapping. Long and leisurely craps. 45 minutes in the toilet, multiple times a day.

Some hobbies are definitely outing - I used to show pedigree hamsters and there are only about 50 people in the country who do that, judging by attendance at shows. More women than men do it, so a post about a hamster-enthusiast husband could be pretty quickly narrowed down. Or it could be combined with a second fairly unusual hobby - I think for several years I was the only hamster club member who LARPed in the whole country.

mogtheexcellent DH is also a major consumer of tractor porn. I knew I couldn’t be alone! Hours on eBay, all of the magazines... he’s been looking for ‘the one’ as long as I’ve known him (as in, years), every now and again one comes up he we remembers from the last time it was for sale, and I am called on to look at the new advert and make interested noises. He rarely gets close to buying anything, but the garden is in limbo as we may need to create a tractor shed out of sight of the road.

Zebbie that is impressive! You are probably the only MNetter who could genuinely be outed ;-)

MrsElf my husband carries a list of car chassis/engine numbers in his head, for similar reasons!

Wow zebbie I can see how that would be outing.

This thread got me thinking of one of DH's more unusual colleagues over the years. He was into LARPing, sword/armour collecting and taxidermy. Nice fellow but quite a peculiar character. I'm sure there can't be that many people who would do those 3 plus others which I shan't list for obvious reasons.

Golf golf golf 🤦🏻‍♀️ And then for his 2 weeks annual leave this summer in between golf he became obsessed with tracing his family tree...then mine. I couldn’t give a toss and would have much preferred some of the jobs around the house being done. I really need a hobby!

I agree it's always cycling. The pain in my life trying to go to work in the mornings and I'm stuck behind a cyclist. I always think to myself whose annoying mn husband is this

@HepzibahGreen

Also, have you no shame?

Is this directed at me? I don’t understand.

@HepzibahGreen If you’re meaning have I no shame for having some active pursuits as hobbies, then no. I’ve gone from an unfit divorced mother of two with lifelong mental health difficulties to a fitter, happier me with better mental health and a better example to my kids.
So. Not ashamed, no

Crapping. Long and leisurely craps. 45 minutes in the toilet, multiple times a day.

This, the gym, and anything that involves knackered old LandRovers.