Yet again. Please. Just say what your husband’s bloody hobby is.

[AliciaQuays]

Stop all this highly irritating coyness.

I don't mind cyclists, we have lots on the road round here, all suitably Lycra clad, proper lights, helmets, glow in the dark clothing BUT I have just come across the twattiest cyclist I have seen for a very long time. No helmet or Lycra, just baggy tracksuit and cycling with his hands in his pocket, swerving all over the road at regular intervals. I really was willing him to fall off. Idiot.

My ex's hobby was looking at himself in shiny reflections and smiling.

Hubby cycles to work (So I have car )!.However also wants to do 70 mile cycle at W/E!.Has 4 bikes ,a couple spare !.At least not wearing lycra yet!

Making models of London Buses and painting tiny people in them?

(obviously a lie)

I do sometimes wonder which of the men at my cycling club have wives / partners who have written about them on Mumsnet

Definitely cycling. I see them on the roads and think, there goes some poor MNs husband.

Yep.

I can't go past a cyclist these days without thinking immediately of MN.

If he's cycling 70 miles in a session there's lycra under the normal clothes.

So so so so so so so annoying.

And then it turns out to be something completely non-descript, like cycling or football or going to the gym.

Aaaargh.

And people without hobbies can be selfish and even abusive. the partner who insists you give up all your interests because you need to prioritize 'The Relationship' or 'Family Time' and never have a minute to yourself is a partner who needs dumping.
Even when DC are small it's usually feasible for each partner to manage an evening a week or one weekend afternoon to do something that only benefits them. (OK when you are BFing, or in the very new newborn days, you might have to pause your social life for a little while). And yes, there are some people, usually men, who insist on taking all the available leisure time on the family calendar for themselves and, even worse, the ones who don't just take the whole of every weekend to do their thing, but demand their wives bring the DC along so everyone can watch Daddy run about or perform, and be prepared to tell him how wonderful he was afterwards.

Metal detecting.... Like cycling, takes all day (either a Saturday or a Sunday) every weekend when the weather is OK. Then he comes home covered in mud and finding generally lots of buttons!!!!

Agree reanimated. Would rather have a fit healthy happy man with his own interests than the opposite hanging around waiting for me to entertain

The only time we watched dh hobby was when he won a competition and we got to watch a bike race in London in a corporate hospitality thing with free food and drink. He wasn’t in it himself obviously but Bradley Wiggins etc. That was fun. And the only time we’ve been involved

I'd not heard people use the word hobby until I started reading Mumsnet. People I know just name the activity. Last time probably used Hobbies was writing it in a teenage CV

I'd not heard people use the word hobby until I started reading Mumsnet. People I know just name the activity. Last time probably used Hobbies was writing it in a teenage CV

Same here, I usually think of them as interests.

ReanimatedSGB
I agree with you. I think it's just as bad to be the smothering "all time must be couple time or family time" type as it is to be someone who pays no consideration for your partner. Both are unpleasant and controlling.

If DH ever had a problem with me pursuing my interests then I'd be telling him where to go. Equally, I'm sure he'd give me a reality check if I started deciding that me having no interests gave the the right to demand he spend all his time at home.

I find some of the posts on hobbies and interests absolutely depressing. Then again, this thread aside, maybe most people in equitable and fair relationships in this respect don't post on MN lots, but those who have genuinely selfish husbands or are the whiny martyr "the world would cave if I had a hobby" types tend to post more (and the two probably feed off each other a bit).

Writing sketches for hospital show and being in it.
Come Christmas, all my high heeled shoes have gone and most of my nice tights.
Bugger him, he's got nicer ankles than I have.
He was Tina Turner last year, singing his heart out in a hideous blonde wig.
But secretly, quite proud of him

Ardent PigletJohn spotter (from afar) here. Would like to know the real hobby PJ does. Then promptly sign up for all weekend evening courses because that would be the coolest thing in the world ... to do the same hobby as PJ.

my OHs hobby is his motorbike which i dont mind as i get to ride on it too to nice places

@Whataliberty MY DH would LOVE to go metal detecting. Secretly so would I but I think it’s just one too many episodes of the talking.

I can't say DPs because it really is outing. But I only let him indulge in it because he takes the kids with him most of the time

Flying. Aerobatic flying, competition aerobatic flying. Racing in the red bull races flying,
Really proud of him.....

Why do people want their husbands to cut down or give up their hobbies, dont they have lives of their own or does it all revolve around being together, sad!
Been married 34 years and have always done our own things.

Where I live there seems to be a lot of people with hobby jobs,

We used to have a hobby farm near us - don't know if it's still there.
The lawn outside was cut into perfect stripes, the haystack looked like it had been built using a set square, the perfect smattering of sheep in the field, the gleaming DK-style tractor in the dustless yard... even the (beautifully groomed collie) dog barked with an estuary accent.

A live 'Home and Country' photoshoot, it was!

a keen cyclist I know once told me he'd lost 8 of his friends to being run-over by impatient drivers

And yet he was still keen? 8 people dead in a ditch and he was still doggedly cycling? Needs to get a new hobby I reckon.