Man in post office made me cry... somehow!

[OneSliceIsNeverEnough]

Sigh this is such a non issue but it made me cry I just need to write it down.

Feeling hot dizzy and sick in the post office queue, swaying back and forth to ease the quease and gently rocking the front facing pushchair.

Man at the counter taking a while to get served, chatting to the lady, then turns around to pull a funny face or something at DS, I didn't really look, I was focussing on not falling down. DS 15 month has a thing for ladies somehow so I'm not sure if he smiled at this man but as for me I was looking away probably looking quite sick. He's standing about 8 feet away and didn't address me.

He turned back to the lady at the counter and said something about "she" and I thought oh ok people thinking DS is a girl again - happens sometimes. But the lady said "no, I think she looks tired". Still not totally sure which of us they were talking about and then the lady at another counter called me over and as I went to move I heard him say to the lady serving him "a smile costs nothing does it?"

This made me stop and I opened my mouth to speak like some kind of puffa fish but I thought what am I going to say? I apologise for being 8 weeks pregnant and feeling sick? I decided I didn't want to have to use pregnancy to apologise for myself when I hadn't done anything wrong. He can think what he likes but is there a need to say that within earshot?

I went over to the other counter and held up my money and somehow just burst into huge sobs. Gosh it was awful I was so embarrassed. The lady had to give me a load of tissue and I couldn't even raise my head.

Ill or not, do I really have to engage with everyone? I didn't scowl or frown at him.

I scurried away and he tried to cut me off but I just said "you didn't need to be so rude about me" and turned away.

Not to drip feed I've previously spoken about my one but really I'm not going to give this bloke a list of my ailments in the middle of the post office. Maybe I need a baby on board badge like in London.

I hope I don't bump into him again. And the lady in the post office sees me all the time I hope she won't say anything ☹

Sorry for the ramble.

@Ididit2019, if that's the case why is it always young Women who they target?

I had it said to me in hospital (visiting my dying DH) numerous times, in my 30's. There were plenty of older Women sitting looking alone, but no, they target the younger ones. They don't engage in conversation that's appropriate, they just try to flirt or give orders.

Why does it stop when we age?

I see this shit now being directed at my DDs.

Pressure to smile.

Ididit. Just no.

He was a complete an utter unsympathetic twatty twunt.

Perhaps more will realise, and hopefully him, was a stupid and pointedly rude thing it is to say.

Does he, and other males, walk around with grins plastered over their faces?

Maybe one could say it to someone trying to sell them something with a poor attitude.

Its a rebuttal to someone who hasn't taken enough notice of them, #hurtyboyz.

Yup. I’ve sat and absolutely sobbed messaging a fiend about recent MC whilst in the playground. Only to hear “people on their phones can’t even watch their damn kids” because my daughter was in the middle of the slide stuck (literally stuck to it because had shorts on lol)

Ponoka7 I'm so sorry for your loss. In a hospital whilst sat crying is a completely different situation to a lack of a smile in a queue. For that kind of lack of common sense in such a setting such name calling is deserved.